To think there is no such thing as a “teen mum name”

It’s obvious what people mean by this though, sounds like a cheap lower class name. Just like Edward sounds a bit posher than McKenzi.

I think you’re wilfully misunderstanding. It’s just a comment about social class, and the perception that middle-class girls who get pregnant will generally be encouraged to terminate.

What they are really saying in a mean way is the name reads as lower class. Charlotte obviously doesn't with the royal connection. Shannon maybe does, with the awful high profile Shannon Matthews case.

I'm torn because although it is awful to think about names and people this way and probably to say it, if people are considering names prior to a baby being born I think it can be useful to take into consideration others bias's on what a child by that name is like. That baby might find themselves coming up against those same preconceptions in their education, from friend's parents or in the jobs market later on.

Many teachers have reported on seeing certain names come up on their register before a school year starts and expecting that they will a troublemaker before they even meet the child.

I mean schools and parents tell every teen girl “don’t let it be you” “don’t make the biggest mistake of your life” “just have an abortion” so it’s no surprise women go on to internalise that they were the “sensible” ones when that’s what society teaches them. I was pregnant at 19 and lost the baby and everyone was too busy telling me that it was for the best and that I’d dodged a bullet that no one noticed I was grieving. And yes I have a “teen mum” name and love my name!

They can have normal names and also be perfectly good parents! Whilst I wouldn’t necessarily endorse teenage pregnancy (I had mine at 37 and 39 and it’s bloody hard work 😂) it doesn’t change the fact that mothers in their 30s and 40s can be totally shit, and teen mothers can be much much better. Any person who says these kind of judgmental and obnoxious comments is, as pp said, not remotely worth listening to

Anyone of any class can become a teen mum. These judgemental women on the naming boards (and in real life) are exposing their huge internalised misogyny. They are not good people, their opinions are not worth listening to.

All things told, I would way rather be a teen mum (or have a teen mum daughter) than have such awfully misogynist, classist and insecure views towards other, usually more vulnerable, young women.