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To not take any conception now I’m 40

263 replies

68days · 29/05/2026 19:23

I’m 40 in late July and have been talking about with dh not using condoms or any other form of conception anymore

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ChalkOutlines · 29/05/2026 21:47

Imthefunfriend · 29/05/2026 19:24

PS I think you mean contraception 🫣

Freudian slip?😂😬

LadyRoughDiamond · 29/05/2026 21:46

Well, to start with, it’s conTRAception that you should be using.
And you should still be using it because you’re 10 years too early to talk about stopping. Come back when you’re about to turn 50 and we’ll take this more seriously.

LarksAscending · 29/05/2026 21:42

Short Latin lesson:

Contra - against
Con - together

Ception (from Cepare) - taking.

So conception is the two gametes ‘taking together’ and contraception is ‘against taking together’.

EmeraldRoulette · 29/05/2026 21:42

Great, if you want to have a baby

In my family there are two babies born to women in their 50s. Makes perfect sense, I mean you can technically have a baby until menopause.

Go ahead and stop using contraception as long as you want to have a baby. Most of the parents I know had their babies early 40s

Otherwise, you're just mad.

Notmyreality · 29/05/2026 21:41

Inconceivable.

greengreengrass3 · 29/05/2026 21:40

Unless you want babies then I’d highly recommend you used contraceptives, my friend had a babies at 41 and 45. I’m 44 and still have regular periods, my DH had a vasectomy last November

B1anche · 29/05/2026 21:37

Zov · 29/05/2026 19:26

I would NEVER risk it at 40! 😱 The chance of getting pregnant then is much slimmer than at when you're under 30, but the chances are fair!

Do you REALLY want a baby at 41-42-ish?! Child still at school when you're 60?!!!! 😱

Lots of us have babies in our early 40s. What's with all the exclamation marks and horrified emojis?

BCBird · 29/05/2026 21:36

Ethelspagetti · 29/05/2026 21:13

Why? Are you okay if you conceive? My mum had me at 40 and my sister had a baby at 52! I really wouldn’t risk it and would buy a box of condoms.

52? Oh my goodness

BCBird · 29/05/2026 21:35

There's no way I'd do this. U r still fertile. If you don't believe what people are saying look at nhs guidance.

AnneLovesGilbert · 29/05/2026 21:28

ChasingRainbow5 · 29/05/2026 21:19

I’m 41, pregnant and thrilled about it.

Pretty sure this thread is just random rage bait though.

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Congratulations! Wishing you well 😊

notatinydancer · 29/05/2026 21:23

GP told me 55 , 40 is madness. If you stop now you’re actively trying for a baby.

ChasingRainbow5 · 29/05/2026 21:19

Zov · 29/05/2026 19:26

I would NEVER risk it at 40! 😱 The chance of getting pregnant then is much slimmer than at when you're under 30, but the chances are fair!

Do you REALLY want a baby at 41-42-ish?! Child still at school when you're 60?!!!! 😱

I’m 41, pregnant and thrilled about it.

Pretty sure this thread is just random rage bait though.

Ethelspagetti · 29/05/2026 21:13

Why? Are you okay if you conceive? My mum had me at 40 and my sister had a baby at 52! I really wouldn’t risk it and would buy a box of condoms.

ThornsInACheapBouquet · 29/05/2026 21:11

I was sterilised on the NHS at 41 so yeah, you could get pregnant

ThreeWordUsername · 29/05/2026 21:08

I'm knocking on a bit myself OP and I sure don't want any conceptioning.

Runkle · 29/05/2026 21:02

The fact you're calling it conception instead of contraception says a lot..

Allmarbleslost · 29/05/2026 21:00

I'm confused. Are you asking if you should try for a baby?

YourWinter · 29/05/2026 20:51

Have you ever conceived in the past, or is this a try for your first child? You can’t be dim enough to think that at 40, you’re too old to conceive?

SquigglePigs · 29/05/2026 20:48

I know several people who conceived in their early 40's (mix of deliberately and accidentally) so only do that if you're very comfortable with either another baby or abortion. (Although warning for relying on the second one - one of my friends found themselves 20+ weeks with DC2 before they realised after an assisted conception for DC1 so the extra child might not be optional!)

My friend is 51 and her Dr still recommends staying on the pill just in case!

Trotula · 29/05/2026 20:47

Why doesn’t he have a vasectomy?

thewitchisin · 29/05/2026 20:37

I’m 42 with stage 4 endo and using a Mirena and condoms!

Meekinheritance · 29/05/2026 20:37

Zov · 29/05/2026 19:26

I would NEVER risk it at 40! 😱 The chance of getting pregnant then is much slimmer than at when you're under 30, but the chances are fair!

Do you REALLY want a baby at 41-42-ish?! Child still at school when you're 60?!!!! 😱

Oh do eff off. I had my first and 40 and second at 43 and wasn’t even the oldest pregnant women I knew either time. There were a whole batch of us having babies at 40 in my NCT class.

I’m stunned your world is so small that you don’t realise this is common.

Error404FucksNotFound · 29/05/2026 20:32

Why?

Meekinheritance · 29/05/2026 20:31

Well if you take no conception you’ll end up with one 🙂

Seriously, conception after 40 is really common. Especially till your mid forties. But even after that natural, and successful, pregnancies can occur.

So unless you want a baby, you should take contraception till you have reached menopause.

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 29/05/2026 20:30

It’s a great way to end your with an unplanned late baby. Unless of course you’re planning on a final panic baby.

im 40 and fairly confident that my fertile years are behind me. Luckily I had my kids young because I think I would have struggled to conceive if I had left it until my 30s let alone 40s. But I’m not risking it. I’ll be on contraception until the menopause has done its thing!