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Sharing room on a work trip

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HandsFaceTeeth · 30/05/2026 19:38

I’m going on a work trip that involves an overnight stay. On the original request form, I said I did not want to share a room and would happily pay the difference to have my own room. A recent email said that attendees would be sharing twin rooms in the hotel. I do not know anyone else attending. AIBU to not want to share a room with a stranger? I don’t even share a room when I go away with good friends!

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Buzzlightfear · 30/05/2026 22:10

I travel a lot for work and not a chance would I do this. I once shared a 2 bedroom apartment with a colleague who was also a good friend, that was perfect for a longish trip but not a cat in hell's chance would we have shared an actual bedroom.

One of my colleagues once refused a twin room to himself because he wouldn't sleep in a single bed. That's probably a bit excessive 😄but you're definitely not being unreasonable

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 30/05/2026 22:03

The first business trip I went on was in the late 80s and I've been on countless others since. I've seen the insides of a lot of hotels. At no point has anyone ever suggested I share. If they need me to be there they can pay for me to have my own room.

MauriceTheMussel · 30/05/2026 22:03

No way.

SayMyNameSayMyNames · 30/05/2026 22:03

BCBird · 30/05/2026 22:00

No. This is unacceptable

This.

Don’t make excuses or try and meet them half way. The more you say the more they can objection handle.

No. End of.

Your reason are your own!

FlowerSticker · 30/05/2026 22:02

fashionqueen0123 · 30/05/2026 21:42

Haven’t you ever been in a hotel with your kids?

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Loads of people have never been in hotels... And loads of people haven't had family holidays in hotels, there are many other choices for family accommodation.

FlowerSticker · 30/05/2026 22:00

DurinsBane · 30/05/2026 21:56

So you put your 3 year old in a room without an adult?

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Millions of people do this every day.... ?

It's not like PP said the 3 year old would be in their own hotel room. She only said she wouldn't share a room with them. So presumably they would go to places like holiday apartments or cottages or caravans or whatever, a d the children sleep in their own room. Not have them sleeping in Room 432, whilst she sleeps in room 138.

BCBird · 30/05/2026 22:00

No. This is unacceptable

Zanatdy · 30/05/2026 21:59

Our company would never expect adults to share rooms. I sleep so badly, I just wouldn’t go.

DurinsBane · 30/05/2026 21:56

TheChosenTwo · 30/05/2026 20:01

Absolutely no way.
im shocked this has been blithely accepted by others tbh.
I hate sharing a room with anyone at any time (I tolerate dh 😂), would never share with my dc on holiday even for one night once they got over the age of about 2.
I sleep naked, that’s not appropriate with colleagues in the room for all manner of reasons. But also my time is my time when I’m not working. You are entitled to privacy.

So you put your 3 year old in a room without an adult?

Ineffable23 · 30/05/2026 21:56

There are a very small number of circumstances when I would consider this - basically is it broadly speaking a jolly, would I otherwise be unable to attend, can I share with someone I know reasonably well, and is it only a couple of nights? The answer would need to be yes to all of the above for me to be prepared to do it, otherwise it would be a no from me.

Papster · 30/05/2026 21:54

Go to see HR
Show them this

www.scientificamerican.com/article/are-sleepwalking-killers-conscious/

Tell them in confidence that you sleepwalk and have been known to commit acts of violence. Luckily your DH is trained in self defence and keeps restraints at hand at night.

Theres no way you’ll be made to share.

If word gets out you have the dual pleasure of telling colleagues it was a ruse that worked and of suing your company for a breach of medical confidentiality

Nurseposter123 · 30/05/2026 21:53

HandsFaceTeeth · 30/05/2026 19:38

I’m going on a work trip that involves an overnight stay. On the original request form, I said I did not want to share a room and would happily pay the difference to have my own room. A recent email said that attendees would be sharing twin rooms in the hotel. I do not know anyone else attending. AIBU to not want to share a room with a stranger? I don’t even share a room when I go away with good friends!

I travel for work a LOT and it's not a company with a lot of money and I would NEVER share a room. Utter madness.

tigger1001 · 30/05/2026 21:52

It's a no for me. No way would I be sharing with colleagues never mind ones I didn't know.

own room or not going would be my options for my boss.

peepsypops · 30/05/2026 21:47

It’s an absolute no - never in a million years. I would 100% go to HR on that one.

Hatty65 · 30/05/2026 21:44

Colleagues could raise their eyebrows as much as they liked.

Hell would freeze over before I share a room with anyone I work with. It's utterly inappropriate to suggest it.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 30/05/2026 21:43

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!

YourPoliteTurtle · 30/05/2026 21:43

to put it politely, fuck no!

fashionqueen0123 · 30/05/2026 21:42

TheChosenTwo · 30/05/2026 20:01

Absolutely no way.
im shocked this has been blithely accepted by others tbh.
I hate sharing a room with anyone at any time (I tolerate dh 😂), would never share with my dc on holiday even for one night once they got over the age of about 2.
I sleep naked, that’s not appropriate with colleagues in the room for all manner of reasons. But also my time is my time when I’m not working. You are entitled to privacy.

Haven’t you ever been in a hotel with your kids?

fashionqueen0123 · 30/05/2026 21:40

Goodness I did this once 20 years ago (and it wasn’t standard my boss was only being kind so I could go on the trip) but wouldn’t do it now and I can’t believe a company in this day and age would do it.

MiddleAgedDread · 30/05/2026 21:40

Not in a million years!!

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HandsFaceTeeth · 30/05/2026 21:39

@CleanornotcleanAgree and I’m on it.

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Cleanornotclean · 30/05/2026 21:33

@HandsFaceTeeth As it’s a huge, profitable multinational organisation then surely your first stop is HR to find out who approved this?

YourWinter · 30/05/2026 21:32

Absolutely not. I won’t share a room.

AgnesMcDoo · 30/05/2026 21:30

It’s completely unacceptable these days to require colleagues to share rooms. I wouldn’t go.

PepsiBook · 30/05/2026 21:29

No way in hell would I do this.
Why on earth are you offering to pay for a work hotel? It's not a fun night away. If a night stay over is required, then the company must pay. That's extremely unreasonable to ask you to share a room.