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To consider cancelling my holiday because of the EES?

489 replies

idontwanttogoanymore · 30/05/2026 22:21

I just can’t cope with this stress. I will be travelling alone and I can’t afford (literally or mentally) to miss a flight because of this system.

I just don’t want to go. It’s looming over me. I did it in February going into Norway, but that makes no difference. You’re still in the queue for hours. I’m flying with Ryanair and they only open their bag drop 2 hours before, they’re now saying three hours to get through. So it’ll be literally impossible.

OP posts:
simpsonthecat · 31/05/2026 09:10

I cannot imagine cancelling a holiday, losing money, probably a lot... for something that given the odds, won't happen.
Very odd indeed.

ITMA2000 · 31/05/2026 09:09

idontwanttogoanymore · 30/05/2026 22:32

It’s just heartbreaking. I’ve had this holiday planned for a year and now I can’t go because of fucking Brexit, which I’ve never agreed with. It’s maddening

So a few hours delay going on holiday trumps the benefits of Brexit, which include taking control of our own laws, no longer having unelected politicians, making our own trade deals around the world, and controlling our borders?
I think you will find most people think a border delay is a price worth paying!

Ryanstartedthefire2 · 31/05/2026 09:09

How do you deal with hardship in your life if minor things like this get you so upset? You just go and enjoy it!

Gazelda · 31/05/2026 09:07

So what are you going to do OP?

cancel and be miserable. Blame the EU, Starmer, Ryanair for your lost holiday?

or read up some more, listen to the advice and reassurance you’ve received on this thread?

oh, and you should maybe think about how you respond to posters who’ve tried to be kind and give heartfelt advice /experience. Some of your replies have been rude and seen bullying where there is none.

ChiliFiend · 31/05/2026 09:06

dewne · 30/05/2026 22:40

It's literally nothing to do with Brexit

You do realise the rules are for people who aren't EU nationals, right? If the OP is a British citizen then the fact she has to follow the new rules is a direct result of Brexit. It's depressing that this isn't blindingly obvious.

OP, you are massively overreacting. Check in online on the Ryanair app. Then drop your bags (bag drop definitely opens more than two hours before departure). As others have said, every non-EU citizen is in the same boat as you and going on holiday as normal (including myself, currently in Italy).

ilovesooty · 31/05/2026 09:04

idontwanttogoanymore · 31/05/2026 09:03

Lots of lovely bullies on this thread!

Oh for goodness sake. If you think any of the replies to you breach the talk guidelines, report them.

simpsonthecat · 31/05/2026 09:04

How weird to call people disagreeing with you, and citing examples of no problem with queues... as bullying

5arkypants · 31/05/2026 09:04

I flew Ryanair a couple of weeks ago. The queue at the check in was massive when we arrived 2.5 hours early. We got in the queue and it was 25mins and they let us check bag a bit early. Don’t panic.

Renphoaddict · 31/05/2026 09:03

Went through Madrid yesterday - dh on his British passport and ds and I on our Irish. It was quite challenging because there was really no one around managing massive crowds. Dh got to the kiosk eventually to discover they already had his fingerprints so he should have just gone to queue up at the gate. Ds and I glided through with our EU passports, picked up the luggage for everyone - sussed out where to catch the transit bus, then briefed dh so he wasn't wasting time and we made it to our onward transportation with enough time for a sandwich - we were channeling race around the world vibes - a bit.😅

idontwanttogoanymore · 31/05/2026 09:03

Lots of lovely bullies on this thread!

OP posts:
Namechangeforthisdilemma1 · 31/05/2026 09:01

Yes you would if that was who you booked with. That’s literally why people use travel agents and don’t just book themselves 🤣

fancytoes · 31/05/2026 09:00

God, some people are so bananas. I bet you don’t cancel your holiday. Do come back and let us know, won’t you?

Datgal · 31/05/2026 09:00

AmethystDeceiver · 30/05/2026 22:35

Why would Ryanair do something that means every single person flying with them will miss their flight??

@idontwanttogoanymore you're being unreasonable and your anxiety has got the best of you. If you think to yourself - it works for the majority of other people - will your brain get to: so it will probably work for me?

That's what I do when I have this kind of anxiety

Ryanair are cunts. They'd probably still fly and not refund anyone, citing that security issues are not their problem!
They did similar during COVID with us.
They flew EMPTY planes, rather than cancel them so they didn't have to refund anyone. This was during a period of govt saying no travel unless absolutely necessary.

