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To wonder why this is 'common'?

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Ellbee83 · 30/05/2026 18:41

I live in an end-terrace house, with a small front yard/garden which I've made as nice as I can with plants, garden furniture, a few fairy lights.
It's south-facing so for (literally!) a few months of the year when the weather allows, if I'm at home and not busy, it's lovely to sit out in the morning with a coffee, or in the evening with a book & glass of wine.
It's genuinely one of my simple pleasures, it's nice to watch the world go by, smile at passers-by, idly chat with the neighbours if they're around but mostly 100% minding my own business and enjoying my own outdoor space.

Yesterday evening, my neighbour (72f) from 3 doors down went past, walking her dogs. She stopped to chat as we often do - the weather, how the flowers are doing, that sort of thing, nothing major! She then went on to tell me how she wouldn't dream of sitting out in her front garden as she'd been taught it was 'common'. I laughed in surprise and said 'Oh, am I being common?' to which she laughingly agreed I was!

Now, tbh, I found it waaaay more common that she'd be so rude but I'm curious - is sitting out in the sun, in your own front garden seen as 'common'?
Not too bothered either way and I'll carry on doing it but I've restricted myself to the back garden today 🫤

Interested to hear opinions!

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Stressedandgrey · 30/05/2026 18:46

This is done in both my mum and sister's streets.. they have small back yards that are north facing with high walls and never ever get the sun. Like you they have made it nice int rh little front garden with flowers in pots/a little bench etc.

I imagine it's seen as common to those who can afford to have a large sunny back garden. But you are absolutely right to make the most out of the space you have... Just enjoy it and take no notice.

VaultandSinagain · 30/05/2026 18:45

Traditionally, yes. Front gardens are to be seen and not used. Back gardens are for using. It’s a privacy thing, I think.

ShanghaiDiva · 30/05/2026 18:44

I think it’s not usual to sit in the front garden as it’s not as private, but imo only ‘common’ if you are sitting on the doorstep in a grey vest with a beer belly, fag in your mouth and a can of 4X at 9.30 in the morning.

OneDreamyGreenMentor · 30/05/2026 18:44

I’ve always heard it’s common however I couldn’t give less of a crap, I’d happy sit in my front garden as it gets sun in the morning