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To want to work for cash to pay for treatment

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gopherit · 30/05/2026 16:50

AIBU to think that if the nhs can't give you the treatment you need and you're expected to self fund (in my case, 2 different types of physio and long-term counselling) then you should be able to work additional hours tax free to be able to fund it? As it is, if I work extra, my universal credit will reduce and it still won't cover it. To do it properly, long term private physio and counselling is already setting me back around £300-400 month which I can't sustain.

I am so fed up. When I chose a vocational career to qualify in, it's because you could survive without luxuries if that's what you chose. I'm not someone who needs or wants 5 long holidays abroad every year! I'm happy to shop cheaply and forego expensive treats, to do something I love and that's good for society (3rd sector). That was the choice I was happy to make when choosing my area of study/speciality. BUT, there was a half decent healthcare and benefits system at the time, which now there isn't. I'd like to work extra to pay for my treatment, but I can't.

Would it enable a society that could more easily fund treatment, rather than struggle to stay in work without?

Apols if I post and run, will be back this evening!

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Shrinkhole · 03/06/2026 06:41

The NHS provides a basic level of service. It does not necessarily provide exactly the service that you feel you want or need. What you describe ie long term therapy with a specific therapist and similarly long term specific physio is a luxury that needs to be paid for privately. You admit that NHS therapy and physio are available you just feel they aren’t good enough for you so it’s a choice you are making to pay for a service that you feel is better.

You say the therapy works for you and ‘not for everyone.’ There is a lot of ‘therapy’ that frankly has no evidence base like NLP. The NHS cannot and should not pay for just anything that anyone fancies. Should homeopathy and aromatherapy be on the NHS? Chinese traditional medicine? Ayurvedic medicine? Lots of people think those are great and are helping them.

People need to understand that the NHS and the benefit system provide a basic safety net not everything that anyone ever felt they wanted.

CatherinedeBourgh · 03/06/2026 06:10

Private health insurance is tax deductible in many countries.

Shoola · 03/06/2026 05:59

Some countries do this kind of thing. Quite a few offer tax rebates if you send your children to private school. I think Germany does it and possibly spain. In this country that isn't going to happen because we need the as much tax money as we can get to pay for things like UC and the NHS.

citybroker1234 · 03/06/2026 03:05

gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:23

Thats quite a blanket statement. UC is there to top up a low income - im sure its not calculated with paying for private treatment in mind? Then when you add in there are no nhs dentists so am paying extra for that as well, I am feeling a little peed off!

If I increase my hours then my student loan kicks in and uc reduces as well, so doesn't leave me with any additional to pay for treatment.

Increase your hours and work all hours, then you will afford treatment. The benefits bill is one of the things crippling this country. You are allowing others to work hard, to help fund you, when you are capable of funding yourself.

gopherit · 03/06/2026 00:01

Again, there seems to be a difference in some people's understanding between wants and needs, and expectations of a health service that is meant to be free at the point of use.

We all seem so tolerant in society of the fact that actually we're all getting a duff service! Although I expect some on this thread will think I'm not entitled to an opinion on how taxes are spent! 😁 But to those I would say, careful what you wish for. If you can only think I came to be in the position I am through foolish choices, you perhaps need to question whether it is possible that you might find yourself in the same situation through sheer bad luck alone.

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RaininSummer · 01/06/2026 18:35

Thing is everyone who works full time needs to work a second job or a side hustle for extra things they can't afford if they want those things. I know I would and do sometimes as I don't have an NHS dentist, have to pay for private podiatry. My student loan repayment goes up if I work more as does the amount of tax I pay. How are you different OP?

usernamealreadytaken · 01/06/2026 17:08

gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:28

Im not deliberately keeping myself on a low income to claim. I work full time. I'm talking about a side hustle.

You obviously ARE keeping yourself in a low income in order to claim. You said increasing your hours isn't an option because your UC would reduce and you’d have to pay towards your student loan. You have enough time spare to take on a “side hustle”, but not to actually work and pay taxes because you see that as unfair.

Why did you bother going to the expense of getting a degree if your attitude is that other people should not only pay for all of it, but that you want to keep your wages so low that you also claim benefits to top up? And you wonder why the NHS can’t fund your specific treatments?? FGS.

changeme4this · 01/06/2026 00:20

Putting aside the health treatment aspect, I would do the side hustle just to clear my student loan while I can… one less thing to worry about down the track when you do have less options and capability.

gopherit · 01/06/2026 00:10

Thank you @Frillysweetpea I'm sorry you've been through it too, but glad you had the windfall. I guess this is why people end up crownfunding. I just think there could be a better solution than forcing people to basically beg.

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Frillysweetpea · 01/06/2026 00:06

Very fortunately I came into some money so didn't have your financial dilemma but was in exactly the same situation. Needed therapy and physio and found the NHS services were not there so used my windfall. It sucks for us and I know a lot of NHS staff are really unhappy about the very time limited and generic services they are now forced to offer, which really don't meet people's needs. I used to feel guilty about going privately but now feel it would be mad not to if it's affordable. I feel very angry on behalf of all the people who just can't afford to access the help they need.

gopherit · 31/05/2026 23:54

Thanks for the suggestions. Without going into too much detail, I will likely be in and out of therapy for the rest of my life. Due to the complex history, it's very triggering to have to keep starting from scratch each time with a new person. I have found a suitable longterm trauma therapist and its working for me - it doesn't work for everyone though, hence it not being offered on nhs. Physio is also complex due to overlapping issues. I've seen various NHS and private over the years, good and bad in each, but again, finally found one privately who's actually fixing the core issues and it's paying off. Nhs one not so great. Several different areas of my body need working on, and can't do simultaneously. They really take around 6-12 months each and needs consistent oversight as each issue can contribute to the others (so YouTube not always appropriate). I'm hoping the sessions will reduce in intensity but even so, I feel quite disadvantaged to others at times, on a very unlevel playing field.