Fast800goingforit · 31/05/2026 08:59

It's an extreme reaction to cancel flights/holiday.

Fast800goingforit · 31/05/2026 08:57

idontwanttogoanymore · 30/05/2026 22:26

They have literally just said on the news you need to be through security three hours before your flight, but Ryanair make that a physical impossibility.

They haven't. It was recommended that travellers allow 3 hours at the airport before the time of their flights.

simpsonthecat · 31/05/2026 08:55

Seriously OP, if you have just started this thread to have a go at Starmer, you are failing badly!

ALL airlines put out info saying turn up 3 hours before, they were doing that before EES. They just like to cover themselves.

I fly back and forth from Europe a lot, the most I have waited was about 30 minutes. Often straight through. My DD, her partner and baby flew last week, bit of a queue but about 40 minutes, and only because of baby.

If you are going to cancel a holiday because you might have to queue, that's up to you!

previouslyknownas · 31/05/2026 08:55

Just interested
how do you manage in everyday life
Because the way your acting isn’t normal
no normal person would get this stressed about something millions of people do every day of the week

I mean if your this stressed about going on holiday
it’s not worth it if you are getting this anxious

just stay at home - make a GP appointment for your anxiety because your not being normal or rational

Duvetdayneeded · 31/05/2026 08:53

With all due respect OP, you’ve got issues. Just get to the airport early and hope that you’ll be one of the millions who get through without any grief of any kind. Dont overcomplicate this

Stoicandhappy · 31/05/2026 08:53

I’m not sure if OP is mentally unwell, suffering from extreme anxiety, or if she is trying (and massively failing) to make a political point.

Assuming it’s the former, remind yourself that the vast majority of travelers are getting around seamlessly. You are catastrophising about something that’s very unlikely to happen.

I am wondering if there is something else going wrong in your life and you have fixated on this, rather than facing the real issue?

Strumpetpumpet · 31/05/2026 08:53

We had an awful time flying into Rome and out of Naples recently. We’re going to Norway in July and we have to change flights in Oslo. The first thing I did when we got home from Italy was to change our Norway flights to increase the amount of time between them. - cost a fortune and involved booking an additional night in Oslo on the way home, but the other alternative would have been to cancel the holiday, as I would have spent the whole time worrying about the journey so I don’t blame you op. It’s a shitshow - yet another brexit benefit.

MeltyMomenrs · 31/05/2026 08:53

idontwanttogoanymore · 31/05/2026 08:44

Not a troll. Just someone who’s concerned.

Travel agents wouldn’t be the first person you call. Especially at a weekend.

Why didn't you start off by saying you just wanted a rant & an argument, people could have saved their energy trying to reassure you & help you.

you know best, clearly.

Just stay here & spend your birthday moaning about Brexit & Starmer...

Jammin8 · 31/05/2026 08:53

idontwanttogoanymore · 31/05/2026 08:44

Not a troll. Just someone who’s concerned.

Travel agents wouldn’t be the first person you call. Especially at a weekend.

Are you bringing deliberately antagonistic and/or obtuse?

My sister in law has her own travel business and if any of her clients have travel issues she is the first person they call. This includes missed flights, issues with insurance and airport parking.

Chilly80 · 31/05/2026 08:53

I've just been to Tenerife with Children arrived 2 hours before yes there was a queue but didn't miss my flight. Adults could use machines and didn't need to see a person.

notacooldad · 31/05/2026 08:48

I went to Spain 3 weeks ago alone to meet my friend. There was a bit of a queue going through but no problem. Me and Dh went to italy a week ago. There was some slight confusion. Dh did his details and was handed a green card but I wasn't. I was directed to one passport control, dh to another. No problem. We came back last night with no issues what's so ever.

We arrived at the airport 3 hours in advance in truthfully we ended up way too early. Our luggage was dropped off in miutes and the longest bit was walking from baggage drop off to security!.
Ds went to Czech Republic on Monday. He WhatsApped us for a chat, again no problem at all.
You are making this into your own catastrophe.

loveawineloveacrisp · 31/05/2026 08:46

Arrived into Malaga earlier this month and registered with the new system and it was honestly the quickest I've ever been through that airport. Around 40 mins from getting off plane we were in our taxi. Don't know what all the fuss is about.

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