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I think my DH is jealous of my Adult children (that aren’t his)

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Blondiebeachbabe · 29/05/2026 20:45

Me and my DH get on pretty well most of the time. But I think he’s jealous of my relationship with my adult kids! I hardly see them too. One is 40 miles away and the other lives in Australia.

Two months ago, we hired a van and moved my son into a new apartment. My husband was the only person who could drive the van. He had a long face the whole day and made us feel very indebted to him for driving. Why can’t he do it with a good heart?

My daughter is back from Australia right now, only for four days for a wedding, and we are meeting for breakfast on Monday. I offered to drive them to the airport after breakfast, as it is en route to our way home. The only way that we could do this is to take 2 Cars. Well, my husband has hit the roof! Telling me that I’m a joke and unreasonable . I don’t even really know why he is angry.

I’m just so exhausted with the competition. We don’t have sex anymore (his decision). It’s so sad because I am in love with him, but this is such a turn off that part of me just wants him to leave. He has stormed off to bed and I’m feeling so lost.

OP posts:
WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 29/05/2026 22:12

Isittimeformynapyet · 29/05/2026 21:22

A Scottish woman I know insists that cunt is used as a term of endearment up there 🤔 She's from Glasgow.

To be fair it can be, in a bit of banter, and is as likely to be directed at a man as a woman. E.g., calling someone a daft c*nt if they’ve done something a bit daft. Like a sweary ‘silly moo’. But it can also be aggressive and unpleasant, same as anywhere else, But again, not a swear word restricted to women.

But OP, even if he’s the type of sweary Scot who uses the word liberally (and I know a few myself), he sounds a bit miserable and dickish.

tsmainsqueeze · 29/05/2026 22:11

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/05/2026 21:06

He’s called me a cunt many times. I’m so good to him too. He came in tonight to a lovely dinner, all handed to him while he just sat there. I’ve made his lunch for tomorrow. I’ve also cooked him sausages to heat in the microwave for breakfast. I do all the cooking, cleaning and laundry.

The good news is that I own the house we live in, so he’s fucked if we split up. We are in Scotland so rules are in my favour there

I am always relieved when i see the op owns the house.
What are you waiting for ? being called C word , i loathe this word ! would be enough for me .

Happyhettie · 29/05/2026 22:11

He calls you a cunt?? What a hideous man. You deserve better.

MovedlikeHarlowinMonteCarlo · 29/05/2026 22:08

AnneLovesGilbert · 29/05/2026 20:52

He was right in my face calling me a stupid cunt too

What the fuck. Has he done that before? Is there a reason you’re tolerating this beyond thinking you’re in love with him? He absolutely does not love you to behave this way towards you, it’s revolting. Please LTB.

Well said.

Sunisgettinganewhaton · 29/05/2026 22:07

When i threw out such a dh I was stunned.. Stunned I had done it and fearful of a future without him. Cried solid for 2 weeks. Literally all the time.
Then the cloud lifted. And a bright future enticed me to go on!!
And what a life lay ahead!

LittleEsme · 29/05/2026 22:06

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/05/2026 20:49

I know! His own mother was never kind to him so I don’t know if he’s jealous or something, but it feels ridiculous. He was right in my face calling me a stupid cunt too. This is because I drive a small car that isn’t great on the motorway, but I would just drive at 60mph, who cares?

I would leave just on this alone - what a hideous name to have called his life partner.

OP, there is going to be a widening gulf between you and your children because of this man, and we don’t even know the backstory here. No man should ever come between a mother and their children.

How on earth can you love a man like this?

MsAmerica · 29/05/2026 22:05

This would be sad, but not unusual. Same problem with a stepmother in my family.

But I get the impression you've never addressed the issue with him. You can't baldly say, "Are you jealous of my kids"? But you could try asking something more obliquely like, "Are you angry with Sonny for some reason?" I have the feeling this is a dead end, but you might as well be sure before you call it quits.

MCF86 · 29/05/2026 22:04

Isittimeformynapyet · 29/05/2026 21:22

A Scottish woman I know insists that cunt is used as a term of endearment up there 🤔 She's from Glasgow.

It absolutely can be. But it doesn't sound like he was using it affectionately does it?

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/05/2026 22:04

Leave the bastard

MCF86 · 29/05/2026 22:02

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/05/2026 20:49

I know! His own mother was never kind to him so I don’t know if he’s jealous or something, but it feels ridiculous. He was right in my face calling me a stupid cunt too. This is because I drive a small car that isn’t great on the motorway, but I would just drive at 60mph, who cares?

Nobody should have the opportunity to speak to you like that a second time!

I'm really hoping I read on and find out you told him to fuck off.

tommyhoundmum · 29/05/2026 22:01

Sparkletastic · 29/05/2026 21:07

He called you a cunt. He sounds vile.

Some people use that word so freely, even some women. It is an insult to women and I hate to hear it used.

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/05/2026 21:58

I’m done. You are all right.

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happysinglemama · 29/05/2026 21:55

am sorry but he needs to go. LTB

Endofyear · 29/05/2026 21:53

Jesus wept 🤦‍♀️ please dump this hideous man. He is vile.

Notsosweetcaroline · 29/05/2026 21:51

Isittimeformynapyet · 29/05/2026 21:22

A Scottish woman I know insists that cunt is used as a term of endearment up there 🤔 She's from Glasgow.

It is not being used as a term of endearment here.

BCBird · 29/05/2026 21:30

If someone called me a cunt I would be full of rage. He is a disgrace

NiftyGreenBiscuit · 29/05/2026 21:29

He’s abusive. You know this surely.

FelicityShagsWell · 29/05/2026 21:28

Sunisgettinganewhaton · 29/05/2026 20:51

Could you actually be in love with the man you wish he was rather than the man he actually is op?

I don't know how anyone can be in love with a man who calls them names like that.

cupfinalchaos · 29/05/2026 21:28

You are in love with someone who calls you a stupid c**t? I don’t even know where to start.

hattie43 · 29/05/2026 21:24

Barney16 · 29/05/2026 20:55

If he called you the c word that's unforgivable. Not sure why you are persisting with him, he's a self absorbed looser.

Agreed . Anyone calling me the C word would be an ex

Holdinguphalfthesky · 29/05/2026 21:23

I have to say I agree with pp, this is a horrible situation and I wonder if you’ve been the proverbial frog in boiling water? Please do think carefully about what positives your H brings to your life- are there any? Do you edit your own behaviour constantly to placate him- do you refuse things you would enjoy because the fallout from you doing them would be so difficult to deal with?

Isittimeformynapyet · 29/05/2026 21:22

A Scottish woman I know insists that cunt is used as a term of endearment up there 🤔 She's from Glasgow.

TomatoSandwiches · 29/05/2026 21:18

Git rid of this one op, he sounds dangerous.

AgnesX · 29/05/2026 21:17

Blondiebeachbabe · 29/05/2026 20:49

I know! His own mother was never kind to him so I don’t know if he’s jealous or something, but it feels ridiculous. He was right in my face calling me a stupid cunt too. This is because I drive a small car that isn’t great on the motorway, but I would just drive at 60mph, who cares?

My DH called me a cunt to my face he'd be getting his marching orders. What a disgraceful way to speak to your partner.

He sounds like a miserable sod; what does he bring to your life? Boot him out - Is a single ticket to Australia an option, for you that is.

Edit: to add missed words

Notsosweetcaroline · 29/05/2026 21:14

You even said you were in love with him. Do you have a history of abuse, how can you be in love with him?

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