I’m in my 50s.
Almost all important and non important men in my life, have disappointed me in catastrophic ways. Some directly treating me badly. Some indirectly by treating people I love badly.
I’m at the stage where the scales have fallen from my eyes. Not just fallen, but disappeared into a black hole. I know this happens for many women in perimenopause. I know we suddenly look up and around at this age and we are absolutely done with tolerating bad behaviour.
Some of my own personal stories relating to bad behaviour from men relate to verbal and physical abuse, financial and economic abuse, infidelity and cheating, inequality within the home in terms of chores and life admin, inequality in the workplace and in salaries.
I am just so done.
I’ve been devastated by the actions of my own DF, my own DH, ex BFs, uncles, cousins, friends.
There was one remaining man who I held in high esteem my entire life. BIL of decades. The brother I never had. I learnt recently he has cheated for years. When my DSIS told me, it was just like the last remaining shred of… I can’t even think of the word…. died within me.
It could not be more shocking in terms of who he appears to be from the outside. And yet I am numb.
The world seems to be run and controlled by lunatic men at the moment and this is just the icing on the cake.
This final revelation means I have zero belief in the goodness of any man any longer. I was holding on to it by a shred anyway.
AIBU to feel that the majority of men are cheating, abusive, lazy, weak willed, insecure, selfish, overpaid, mediocre, disrespectful fools?