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AIBU to ask tenants to move before or after new baby?

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CatWithAPetDog · 30/05/2026 15:09

We are landlords and have a property that our son would like to move into at some point in the next year. Our current tenants have a toddler and have just told me that they are expecting another baby in November.

If you were the tenant, would you prefer to have to move out whilst pregnant or with a young baby. I know it’s not great timing for them either way, but which would you say would be easier? We can wait a while as long as my son is moved in this time next year, but then they would have a toddler and six month old baby, so it may be easier to do it sooner with just a toddler?

They’ve been good tenants so I would like to cause them the least stress possible.

Sorry forgot to make boring make sense

YABU - Get them to move before the new baby arrives

YANBU - Get them to move after the new baby arrives

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Runningswanker · 30/05/2026 16:50

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:42

there is a still a chance they will be.
the market is really bad at the moment and their is not a lot of choice. If the tenents are looking while the mother is on mat pay this could mean that she will not meet the criteria at that time which will lower their chances.

If the LL allows them flexibility to move that's very unlikely. The difficult thing in a hot rental market is being able to take on a tenancy as soon as it's available, landlords don't want voids. That would give them the edge over a lot of potential tenants. Plus if income is borderline most agencies these days will accept with a guarantor, and there are companies who will provide this, a bit like buying insurance.
I'm not suggesting its better than the current tenant being able to stay but it is the reality of renting and this LL is at least trying to make it easier for the tenant
I'm under no illusion how bad LLs can be; one sold the house I was living in to a company and 'forgot' to tell me or give me notice, I found out about it when someone I know mentioned about 'that new X opening up on Y street' and I realised the building they were talking about was my home...

YourPoliteTurtle · 30/05/2026 16:48

I am glad people are not over-reacting and being over-dramatic on this thread, it's a such a relief to read common sense 😂

Bet all these people don't have the same attitude about their own business and income source! There they won't consider to become a charity for a second, but it's easier to be generous with someone else's money.

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:44

Rachelshair · 30/05/2026 16:41

I'd have my son living with me before I'd evict a family with a newborn and a toddler into a broken housing market. You could be sending them into homelessness. I just couldn't do that to someone.

I’m glad it’s not just me.

i’m honestly worried that morals and kindness has gone out the window.

Datafan55 · 30/05/2026 16:43

KatiePricesKnickers · 30/05/2026 16:40

Usual terrible behavior from a small landlord.
No wonder they are vilified.
This doesn’t happen with corporates.

You really haven't rented from an actual terrible landlord, have you?

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:42

Runningswanker · 30/05/2026 16:39

Except they're planning how to do it without making them homeless. You seem to have missed the point of the thread entirely.

there is a still a chance they will be.
the market is really bad at the moment and their is not a lot of choice. If the tenents are looking while the mother is on mat pay this could mean that she will not meet the criteria at that time which will lower their chances.

Datafan55 · 30/05/2026 16:41

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:39

They don’t have permanent claim however they shouldn’t be in fear of being evicted because someone kid wants a free houses

if a house is well looked after, is paid for on time then really there is no reason to make people homeless.

Oh mate, give it up.

Rachelshair · 30/05/2026 16:41

I'd have my son living with me before I'd evict a family with a newborn and a toddler into a broken housing market. You could be sending them into homelessness. I just couldn't do that to someone.

KatiePricesKnickers · 30/05/2026 16:40

Usual terrible behavior from a small landlord.
No wonder they are vilified.
This doesn’t happen with corporates.

Datafan55 · 30/05/2026 16:40

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:20

nope I’m in my 30s and have experienced entitled rich landlord for years. They don’t seem to care about the people who are occupying their home and just see them as a pay check. They are people

sounds like he is not even paying rent just being given a free house at someone else expense

This LL is QUITE LITERALLY showing she cares about the people who are occupying her home.

Runningswanker · 30/05/2026 16:39

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:37

She is still risking a young family becoming homeless.

