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Do i dress like an old lady?

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ididabigfatsmelly · 30/05/2026 17:23

Do I dress like an old lady? I’m 42 and yes I’m aware I need a new bra and I have a fitting for one next week

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Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:40

Notsosweetcaroline · 30/05/2026 20:36

Me too, I’ve said it before, and will say it again,most women dress for themselves first and foremost to feel good, and secondly to impress other women, seldom is it about men,

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This is on the nose. Men don't care about your clothes.

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:37

Malasana · 30/05/2026 19:28

You bet I had no problem with the phrase dressing like a teenager. I do. It’s a lazy stereotype. Hence you lost your bet.

No nerve has been touched but my point is that ageism is obnoxious. Those of us who are lucky enough get older. Marginalising us in terms of how we dress - with our old lady clothes - is tiresome and lazy and ridiculous.

I hope you’re around for long enough to discover the frustration.

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It can only feel like that still to you if you've spent a lifetime feeling it. I don't care what anyone thinks I look like. I'm free of that pressure now. Truly liberated.

Notsosweetcaroline · 30/05/2026 20:36

likelysuspect · 30/05/2026 20:35

Ive been shot down before for daring to suggest that the word 'flattering' has nothing to do with being sexually attractive to men

I always make sure what I wear flatters me. Nothing to do with being sexually attractive.

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Me too, I’ve said it before, and will say it again,most women dress for themselves first and foremost to feel good, and secondly to impress other women, seldom is it about men,

likelysuspect · 30/05/2026 20:35

Notsosweetcaroline · 30/05/2026 20:27

Who said it was to be sexually attractive to men, that’s not why it should be flattering or do something for you. No one mentioned men, just you.

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Ive been shot down before for daring to suggest that the word 'flattering' has nothing to do with being sexually attractive to men

I always make sure what I wear flatters me. Nothing to do with being sexually attractive.

Starzinsky · 30/05/2026 20:33

No idea why someone would say you need a new bra. Lovely dress that you can dress up, dress down, wear on holiday.

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ididabigfatsmelly · 30/05/2026 20:32

DH does like the dress.. also I agree the dress is way too casual for an event,. I got it just for day to day wear

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godmum56 · 30/05/2026 20:32

SandwichSuperstar · 30/05/2026 17:34

No, it's just a nice run-of-the-mill Summer dress which looks lovely on you.

I'm not really sure what you think 'old ladies' wear though?

I work with an all female team of elderly volunteers and they all wear very different styles, just as people of all ages do.

this precisely. I am an old lady. I dress how I choose to.

Hybird · 30/05/2026 20:32

You don’t look like an old lady but its a dowdy dress that does you no favours.

aintnothinbutagstring · 30/05/2026 20:31

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:15

It's not an event dress!!!

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Alright chill

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:30

tbh I'm more bothered about all the clutter in the front room.
Frock's great OP but clear the clutter 😁

thewitchisin · 30/05/2026 20:29

BeNavyLion · 30/05/2026 19:41

Sorry if you've already said, I haven't read the full thread yet, but where would you say is a good place?

I need to get myself a good one and want to save money on the experimentation journey to find one through all the rubbish purchases 😅

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Here

https://www.bellarosalingerie.co.uk/

Bra Fitting Specialist | Kent | Bella Rosa Lingerie

I am Rosie and I own and run Bella Rosa Lingerie. I am a bra fitting specialist with more than 14 years' experience. I offer lingerie consultations by eye, in the comfort of your own home, or online.

https://www.bellarosalingerie.co.uk/

Notsosweetcaroline · 30/05/2026 20:27

LaliqueSaltGrinder · 30/05/2026 19:16

I want to ban the word "frumpy". Or dowdy.

This thread is just oozing in misogyny as well as ageism. Dresses have to be flattering, or "do something for you" to be sexually attractive to men and whether something is comfortable or well-made doesn't matter, and neither does whether the woman concerned likes it or not.

"Old Lady" dressing is not a thing.

FFS.

Who said it was to be sexually attractive to men, that’s not why it should be flattering or do something for you. No one mentioned men, just you.

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:24

Isittimeformynapyet · 30/05/2026 20:21

They really, really do. Much to my amusement 😂

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"distilled their personal styles" 😂

Isittimeformynapyet · 30/05/2026 20:21

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:19

I mean...do people actually think/say these things?

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They really, really do. Much to my amusement 😂

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:21

I'm old BTW

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:20

chirrupybird · 30/05/2026 20:17

As an 'old lady' what am I supposed to dress like? I'm usually jeans and a tee shirt.

Nobody's talking about you.

Isittimeformynapyet · 30/05/2026 20:20

chirrupybird · 30/05/2026 20:17

As an 'old lady' what am I supposed to dress like? I'm usually jeans and a tee shirt.

Perfect 👌🏻

Me too.

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:19

Isittimeformynapyet · 30/05/2026 20:17

"Dress their truth" 😄🤣🤣😂😆

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I mean...do people actually think/say these things?

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:18

TooOrangey · 30/05/2026 20:03

I don’t think the dress is remotely ‘old lady’, but it does nothing for you.

Yes it does! She looks great! wtf

Isittimeformynapyet · 30/05/2026 20:17

outerspacepotato · 30/05/2026 20:02

It's hardly a throwaway remark, it's in the title and it's the entire point of the OP's post. God forbid she look like an old lady.

I guess I'm lucky to live in a city where the elder women have been so exposed to everything from art and street style to haute couture that they are usually extremely stylish and dress their truth. They've distilled their personal styles over the years to impressive levels.

I wouldn't wear that dress, it's not my style. It reminds me of the smocked top dresses of the 90s.

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"Dress their truth" 😄🤣🤣😂😆

chirrupybird · 30/05/2026 20:17

As an 'old lady' what am I supposed to dress like? I'm usually jeans and a tee shirt.

TotalBaloney · 30/05/2026 20:16

NameChangeMay2026 · 30/05/2026 20:08

I'd like to advise, but your user name is so disgusting it makes me feel somewhat ill, so I can't be on your thread and haven't read it.

But you took the time out to comment.

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:15

aintnothinbutagstring · 30/05/2026 17:37

I think it looks nice - its quite casual so possibly not what Id wear to event if thats what you had in mind. Wouldnt suit me because my upper arms cant really carry off strappy dresses and the bra issue would be too much of an inconvenience.

It's not an event dress!!!

Ayarreet · 30/05/2026 20:14

Notsosweetcaroline · 30/05/2026 17:25

Um not 0ld lady no. Those dresses are quite fashionable now, more that one does nothing for you.

What are you on about? You look great, OP

Flipflopsandsunhat · 30/05/2026 20:08

newfriend05 · 30/05/2026 17:48

sorry OP that dress is not flattering on you and you’re 42 , not 62 it looks frumpy it’s hard I know when your big boobed , I am too … but you have a nice shape you can find better

Pack in with the ageism for goodness' sake.

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