AIBU not to answer the door about the neighbour's fence?

Exactly. While it is true to say that there are many reasons why people might not like answering their door in general, so far as we can tell none of them apply here. The OP just didn't fancy opening her door at that time. That's fine and is her prerogative. But to then get worked up about the fact that the neighbour, who knew full well that the OP was in, who had previously spoken to the OP about the fence, and who probably just wanted to get on with, knocked more than a couple of times, is mad. It is an utterly normal, foreseeable and benign consequence of the OP not just answering her door the first time.

I don't know if you are referring to me as "some people", but I have plenty of empathy. I have empathy for the neighbour who is trying to crack on and put things right in just maintaining the property and making sure his dog doesn't go into a neighbour's garden, and the OP of this thread - who obviously would have said if she had any reason not to open the door - is being bloody awkward and trying to make out the neighbour is odd.

It was persistent only because you didn't answer......

Absolutely fine not answering the door!!! Of course you have the right not to! You don't open and move on with your evening. I understand. But to make a thread about them pointing at the house and them being weird for knocking at the door after they saw the OP in the window? Knowing they were most likely neighbours talking about a fence that is down for weeks? What is weird or abnormal about this? Is the OP trying to make out people to be creeps that baffles me. This, I don't understand!

Fair enough, @TheLovelinessOfDemons

Try answering it

I don't have issues with people but I still don't like talking to people. That's from years of anxiety about being stared at and commented on because my mannerisms and speech are different from NT people's. As I said, I was using an example of one of the many reasons people don't like talking to people.

Read the last sentence. I said there are lots of reasons why people don't like answering the door. Even just autism on its own can make people anxious about answering the door, or the phone. Some people on MN have no empathy.

It’s not relevant, because op knew exactly who was at the door and why they were there.
She’s even happy to pay half the costs in the interests of being neighbourly, so has no issues with these people whatsoever.

Haha, this is exactly what I thought! You absolutely knew why they were knocking and who they were so I have no idea why you wouldn’t have answered. I totally get not answering when it’s a stranger, I have a ring to avoid precisely this but you knew and still avoided it!

But she is giving an example of why you may not want to answer the door, so it's a relevant comment.

Sorry to hear that, but that is nothing like the situation the OP has posted about.

I'm autistic, live on my own and have a neighbour who gets pissed and smokes weed regularly, he terrifies me when he starts ranting. There are lots of reasons why people don't like answering the door.

Cant imagine this level of over reaction. A neighbour knocked after seeing you were in to discuss a broken fence theyve mentioned before.

Open the door. Ignore the door.

Jeez I wish this was my biggest problem

Ummm…no? I’d assume they discussed that I’m the neighbour they need to talk to about this fence, hence the pointing at my house and the subsequent knock. What exactly did you think was the reason that made you come to the conclusion it was strange?

Not at all if I knew there was a fence that needed repair. I'd assume that the person had got someone round to look at the fence, was saying "oh but it's shared with that neighbour so they need to agree to that the style, colour and price of fence is ok, and will be happy to share the cost." If they suspect you are in, want to discuss something that benefits you too, and have someone there who is helping them with said thing and doesn't normally live with them or anything, the persistent knocking was probably because they knew you were in and didn't want the ridiculous hassle of having to come round again.

I’ve just come across this thread, and oh my… 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

I don't understand what do you want OP. You said they were weird for pointing at your house even though you knew there was a fence down and they are talks with neighbour to fix it. What is weird about that? I would asume they pointed at the house they need permission from to come in and fix the fence. You didn't want to answer, that is fine, that is your choice. But why make a thread about them being weird when you knew what it was about? They knocked several times as they saw you home and they thought you didn't hear. Again, what is so weird about this? You then go and pick fights with everyone who said you were the weird one. You are not weird for chosing not to answer the door, well a little but let it slide as we all have right to privacy, but to start a thread and make something that isn't there for what? What do you need from this thread? Afirmation? No, they weren't weird at all, that is normal interaction when you live in a community.

No, not strange - they were probably coming round to clarify that they were discussing the fence and to reassure you that was all. But it's reasonable to not want any hassle when you've had a drink so YANBU to want to wait for another time to discuss it. Keep an open mind, don't assume the worst and be pleasant when they next bring it up.

Why would you have to pay half? Not your fence.

And yeah I don’t think you have to be available to chat at any point of the day. We have gates on the front of our house so people can’t even get to the door. Our ring doorbells on the outside - it doesn’t work so it’s bloody perfect. Unless we know someone’s coming (family who know how to get in) you can’t get to us 😂

They could have been trying to let you know you have a tiles missing or loose or damage to chimney or roof?

This not answering the door malarkey is just so weird! 🤷‍♀️

I’m with you OP. Sometimes you don’t have the time or patience to deal with a neighbour complaining about something 😆

I imagine they kept knocking as they’d seen you and thought you couldn’t hear but they should have taken the hint and left.

they could put a note through your door if it’s anything urgent?

It’s not just about whether someone’s busy though, OP thought the people knocking were rude to come to her property. Rude in what way exactly?