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To not take any conception now I’m 40

263 replies

68days · 29/05/2026 19:23

I’m 40 in late July and have been talking about with dh not using condoms or any other form of conception anymore

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TotalBaloney · 29/05/2026 19:26

If you want more kids, then no you’re definitely NBU.

SunSparkle · 29/05/2026 19:25

Enjoy your twins at 44

TruJay · 29/05/2026 19:25

I’m guessing you mean contraception?
So you mean because you want a baby? Or you think you’re old enough at 40 that you won’t get pregnant even without using protection because that is absolutely still a possibility at 40. People are choosing to start their families in their 40s, it’s definitely not a ‘safe zone’.

OhGoshNotAgain · 29/05/2026 19:25

Goodness. Given you don’t know the difference between conception and contraception, I don’t think it’s a good idea.

If this is genuine - surely you look at the world around you and see lots of women in their early 40s having babies? You understand that you’re able to get pregnant until you reach menopause? There isn’t a magic switch that turns when you’re 40 and stops you being fertile.

Strawberrydelight78 · 29/05/2026 19:25

You mean contraception? Conception means to conceive a child. You can still get pregnant past 40.

Sparrowsandbudgies · 29/05/2026 19:25

Unless you 💯 know you’ve gone through menopause (which would be unusual at your age) you’d be an idiot.

Imthefunfriend · 29/05/2026 19:24

PS I think you mean contraception 🫣

DreamingOfGeneHunt · 29/05/2026 19:24

I have two brothers born when my mother was 40 and 42.

Meridas · 29/05/2026 19:24

Are you trying to get pregnant?

Imthefunfriend · 29/05/2026 19:24

I’m not sure that’s a good idea OP unless you would be ok with a pregnancy.

TheFormidableMrsC · 29/05/2026 19:24

Ahh enjoy your middle age babies!

Rituelec · 29/05/2026 19:23

If you still have periods then you are probably still fertile.

Motnight · 29/05/2026 19:23

So you are planning to have more children.

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