Except they're planning how to do it without making them homeless. You seem to have missed the point of the thread entirely.

StephensLass1977 · 30/05/2026 16:39

Moving while pregnant will feel like a piece of cake compared to once the baby's born. All that baby stuff they'll have to move, as well as the actual baby.

This is why I never wanted to rent.

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:39

Datafan55 · 30/05/2026 16:37

This.

Plus you feel lucky to have been able to have rented a nice place with nice landlords for a short time and not have to worry about the boiler repairs and what-not. Renting is what it is.

Anyone thinking they have a permanent claim on the place is 1) ironic given how banks can foreclose when people own and 2) well, the entitlement is off the scale. Excellent way to put off decent landlords too.

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They don’t have permanent claim however they shouldn’t be in fear of being evicted because someone kid wants a free houses

if a house is well looked after, is paid for on time then really there is no reason to make people homeless.

caringcarer · 30/05/2026 16:38

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:35

Yes but if they did that their would be no risk of anyone becoming homeless while pregnant or a small child which is what is a potential outcome here

i hppe that family are able to find something quickly for their sakes.

That is the downside of stopping the 12 months fixed term contract.

RetiredFromExplaining · 30/05/2026 16:38

I do hope the OP isn’t moving her son in for six months just so she can let it out again afterwards at a much higher rent than before.

I mean, she wouldn’t do that, would she?

mathanxiety · 30/05/2026 16:38

CatWithAPetDog · 30/05/2026 16:24

It wasn’t free. It’s been paid for by us! So at his parents expense which me and his dad are fine with.

This is meant kindly, but I strongly advise that you ask your son to pay rent. It doesn't have to be market rates, but he should pay a certain amount, and he should be responsible for utilities too.

Cushioning young adults from life's financial realities does them no favours.

Runningswanker · 30/05/2026 16:37

Dollysleftnip · 30/05/2026 16:25

Because its nonsense
People without children would do the jobs
Those with who need more space would move out to cheaper areas
There was a reasonable system in place where people gave a bit of thought to planning out their lives so they aren’t subjected to the whims of LL’s.
People would do better to return to those times
But if they dont its a lifetime of instability. Their choice.

I mean, I don't have children and I can't afford a 400k house.
I am fortunate to have a mortgage, but I live in a relatively cheap northern house and even here the rent prices prevent many from being able to afford to save a deposit, and that cheapest starter homes would be 200k. Which, given the wages in this area are typically low, would still be out of reach for many.

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:37

Runningswanker · 30/05/2026 16:34

Equally, the OP is providing a house to a young person who needs somewhere to live. There are many crappy landlords out there but the fact that the OP has even asked the question they have shows they're not one of them.

She is still risking a young family becoming homeless.

Datafan55 · 30/05/2026 16:37

YourPoliteTurtle · 30/05/2026 16:27

If you rent, you accept that you are only responsible for the rent and the property doesn't belong to you, so you can't have a claim on it for infinite amount of times.

You are not affected by work, repairs, fluctuation on the market. You just pay the rent, and you only have the property for the duration of your lease.

It's very fair.

It's being given the idea that paying a monthly rent gives you any right or ownership to the property that is wrong

This.

Plus you feel lucky to have been able to have rented a nice place with nice landlords for a short time and not have to worry about the boiler repairs and what-not. Renting is what it is.

Anyone thinking they have a permanent claim on the place is 1) ironic given how banks can foreclose when people own and 2) well, the entitlement is off the scale. Excellent way to put off decent landlords too.

caringcarer · 30/05/2026 16:36

I've given a tenant 3 1/2 months notice to leave by July 25th. They have 2 under 4 and are expecting twins in October and have a dog. I figured it would be much harder to move with a 4 year old 2 1/2 year old and newborn twin and a dog. Plus even though they are supposed to leave by July 25th they have not found anywhere to move to yet, despite a good reference, which is worrying and probably means they won't be able to move out and I'll have to go to court to get a repossession order.

