AIBU to feel anxious about my husband playing tennis with a woman?

Do you actually have any knowledge of tennis culture before going on a pseudo feminist rage-fuelled rant?

This has absolutely nothing to do with whether she's "allowed" go to a dinner party alone but everything to do with club etiquette. If someone wants to play for the sake of playing but don't have a partner, they pay for a trainer. It's that simple. They don't usually pair up with someone who they don't know very well, let alone one of the opposite sex. It's tacky because it implies they're trying to save money by cutting out the trainer and if someone is wealthy enough to join a club, they should be able to afford a lesson. It's also customary for tennis partners to go for a drink after the game so agreeing to play with someone you don't know that well is an unspoken agreement to form a closer friendship together.

Gosh all these people getting their knickers in a twist who clearly have zero experience with tennis! It's not the same as padel, football, yoga, running or cycling where people may pair up for the sake of convenience.

OP says she has zero interest in tennis so she probably isn't familiar with club politics. I have a DH who has played tennis for 35+ years, been a member at countless different clubs and currently two different clubs. I'm just giving an objective opinion of how a female pairing herself up with male she doesn't know well is somewhat of a red flag. It might be completely harmless of course, but it's definitely not something that happens very often and will raise a few eyebrows.

Of course it might also differ based on club, but in most places, people play with friends they know in real life. It's basically a social/networking/friendship sport. It's rare to make friends exclusively on the court, and if that happens, it's often same-sex.

Also, this entire thread has been hijacked by women who are clearly pick-mes with low self esteem who think there's nothing wrong doing one-on-one activities with a married men in the name of feminism. Any critique of that seems to be triggering them to high hell and back. They probably see themselves in this fabulous young tennis player and defending her like their lives depend on it. Lol.

Yanbu.
Men are pigs and I wouldn't trust a single one of them. Him spending 1 on 1 time with an attractive young woman is just asking for trouble.

Yanbu.
Men are pigs and I wouldn't trust a single one of them. Him spending 1 on 1 time with an attractive young woman is just asking for trouble.

OP says she has zero interest in tennis so she probably isn't familiar with club politics. I have a DH who has played tennis for 35+ years, been a member at countless different clubs and currently two different clubs. I'm just giving an objective opinion of how a female pairing herself up with male she doesn't know well is somewhat of a red flag. It might be completely harmless of course, but it's definitely not something that happens very often and will raise a few eyebrows.

Of course it might also differ based on club, but in most places, people play with friends they know in real life. It's basically a social/networking/friendship sport. It's rare to make friends exclusively on the court, and if that happens, it's often same-sex.

Also, this entire thread has been hijacked by women who are clearly pick-mes with low self esteem who think there's nothing wrong doing one-on-one activities with a married men in the name of feminism. Any critique of that seems to be triggering them to high hell and back. They probably see themselves in this fabulous young tennis player and defending her like their lives depend on it. Lol.

I am trying to figure out what movie you have in mind when writing this
because I am loving the vision of a random woman "forcing a man to pair up with her" and setting up herself with a married man for drinks.

Are you living through your anxiety, or wishful thinking? I can't quite decide 😂

Shame on you for adding to the anxiety of a pregnant woman by posting utter nonsense though. You should be embarrassed.

Do you actually have any knowledge of tennis culture before going on a pseudo feminist rage-fuelled rant?

This has absolutely nothing to do with whether she's "allowed" go to a dinner party alone but everything to do with club etiquette. If someone wants to play for the sake of playing but don't have a partner, they pay for a trainer. It's that simple. They don't usually pair up with someone who they don't know very well, let alone one of the opposite sex. It's tacky because it implies they're trying to save money by cutting out the trainer and if someone is wealthy enough to join a club, they should be able to afford a lesson. It's also customary for tennis partners to go for a drink after the game so agreeing to play with someone you don't know that well is an unspoken agreement to form a closer friendship together.

Gosh all these people getting their knickers in a twist who clearly have zero experience with tennis! It's not the same as padel, football, yoga, running or cycling where people may pair up for the sake of convenience.

You couldn't make up any more nonsense if you tried.

It's not the same as padel, football, yoga, running or cycling where people may pair up for the sake of convenience.
yes, because THESE are typical sports where you do pair up indeed. You are absolutely right.

who clearly have zero experience with tennis!
Hi *User774563! *That would be you
😂😂

But you implied it was all down to the young woman lusting over the ops DH.

Oh come on, no guy has ever made the first move and seduced a woman. Especially not an attractive, young tennis player. Could never happen.

Do you actually have any knowledge of tennis culture before going on a pseudo feminist rage-fuelled rant?

This has absolutely nothing to do with whether she's "allowed" go to a dinner party alone but everything to do with club etiquette. If someone wants to play for the sake of playing but don't have a partner, they pay for a trainer. It's that simple. They don't usually pair up with someone who they don't know very well, let alone one of the opposite sex. It's tacky because it implies they're trying to save money by cutting out the trainer and if someone is wealthy enough to join a club, they should be able to afford a lesson. It's also customary for tennis partners to go for a drink after the game so agreeing to play with someone you don't know that well is an unspoken agreement to form a closer friendship together.

Gosh all these people getting their knickers in a twist who clearly have zero experience with tennis! It's not the same as padel, football, yoga, running or cycling where people may pair up for the sake of convenience.

Do you actually have any knowledge of tennis culture before going on a pseudo feminist rage-fuelled rant?

This has absolutely nothing to do with whether she's "allowed" go to a dinner party alone but everything to do with club etiquette. If someone wants to play for the sake of playing but don't have a partner, they pay for a trainer. It's that simple. They don't usually pair up with someone who they don't know very well, let alone one of the opposite sex. It's tacky because it implies they're trying to save money by cutting out the trainer and if someone is wealthy enough to join a club, they should be able to afford a lesson. It's also customary for tennis partners to go for a drink after the game so agreeing to play with someone you don't know that well is an unspoken agreement to form a closer friendship together.

Gosh all these people getting their knickers in a twist who clearly have zero experience with tennis! It's not the same as padel, football, yoga, running or cycling where people may pair up for the sake of convenience.

Oh come on, no guy has ever made the first move and seduced a woman. Especially not an attractive, young tennis player. Could never happen.

The husband doesn't want to seduce her? It's all down to her lusting over him, spectacular creature that he is? Yea right.

No suggestion at all of anything improper. I mean, something like that is wildly impossible and never happened before in the entire history of human beings.