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Do i dress like an old lady?

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ididabigfatsmelly · 30/05/2026 17:23

Do I dress like an old lady? I’m 42 and yes I’m aware I need a new bra and I have a fitting for one next week

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OhThePotential · 01/06/2026 01:41

Newsenmum · 31/05/2026 22:06

What’s a typical ‘old lady’ style then?

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Well around here (Scotland) the vast majority of women over about 70 wear jeans or cotton trousers and a floral long or short sleeved t shirt with flat sneaker type shoes. Padded vests or thin, shiny puffer jackets seem to have replaced fleeces in recent years.

Lifestooshort71 · 31/05/2026 22:15

You've got a lovely figure but I don't think the dress does you justice - perhaps the colour is just a bit dismal. I'm mid-70s and don't mind comments about what old ladies wear, I found my style in my early 50s and just tweak it a bit when I see a new trend I like. Mind you, my feet have to be comfy nowadays - praps that's an old lady thing!

Newsenmum · 31/05/2026 22:06

Wingedharpy · 30/05/2026 17:46

Not since about 1950!

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What’s a typical ‘old lady’ style then?

Hallywally · 31/05/2026 21:55

OP you have a great figure! I’m jealous of your slim arms and lack of chub poking out under your arms- I have after arms, weird side boob/fat/back and smaller boobs! And bigger hips/tummy.

Wingingit73 · 31/05/2026 12:29

Look Good.

SixtySomething · 31/05/2026 12:02

Shinyhappyapple · 31/05/2026 11:13

The deleted post was quite shocking. @SixtySomething is being extremely disingenuous to claim they don’t know why it was deleted.

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In fact I’m not being disingenuous. I simply found that the picture didn’t sit well with me and I suppose I can’t say more than that.
I certainly didn’t mean to shock or offend anyone.
I guess that with a user name like OP’s they’re unlikely to be overly sensitive.
IMO , if one posts a selfie online and asks for opinions, one must be prepared for all comers.
It was genuinely important to me to say what I said ‘cos that was how I saw it.
I could of course say a great deal more,

Shinyhappyapple · 31/05/2026 11:16

notnorman · 31/05/2026 09:19

Hope not I’ve just spent £200 on two of those dresses from Nobodies Child!

I think many posters, and the OP’s friend have failed to notice that every clothes shop/website has that style this year.

Shinyhappyapple · 31/05/2026 11:13

BatchCookBabe · 30/05/2026 22:11

Must have maybe come across as a personal attack on the OP maybe? Even if you didn't mean for it to be.

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The deleted post was quite shocking. @SixtySomething is being extremely disingenuous to claim they don’t know why it was deleted.

ElevenBells · 31/05/2026 09:59

Well if you do then so do I, I’m wearing something very similar. I think you look great and don’t see an issue with the bra. I’m not even wearing one with my ‘old lady’ dress, too hot 🥵

purpleme12 · 31/05/2026 09:56

Absolutely

MrsShawnHatosy · 31/05/2026 09:52

Somethingbland · 30/05/2026 17:41

Dear God the ageism in this thread is absolutely appalling.

I wish MN would make.ageism a reason for reporting threads.

What does dressing " like an old lady" actually mean? It is absolutely nasty , derogatory language

I'm 74. I don't dress " like an old lady". I dress like " me". How I want to look.
The assumption that old ladies are worthless unsightly, less than human, is absolutely disgusting.

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I couldn’t agree more. I am 65 this week and would wear that dress.

I think there are many posters on here that get off on being bitchy under the guise of constructive criticism.

notnorman · 31/05/2026 09:19

Hope not I’ve just spent £200 on two of those dresses from Nobodies Child!

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ididabigfatsmelly · 31/05/2026 08:35

@whitefluffydogmeh die for my figure did u mean?

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monkeysox · 31/05/2026 08:31

ididabigfatsmelly · 30/05/2026 17:45

Thanks for all replies, the nice ones in particular . My friend maybe seemed rude but I did ask her to be honest and she gave her honest opinion

dress from m&S

i so wish my boobs were smaller

Embrace the boobs. Have a trip to to bravissimo .

Bobloblawww · 31/05/2026 00:20

That dress is not flattering on you. But it wouldn’t be flattering on most women.

I am a very similar figure to you and would opt for dresses with wider straps and darker colours.

Ireolu · 31/05/2026 00:13

Same age as you and I personally wouldn't wear that dress. You need to try on more styles to figure out what works for your body. It draws alot of attention to your chest, and not enough to what are probably nice slim legs.

nomas · 31/05/2026 00:02

Not old but I wouldn’t wear a shirred bodice on bigger boobs. There are more flattering bodices for your body shape.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 30/05/2026 23:54

No. Anyone could wear that type of dress, it’s light, casual, handy for holidays.

Aluna · 30/05/2026 23:50

BatchCookBabe · 30/05/2026 22:10

Agreed. Awful comments! That post by @placemats sounds like something my mother would say! 😬

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Mine too!

BurntBroccoli · 30/05/2026 22:36

The colour is doing absolutely nothing for you. Is there a navy version of it? Maybe with a nice long necklace - leather cord type with a simple metallic pendant.

Jamesblonde2 · 30/05/2026 22:35

Not flattering with big boobs. Looks matronly.

SixtySomething · 30/05/2026 22:27

BatchCookBabe · 30/05/2026 22:11

Must have maybe come across as a personal attack on the OP maybe? Even if you didn't mean for it to be.

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No, I don't think it was a personal attack, but I suppose it depends how you look at it.....

placemats · 30/05/2026 22:27

BatchCookBabe · 30/05/2026 22:26

Wow, you don't know when to stop. Good grief. Please stop it. Your barrage of insults against the OP now is just awful!

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FINE

placemats · 30/05/2026 22:26

BatchCookBabe · 30/05/2026 22:20

All the things you said in your post that @YourPoliteTurtle quoted were derogatory!

YOUR post at 21.48 to the OP.

The dress doesn't flatter you at all. It emphasises your boobs, makes your legs look too short and why are you standing like that? Plus it's obvious you have big hips.

You actually think none of that is derogatory?!

Have a word with yourself.

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The OP has a lovely figure but that dress is not for her.