Do i dress like an old lady?

The dress is dull AF and makes you look dumpy round the mid-section.

real friends do give their opinion when they are being asked.

No one is a true friend when they claim something is "lovely" when they think it's bad.

It's a basic casual dress, nothing special as such but you are wearing bracelets, have a nice polish on your feet and colour seems to go well with your colouring from what I can see.

It doesn't fit into the so-called "old lady" category. It's just a summer dress.

Add a fun bag and a hat if you are worried and want to jazz it up.

No. No ‘old lady’ vibes in that photo. The old (ish - 80+) ladies I know all wear the same sort of clothes. Seasalt/ white stuff dresses, fat face cross body bags and brightly coloured skechers. A million miles away from my nana’s generation, who looked like a cross between Barbara Woodhouse and Hyacinth Bucket.

Well considering how unpleasant your thread is to older women do you think you actually deserve " nice " replies?

My 72 your old MIL wouldn’t be bothered about showing her bra straps. They’re hardly offensive, just a strip of elastic.

She's being a bitch !
Friends don't say anything like that !
I think it's a nice simple dress and it would be hard to age anyone wearing it !

Oh so being an older woman means you are frumpy does it?
Do you make a habit of insulting people or just those who are older than you?

Dress is fine. I do agree it’s not the most flattering but it’s not awful. I have big boobs as well and round necks aren’t the best in anything. I’d say the most flattering dresses I have are shirt type dresses. Cinch in at my waist and avoid the round necks. But they’re not particularly summery (or easy to find currently).

I was at the beach yesterday and there were loads of older ladies with visible bra straps.

I don't think anyone gave a shite in the heat.

I have reported it but I have absolutely no faith MN will do anything about it.
There have been many unpleasantly ageist threads on MN
But this thread is so blatantly and disgustingly insulting of older women it's taken my breath away.

sorry OP that dress is not flattering on you and you’re 42 , not 62 it looks frumpy it’s hard I know when your big boobed , I am too … but you have a nice shape you can find better

I don't think 'old ladies' usually wear dresses that show their bra straps. I'm 71 and have never, would never wear clothes that show my underwear. I would rather wear Bardot style and a strapless bra. I always think that visible bra straps look very poor.

It’s a boring pale dress with no accessories and a bad bra. It looks fine but it’s not going to win any style awards. It looks better than me in my jersey short and boring r shirt and muddy feet after a day in the garden

What an odd thing for them to say!!

It’s literally just a plain maxi dress - there’s nothing old lady about it at all!!

And I don’t understand the bra comments either. It looks fine in that picture.

How bitchy do your ‘friends’ sound.

Not since about 1950!

If you like it that is all that matters.

No, I don't think you look frumpy.

Old ladies are just young ladies who've been around longer.
I know this 'cos I' m one too.

I was expecting woolly tights, a skirt, cardigan and perm. Which is btw still cute.

You can report a thread for any reason using the 'other' button but good luck trying to get ageist or sexist posts removed.

HQ don't want to know.

I don’t love ‘old lady’ as an implied low level insult. But I don’t associate your dress with older women. It’s a young summer look, pretty unremarkable.

I don’t know about new bra, I just think you have big boobs like me! I would not choose that style as I don’t like dresses making me feel busty/matronly. But that’s just preference.

Dear God the ageism in this thread is absolutely appalling.

I wish MN would make.ageism a reason for reporting threads.

What does dressing " like an old lady" actually mean? It is absolutely nasty , derogatory language

I'm 74. I don't dress " like an old lady". I dress like " me". How I want to look.
The assumption that old ladies are worthless unsightly, less than human, is absolutely disgusting.

Why are other people's opinions so important to you?

I could understand if you were going to a wedding or something, but to send photos of you in an everyday Summer dress and then stress enough about your friend's replies to start a Mumsnet thread asking strangers is a bit odd.

Just wear it.

It looks nice and it's very suitable for the weather.