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To be upset about invitation

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aquamariner · 29/05/2026 23:16

A colleague is getting married in a few months . We are a small team of ten. I’m only recently seeing a man . We’re in our fifties. It’s going well.
The invitations arrived today. I am invited solo. All other team
members are married or in a long term
relationship.
Theor oh have been invited . I’m the only one invited as a solo.
Im hurt and embarrassed and do not want to go but I’m in the management end of things so I feel like I must as it’s the right thing to do . AIBU to feel upset ?

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ConverselyAttired · 29/05/2026 23:26

Normal. How recently is "recent"?

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aquamariner · 29/05/2026 23:25

@OnelifeonlyBut all the staffs partners and spouses are strangers ..

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Onelifeonly · 29/05/2026 23:24

When I went to one of my best friend's weddings, my new man (at the time) wasn't invited. Seemed reasonable to me - you want friends / colleagues / family / their long term partners there, not strangers.

And it's not like you won't know anyone there.

PoppinjayPolly · 29/05/2026 23:20

cannynotsay · 29/05/2026 23:18

Why would she want someone she doesn’t know there, or even the fact you hardly know him yourself! Give over!

This, would you spunk £200+ on a meal for someone you don’t know? @aquamariner who should she dump from her invite list to let your new
boyf come!

Ponderingwindow · 29/05/2026 23:19

It’s pretty normal not to get a wedding plus one. Only long term relationships like spouses or live in partners, which are named invitations, not generic plus ones, are included.

You really don’t have to go to a work wedding. They will be just as happy to receive a card and perhaps a token gift.

Conchiglie · 29/05/2026 23:19

You're being really unreasonable here OP. It's absolutely normal to not invite short term partners to your wedding.

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aquamariner · 29/05/2026 23:19

The couple do not know any of the spouses

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Gillygallygosh123 · 29/05/2026 23:18

I wouldn't want to invite my friend or colleagues new boyfriend to my wedding, I wouldn't know them and they might not even be together by the time the wedding came

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aquamariner · 29/05/2026 23:18

I am but would have liked a plus one invitation even if I didn’t have a boyfriend.
I can’t explain why I feel embarrassed. I guess I’ve never been invited or gone to a wedding solo before .

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cannynotsay · 29/05/2026 23:18

Why would she want someone she doesn’t know there, or even the fact you hardly know him yourself! Give over!

MakingPlans2025 · 29/05/2026 23:17

I think you’re being unreasonable sorry. If you have only been seeing this guy for a while presumably the couple don’t know him? Do they know the spouses/partners of hour other colleagues? I wouldn’t want someone I didn’t know at all at my wedding.

AuDrusilla · 29/05/2026 23:16

Why are you embarrassed??

You are capable of attending events without your new boyfriend

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