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Frillysweetpea · 31/05/2026 21:08

gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:28

Im not deliberately keeping myself on a low income to claim. I work full time. I'm talking about a side hustle.

Well, I will probably be slated for it but, yes, I think a cash in hand job to pay for health care is ok. Just don't get caught! It's not like you're embezzling funds for a crystal salt and pepper set and a luxury motor home, is it?

Contrarymary30 · 31/05/2026 21:05

I don't think either of those things you want to self fund are meant to be used long term . Physio can be done at home , usually you get a few sessions then exercises at home . A councillor once told me that if councilling hasn't worked after a course it's unlikely to .

LHP118 · 31/05/2026 20:57

gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:34

Perhaps everyone who needs treatment the nhs cannot provide should be able to claim tax back. I think that's what I'm saying!

I totally get what you're saying. The NHS can't help my child and I've had to go private for assessments, testing and more. About 700 a month to include supplements.

Yes, there should be an option for such instances. In practice, however, it wouldn't work. We can barely keep up with our complicated systems and I think they need to be simplified across every system including tax, health. etc.

I wish it was all easier...and accessible

arghhelpme · 31/05/2026 20:49

I spoke to a therapist through the job centre once, was free as was on UC, they could only provide a certain amount of sessions but the lady I had my weekly sessions with over the phone said you can quite often get cheaper sessions through trainee therapists, although how helpful that would be for you I dont know if it's quite complex?

oldFoolMe · 31/05/2026 18:45

is there a charity that could offer the counselling? Nhs were useless for me but a the did signpost for charities that specialise in the area I was looking at. Your doctor may be able to refer to a gym and from there get a private trainer with some options that you can repeat often in the gym.

gopherit · 31/05/2026 02:13

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 31/05/2026 01:48

Are you saying you claim UC and can still afford to pay £300-400 a month for private health care?

No I have used my credit card ! Hence me saying I cannot sustain it !!

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Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 31/05/2026 01:48

Are you saying you claim UC and can still afford to pay £300-400 a month for private health care?

gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:53

viques · 30/05/2026 19:47

So what would happen if you then needed urgent expensive treatment that you can only access through the NHS? Would you then repay the tax you had claimed back to pay for your optional treatment? Because otherwise you wou.ld be expecting to have your expensive and urgent treatment paid for by others who hadn’t claimed tax back and sliced off a little bit off the top of the cake for themselves…..

The system only works* if everyone accepts that everyone pays in and you get back what they need not what they want. If you want extra, breast implants, a face lift, physio, designer vagina you pay for it yourself.

(*That is not to say it doesn’t need looking at, the current funding model is badly flawed and the system itself is clumsy and inefficient.)

I'm not getting back what I need though...
Long term trauma informed therapy isn't exactly a want...

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Sallysparkles · 30/05/2026 19:51

gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:34

Perhaps everyone who needs treatment the nhs cannot provide should be able to claim tax back. I think that's what I'm saying!

If you’re claiming UC you’re probably taking out more than you put in already. A relatively small proportion of people are net payers. Why do you think you should be able to take out the tax related to the NHS? It’s like someone claiming back insurance premiums because they didn’t claim on their insurance.

Unfortunately private counselling and physiotherapy are luxuries. NHS counselling and physio are under extreme pressure. People are waiting up to two years for hip replacements when they can hardly walk.

Like everyone else you have to try and manage things yourself or save up for private treatment. I also try and limit how much I use the NHS by working things out myself if possible. There are lots of physios and counsellors on YouTube that tell you how to manage specific issues if you already have a diagnosis. You could for instance have physio once a month and counselling twice a month which would reduce the cost.

viques · 30/05/2026 19:47

gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:34

Perhaps everyone who needs treatment the nhs cannot provide should be able to claim tax back. I think that's what I'm saying!

So what would happen if you then needed urgent expensive treatment that you can only access through the NHS? Would you then repay the tax you had claimed back to pay for your optional treatment? Because otherwise you wou.ld be expecting to have your expensive and urgent treatment paid for by others who hadn’t claimed tax back and sliced off a little bit off the top of the cake for themselves…..

The system only works* if everyone accepts that everyone pays in and you get back what they need not what they want. If you want extra, breast implants, a face lift, physio, designer vagina you pay for it yourself.

(*That is not to say it doesn’t need looking at, the current funding model is badly flawed and the system itself is clumsy and inefficient.)

gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:46

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 30/05/2026 19:43

That's an interesting idea. No idea how it could work in practice though.

Thank you. No idea don't know either, but it would be a vote winner for me!

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gopherit · 30/05/2026 19:43

No it wouldn't, because I dont tick Pip boxes, in spite of being disabled with a long term health condition.

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StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 30/05/2026 19:43

That's an interesting idea. No idea how it could work in practice though.

TY78910 · 30/05/2026 19:38

Wouldn’t PIP be for this kind of thing?