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:35

YourPoliteTurtle · 30/05/2026 16:33

stop taking it personally. It's a business transaction. They haven't "done anything wrong". They signed a lease and agreed to the conditions.

I am sure the OP is not ignoring the contract they all signed and agreed with.

It's in their own interest, if THEY want to move, they can just give notice too - they are not stuck in the property! It's the flexibility and freedom of renting which is so great, many people need that.

Yes but if they did that their would be no risk of anyone becoming homeless while pregnant or a small child which is what is a potential outcome here

i hppe that family are able to find something quickly for their sakes.

Runningswanker · 30/05/2026 16:34

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:24

I’m just honestly fed up with landlords not seeing their tenants as people or as important as them or there family. It is really awful.

there is need for landlords to be called out. This women is literally throwing a young family out who have done nothing wrong. Who think they are doing the right things, who have probably planned where there baby is gonna go in that house so her son can live in a house rent free. It’s not right; I’m just sick of seeing it.

Equally, the OP is providing a house to a young person who needs somewhere to live. There are many crappy landlords out there but the fact that the OP has even asked the question they have shows they're not one of them.

CatWithAPetDog · 30/05/2026 16:34

Anyway, I have contacted my tenants to ask when if they have any time for a chat over the next week or so and they’ve said to pop round now so I’m off.

Thanks again to the reasonable posters.

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narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:34

CatWithAPetDog · 30/05/2026 16:28

I’m not being awful to them though. I have put thought into how will be best to do this, what will impact them the least and acknowledged it may be difficult for them. I’ve spoken to friends and I’ve asked on here to get opinions. It is very much weighing on my mind.

You don’t know the meaning of ‘literally’ because they are not ‘literally being thrown out at all’.

They are though. Why does your child deserve this free house more than the tenents looking after it and paying rent. Why do they now have to go and try and find a house where there is hardly anything to choose from and massive competition because your son wants to move in next year. It is fierce at the moment. You may think give them a years notice may be enough but it may not be. They could really struggle especially if her wage is maternity pay at that point as that will e taking into account and they may find it harder to meet the criteria.

you are risking them becoming homeless.

YourPoliteTurtle · 30/05/2026 16:33

narnia2025 · 30/05/2026 16:28

But why is him being housed more important then a young families. They haven’t done anything wrong. Raising children is more than helping them out. It’s having them
grow up to be independent. It’s raising them
with compassion and understanding they can’t just move into a house that someone else is looking after because their mummy affords it. It’s entitled. Sorry if i seem harsh but when you have gone through it 3 times in 30 months with it not being your fault: it’s awful. I just think you need to think about the bigger picture not just your child

stop taking it personally. It's a business transaction. They haven't "done anything wrong". They signed a lease and agreed to the conditions.

I am sure the OP is not ignoring the contract they all signed and agreed with.

It's in their own interest, if THEY want to move, they can just give notice too - they are not stuck in the property! It's the flexibility and freedom of renting which is so great, many people need that.

mathanxiety · 30/05/2026 16:32

MeltyMomenrs · 30/05/2026 15:24

Just talk to them.

apologise (it's your house, but their home with their memories & somewhere they planned on bringing their new baby home to) & say your son needs to move in within the year, but your totally flexible within that & that if course you'll give them a glowing reference.

but BEFORE you upset their lives & you lose great tenants, make sure your Son definitely wants to live there, not just as a short term cheap rent.

my parents let B my brother & SIL move into a rental & lost their great tenants (regretfully), they only stayed 6 months & my parents had a string if not good tenants afterwards 🙇🏻‍♀️.

Yes to this.

Give the tenants notice asap and let them move without penalty whenever they find a new home.

Don't quibble over their entire security deposit refund. You could even offer their refund early to help defray moving costs and the new deposit they'll have to pay.

As pp says, do make sure your son has long term plans to stay there.

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