Do i dress like an old lady?

Yeah, or ‘dressed like a toddler’.

Nope.

bet you have no problem about the expression "dressed like a teenager"

People only get offended when it touches a nerve!

No you don't remotely look like an old lady. Your friend is a bitch.

It's a plain summer dress that anyone could wear and it looks fine.
I am older and I wouldn't wear it because I have flabby arms these days, but not all old ladies have that problem.
The OP's friend was rude to her and she obviously meant dressing like an old lady to have negative connotations.
I was reading a thread earlier today asking who was the most stylish person you had ever seen and there were many references to older women so not all old women dress the same. It's the generalising that's slightly offensive.
There do tend to be some styles that are worn by particular age groups but these days people tend to go more with what suits them individually.
Take no notice of your friend OP and wear what you feel suits you best.

You’re right. I’m in my 50s and noticed more and more the obnoxious ageism on here.

What does an old lady wear. For heavens sake just wear what you like and if you could stop with the old lady negativity at the same time that would be smashing.

I dont know why there is such faux confusion and downright virtue signalling about this

Im an 'old lady'. As an older person you have to dress in such a way that doesnt look frumpy, if you dont want to look frumpy. That dress OP wears, would look fresh and flighty, free and sprightly on someone young. On me, I would look like Ive come out in my nightie

As you age, clothes that look totally up to date on someone else, change on you. So you dress accordingly so that you look fresher and more crisp which means certain shapes dont suit anymore or colours you used to wear dont suit any more

You're not speaking for me when you talk about this thread being ageist, its realist.

I am an old lady but dont want to look like one thank you.

Well, not if I'm anything to go by. In my 60s and wearing drab chinos and a beige and indigo printed linen shirt.

Now wondering if I dress like an old lady.

There are plenty of old women who dress well, and plenty who don't give a shit. I agree with you that a large, low bust puts years on you - may I recommend Bravissimo? Sports bras can be a good idea. Low breasts only come about with age, so it can never be a youthful look. My advice is; do the best you can and then think about something else.

1. I was wearing a dress today that resembles a 17th century undergarment, so I suppose I was technically dressed like a 300 year old lady. What’s wrong with ‘looking like an old lady’ anyway?
2. Your friend is rude.
3. The dress looks summery and pretty on you and the colour suits your skin tone. Do YOU like it? If so, who gives a crap what your friend thinks? She’s not the one wearing it!

for many kids, an "old lady" is 30+

So I wouldn't get ridiculously offended by the term old lady, it means nothing

Well yes most age groups do dress certain ways.

A toddler is going to dress different to a teenager and a teenager is going to dress different to a 30 year old. A 30 year old is going to dress differently to an 80yo.

How many old men walk around in tracksuits and hoodies like teenagers.
They’re more than welcome to but people would say that they dress young.

Of course not everyone fits the same description but most age groups dress slightly different.
I know I dress a lot different than when I was late teens/early 20s and in 20 years time I can’t imagine wearing what I was wearing today. It was just a maxi dress but I’ve never seen anyone over 60 wear similar - they’re welcome to but it’s just unusual to see.

But OP was just asking if she looked like she dresses like an old woman as this is what her friend said.
It is not a personal attack on you or anyone else of your age.
She was just quoting what her friend said and asking for opinions.

If she had asked if she looks fat because her DH said she did, it’s not being offensive to fat people.

Yes and she is accepting that " old ladies " dress in a certain way by actually giving credence to what was said and starting a thread with an absolutely ageist and downright offensive title .

Her friend said she looked like an old lady so she’s possibly ageist rather than the op.
I’m old and Im really not bothered by these “old lady” comments because I’m mindful of my own age when I buy things; mainly that I want it to be flattering and not look out of date within a few months.
I would really love to wear the clothes my granddaughters wear but sadly my puffy arthritic knees don’t look good in a short skirt and my scraggy neck and bingo wings are best covered. It’s how I feel when I look in the mirror not a concern on how others perceive me.

I buy bright pink bras so the colours DOES show better when you see my straps.

Taste is a very personal thing - and we all believe we have taste 😂

You are being utterly ridiculous.

OP, I was contemplating buying this dress myself. I’m still undecided (but it’s OOS in my size anyway at the moment). You don’t look bad in it at all but I do think it’s a bit plain.

What’s wrong with being an old lady in any case?

OP how old is your friend and what does she wear?

I’m 58 and find it very unflattering on women with large breasts; it’s the shirring. Perhaps as you age you will be able to ascertain which styles suit your figure.

Isn’t the friend just sayinf she’s dressing in a manner typical of a much older woman than the op. Not sure what all the frothing is about.

which to be fair I don’t think she is. It’s more the dress is frumpy /dowdy, and does you no favours. The colour, the shape, and the length. If it’s new, I’d return,

But it's not the op who said it was it - it was a friend. The op is simply repeating what her friend said.

You need to care less, basically.
I am 47 and am told I dress like a teenaged boy… and I couldn’t care less!

The thread title is Do I dress like an old lady"
So OP is accepting that " old ladies" dress in a certain way. That is ageist.

She is not challenging the view obviously held by a lot of people that older women dress in a certain way. She is just questioning whether she personally dresses in the way older women are assumed to dress. She is playing into the ageist view of women.

Yes I agree, I have big boobs and love shirred bodices but they make my rack look bigger which I personally don’t want.

Also - that shirred elastic gathering is not cooling in this heat so not an ideal summer dress!

When I think of old ladies I think of my Gran who passed away at 102 yrs, she mostly wore M&S fine knits and bright necklaces. My mum age 82 wears jeans, slim trousers, blouses. Lots of costume jewellery. So no you don’t dress like an “old lady” because old ladies can and will wear whatever they like.

Your so called friend sounds like a teenager (yes I’m making another generalisation 😳).

PS OP I also think you look great and I like the purple balloon 🎈