To not take any conception now I’m 40

Gosh if you want more babies carry on. Until your periods stop, there is always a risk!

It's actually not. I had my last baby at 41. My twin cousins had their first babies at 43 and 44 and I currently have two friends pregnant at 42.

It's actually more common now. The average age increases all the time.

I'm 38 and was told I would be more likely to get struck by lightning than fall pregnant naturally again due to age and infertility.

I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant, so........

My dream of having two children was much more important to me than any dreams about retirement. People won't get the state pension till about 68 anyway, if we're expected to be capable of working I'm sure we can also parent

I don't need to 'check my maths.' Children are at school until they are 18, so many women having a baby at 42 would have a child still at at school, when they are SIXTY! They will be leaving soon sure, but many of these children will be financially dependent on their mother/parents until the parents are nearly 70. (Or older.) Call me picky, but my dream retirement plan is not having teenagers in my 60s, and them still living with me - and me supporting them til I am 70 or older.

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Maybe she's busy brushing up on her basic biology and/or literacy?

I agree. It is. To have a baby anyway. I know most women have their first baby at 42-43 on Mumsnet (and so does everyone in their 'social circle,') and then have another one in their mid 40s, and then one at 50!

But in the real world, the average age for a first time mum is 30 (in the UK.) Average age of the last baby is usually 33-34. In the real world women having babies in their 40s are the exception rather than the rule.

@Rumplestiltzit makes a lot more sense to not get pregnant if that’s not what she wants.

Op isn’t coming back and probably never intended to

I doubt OP is coming back.

What is behind your thinking - you want more children or you think your fertility is low enough at 40 not to bother with contraception?

The second is categorically untrue. I am 48 and my GP advises I continue using contraception until well over 50.

Unless of course you would welcome a pregnancy - in which case I wish you luck 🌻

Um yeah no. I speak with confidence that you are taking a huge and unnecessary risk there. I wish someone had bluntly advised me when I was 42!

I should say I am nearly 40. We are having one last go with our last embryo and if it doesn't work DH is going for the snip. He is also doing that if we have a third. If we with infertility are thinking of doing that then you shouldn't give up contraception either.

Well we are trying for a third. My husband is 55 but I am 39. Yes there is that risk but you can also die young at any age.

You want to stop ‘conception’ - ie make sure you do NOT get pregnant, in which case you’ll need to continue with your contraception? Or are you trying to say that you want to stop your contraception (pill, coil, etc)? If it’s the second one of those, do you want a baby, or do you think being 40 magically means you can’t get pregnant so don’t need contraception?

The answer is simple: if you don’t want to get pregnant, you need to continue using contraception; if you do want to get pregnant, then stop contraception.

From your only other comment here about ‘40 not being old’, it sounds like you might want a baby or want to leave it to chance because you can’t decide? It’s better to make an informed decision after discussion with your partner. For a start, you’d need to take folic acid prior to conception if you plan to conceive.

Why not speak to the Family Planning nurse at your GP surgery? They can give you facts and talk things through with you and ensure you understand.

Beg to differ. Unless you don't have any DC yet then last couple years to try for 1.

Pointless thread unless the poster clarifies whether she intends to get pregnant or whether she does not want to get pregnant but thinks that at 40 her chances of conceiving are low.

So are you planning another baby or what?

Why does it matter if you're 40? If you stop contraception you could still get pregnant. I have many friends who had babies in their 40s.
If you don't want more kids, why can't your husband get the snip?

I had DC2 at 45 (naturally/no intervention). If pregnancy would be a happy outcome then yanbu/pregnancy is still a "risk" as it were. Good luck whatever you decide OP.

As someone who struggled with fertility for years, I had babies at 32, 38 and 41, so, good luck with that if you are hoping to avoid children.....

Then you want more children?

How does your husband feel about that?

You .ust be joking my sisters had babies at 47 and 48.

This post could have been written by my mum 26 years ago! So glad she wrongly assumed her baby making days were over 😂.

Most people will struggle to conceive naturally at that age, but your body may well give it one last push and next thing you know you’re pregnant! Speak to your nurse before you make any decisions.

So sounds like you actually want to get pregnant?

As long as you’re both on the same page, then go ahead!