AIBU to think 33 is not too late to start TTC?

I hadn't even met my DH at 33. Conceived first time aged 38 and have heard similar from various friends who have had babies in late 30s/early 40s. I would have liked more DC (which I didn't expect until I had them) and so wish I had started earlier but as said hadn't met DH.

I don't think its too late. I had mine at 36 and 41, took 6 months to conceive both times.

DD1 at 33 DD2 at 37 like many of the PPs above

Wishing you luck

”I’m sure she’ll be fine” in the sense that statistically
speaking that is true. 90% of UK couples at age 33 conceive within 2 years.

The point is, she is already 33. She is seeking assurances for decisions she has already made.

What’s the point? Op wants to feel better about her decisions but only a fertility clinic can actually do that and even then with fairly wide margins of error.

The thing is OP, at any age it might take 1 try or it might take 10 years 🤷‍♀️ But if you are asking if generally it is too late, a quick google of the average age of first time mothers in the uk will tell you that it isn’t.

I was 33 and 35 when I had mine. No problems at all. But you won’t know until you start trying. Also it’s not just down to you. You need healthy sperm too.

Your post is interesting where you say that you're sure she'll be fine, on what basis are you sure?

Threads like these are baffling to me, no one's fertility is affected by anyone else's experience, so what if I know someone who had three healthy children over the age of 40?

If the OP has trouble conceiving is she going to say to the doctors, loads of mumsnet posters told me it would be fine, what's the problem?

There's an overwhelming amount of stats online to look up but again no use in predicting an individual's future

Obviously…

Completely normal in my world. No one here can tell you if it will happen or not. I’d recommend coming off any hormonal contraceptives in advance so your natural cycle can come back; and you can track jt. Use condoms until you are ready. Remember a year is normal, dont panic or obsess too much. It’s better to be prepared for it to take a while - that doesnt mean anything js wrong. And obviously remembering how common miscarriages are, having a miscarriage meant it took an extra 8-9 months before we had our daughter. Also doesnt mean anything is ‘wrong’. I’d start trying whilst you are on your trip!

Well, what other choice do you have? What if people said yes it’s too late. You can’t turn back time can you?

And it’s not that important if you’re prioritising holidays first. You are clearly making a plan that suits you.

I’m sure you’ll be fine and if you’re not, that’s life.

It isn't really about naivety so much as luck.

It is absolutely fine for many.

The truth is we never know if we have fertility issues until we try.

If you do, then yes, it is late, but in that case you may have struggled at 23. Or you may be fine at 43 ...

I think the most accurate answer is if there is an issue, the difference between 33 and 34 will not be make or break. Is that what you are really asking (about the holiday)?

Sorry, but how dense do you have to be to post this?

I met DH when I was 25 and we didn’t TTC until I was 40. We now have a wonderful DS.

We were probably lucky through as no guarantee at that age. 33 sounds fine to me.

There’s no perfect time where everything is aligned.
If it were me and I knew I was with the right person I wouldn’t deliberately delay.
As a minimum I’d pay for a full fertility MOT check for both.

No, not too late at all. I had my third at 33. I’d get cracking though, your fertility ain’t going anyway but down.

This is exactly what has happened within my friendship group too, except I was the 28 year old that had the shock pregnancy haha

Absolutely not BU. I started ttc at 34. It took a while, I had been on the depo jab for 10 years.

Had dc1 a few weeks before my 38th birthday, dc2 at 39.

We started at 31 and it took us 3 years with our first. Second baby conceived at 37 and only took 2 months. I wouldn’t leave it much longer if I were you but you’re not planning to anyway.

The thing is, it can take years when yo u start in your 20s too. Some of those people who struggled when they finally started in their 30s would always have had a difficult time.
I had ds1 at 33 after some years trying, but also, I never got pregnant accidentally (thank god!) despite being shit with contraception and having had sex in and off from 17. If I had someone else's fertility I reckon I'd have needed up pregnant in my early 20s.

Get married and have hols, honeymoon, life etc. But don't equate that with having a family. I didn't get married to have a family, love is the reason. Kids are a bonus

33 is a very standard age to start trying (I did at 32)

I started at 34 had 4 miscarriages, had my LG 6 months away from my 40th, unfortunately you never know what road blocks your going to come to until the ttc journey begins.

My mum married at 34 and had me 9 months later.

I was just 38 when my son was born. Partner 45 with 2 children already. I hadn't met anyone I would have had children with before meeting him. Downside is you're menopausal with a teenager. So what. Go for it.