To be upset about invitation

I went to a wedding solo, and I only knew the bride and groom. I had a lovely time. I knew I would, as everyone there was a friend or relative of the people who invited me. I don't know where your embarrassment comes from, though.

I do think there is a difference for a plus one if the couple live together.
Not inviting a partner of 12 weeks doesn’t seem unreasonable to me.
I don’t think the B&G were being rude in not inviting them so I wouldn’t take it personally

It's not as if you won't know anyone there so either suck it up and go or just make an excuse. You don't have to go but I think you're being unreasonable.

Do they even know you’re in a relationship?!

Now weddings are so expensive I think plus ones have stopped being a thing. It’s normal to invite spouses/long term partner that are named, but not a random plus one. I’d only expect a plus one if the bride/groom was the only person I knew at a wedding, but as you’ll presumably know your colleagues I don’t think it’s odd you’ve not had one for your new boyfriend.

My husband of 10 years was invited to a wedding with a plus one and I have met the bride many times. I wasn’t named in the invite . I did find that a bit odd!

The guest list may have been already organised before you were in your new relationship. It’s more common now to not include a plus one

As you said yourself you’ve only been seeing him a short time, the others are married or in long term relationships. I think that’s perfectly fair and YABU.

I don't blame you for feeling a bit awkward going alone when all your other colleagues will have significant others with them. That's perfectly understandable, and anyone telling you to woman up and go and enjoy are not thinking it through. I wouldn't expect a plus one either though.

I would decline the invitation. I know it's your work group, but what the heck, no one will lose their job if you decline! Just make up some excuse, no one will care. Buy a decent gift, go the the hens if invited and bring Bridie out to lunch just the two of you before or after the wedding.

You will feel so relieved not to have to sit as a solo amongst a group of couples. I wouldn't go myself, but I wouldn't expect an invite for DP either if only 3 months duration,

I didn’t invite my best friends boyfriend-they are now married. He survived and she wasn’t embarrassed. I had met him.

Sorry yabu. Is it for the full day? If so, I don’t think it’s the done thing to invite new partners. If it’s only for evening you are maybe a bit more justified in being peeved not have a plus one invite.

Married or LT - they did the right thing by inviting the partners

you have known your guy for 5 Minutes. They did the right thing by not inviting him. You know all the other people there so it’s not a big deal.

I kind of agree, unless colleagues are having to travel far or stay in a hotel there’s no real reason why they should need to bring their partner. But just read some of these replies, I it’s a sign of the society we live in, people are often scared to do things alone so they get all horrified if they can’t bring their partner and even feel insulted on their partners behalf.

So maybe the bride to be feels it’s the “done thing” to offer a plus one even if it’s just coworkers.

I mean OP hasn’t been with this guy for two minutes and she’s already seemingly upset about going alone, so can you imagine how some of those who are married would react to no plus one? 😆

Sorry-I think you’re being unreasonable. I was invited to a wedding after seeing my former partner for 4 months-I thought it was strange to be invited-we’d split up before the wedding! I hope they managed to fill the space!

I had a friend who was going to a wedding without a plus one, as her husband was away. Oh my word, did she harp on about it. As if it was a Terrible Trial she would Valiantly Endure. She bought an incredibly unflattering hat and had a perfectly fine day, as everyone talks to everyone at weddings. Don’t worry about it. Tis no big deal.

Go on your own or make your apologies. Id go. Get over being embarrassed. It makes no sense

I think you are being a bit selfish OP if I am honest. I was invited solo to a wedding of a friend and work colleague and was delighted to be included in their special day. Especially as other colleagues only got an evening invite. So I put on my big girl pants and went alone and it was fine. It was about them and not me and not personal. At least you know people going along too so have company. I knew noone except the bride and groom until the evening guests arrived and I survived 😉

I don't have a partner but I have been invited to a wedding soon, with a plus one.

Just saying

I'd be upset. I've been to weddings on my own and unless they are family weddings I found it really uncomfortable and boring. It's nothing to do with going with a boyfriend or whatever, but having a friend there. It makes all the difference.

I think the dynamics completely change when partners/spouses are included.

For heaven’s sake, the OP knows all of the rest of her team who are invited! Eight other people she works with on a daily basis. She’s hardly going to be crying alone in the bathroom.

Not sure a three month relationship with someone means their your partner yet. Partner usually implies something long term.

This...it is not fair to invite someone who then feels they are awkward all day. Not so much during the meal when you are all sitting and talking but after that when ppl get up and move about more then you have to choose to either tag along or go and talk to random strangers on tables or sit alone. It is no fun.

Brides and grooms do not think about this and it really isn't nice for their guests.

Is it a full day invitation or just the evening? I invited work colleagues to the evening only and they all had plus ones for their husbands/wives as evening guests only cost £25 pp. Day guests were £130 pp.

We had a small wedding and only had 25 guests during the day. I only made the exception for one single person to bring a plus one and that was for two reasons 1) she didn’t know anyone else and 2) was travelling for several hours to attend. I wanted her to feel comfortable. All the other single people lived locally and knew others there.

In your situation, you do know other people going (your colleagues) and you will have other people to talk to. I would never invite the boyfriend of three months to my wedding. Husbands and long term partners of close friends and family, yes.

I've only just come to this thread but am amazed by the responses. I'd expect any invite to have a plus 1, the point is to make your names guest feel comfortable.

I have never recieved an invite without the plus 1, even when I was single or the inviter hasn't met my partner.

Ive been married for donkeys though so things must have moved on. It appears that paying for a meal for a random is more important than the comfort of your guest now.

Why would you be hurt and embarrassed that a colleague (not a friend) didn't invite your brand new boyfriend they've never met or never heard of to their wedding?

I think you'd better not go as you sound too oversensitive.