To not take any conception now I’m 40

I had DD1 when I was 41 and DD2 when I was 42…

This thread is great and all, but @68days could you please answer this:

Do you want children? Would you be happy if you got a nice surprise?

I got pregnant twice in my 40s and unfortunately both times ended in a miscarriage. It was heartbreaking and we are now very very careful. I'm 46.

Gosh that doesn’t sound like he was treated well at all. Yes my DH had a consultant & two nurses for his procedure. Poor man may have scar tissue there now. I’ve got that from my surgeries it’s not pleasant at all especially for something which should be a small procedure. His story certainly won’t sell it to other men to have it done bless.

I know, poor lad - he did get it checked out. Turns out he had an infection following the procedure and a large pus filled area. Thankfully that was sorted so the severe pain has gone but he still has a dull twinge to this day - 4ish yrs since the surgery. It's more noticeable when it's quiet and he's not distracted, but sadly there's nothing they can do for him.. 😱
My DH had the procedure done by a doctor and 2 nurses ...however his friend had just one nurse performing it in a side room and in comparison the procedure sounds way less professional.... So buyer beware!
Having said that I think this ache is a very rare side effect so wouldn't let it put you off. DH said it was absolutely straightforward/fine and would recommend 👍🏻

Oh dear, he should get that checked out it shouldn’t hurt for him now!

My DH had the snip years back - all fine/no issues.
His friend had it done a year ago and still has testicular ache to this day poor lad 😧😱

Had my first at 40 and second at 42

Get your DH in for the snip! Mine had to have it as I’ve had enough surgeries due to fertility issues & anaesthetic issues & I reacted badly to the pill & coils so it was his turn.. one little stitch in the 🥜 job done! Mind you according to him it’s major surgery 🤦‍♀️😆🤣 well he should’ve listened & gone home put his feet up instead of going to the pub as it was still numb from the anaesthetic 🤦‍♀️🥴😆

40 is young. I had 2nd baby at 40. Nhs recommends contraception into your 50s

Weren't you 38 in your post about no longer using contraception this morning.

Contraception; FGS

You"ll be pregnant by Michaelmas.
Good luck.

I have 3 friends who had children at or over 40 who didn't mean to- what do you think?

Well I am 41 in August, currently and unexpectedly 8 weeks pregnant, my other 2 children are almost 22 and 21, so yes unless you actually want a baby, don't give up contraception.

My mum also had my little sister at 43, 22 year age gap between us.

Well any sibling could say that. Having you at 43 made no difference. Sounds like she is a spoilt brat.

My friend had her second set of twins at 47! Her first set were 17.

I'm sure you mean CONTRACEPTION - CONCEPTION has only ever happened once about about 2026 yrs ago..!😂

My doctor when I asked said they recommend using contraceptives until the age of 55.

Exactly. It's common.

And?

People are talking about it on this thread as, as far as I can tell, a sort of warning to the OP, who seems to have suggested it’s safe to come off contraception (not entirely clear because she seems to have gone, but that appears to be the best guess at what she meant).

What’s the relevance of all the women who don’t have babies in their 40s? They might all be on really good contraception. Which doesn’t shed any light whatsoever on the question of fertility in one’s 40s.

But why are you going on about average ages. That has very little to do with fertility, given that we have such a thing as contraception. There is choice involved in when women have children.

The posters talking anecdotally about older mothers are in fact more relevant to the subject of the thread, which is about a woman stopping contraception at 40. So posters are talking about how fertile she may or may not be. Of what relevance are average ages of childbirth to that question?

It never ceases to amaze me how many women on Mumsnet have multiple babies in their 40s, because I can count on the fingers of one hand the amount of women I know who have had a baby in their 40s in the past 30 years. And I move in several social circles and mix with various social classes.

Professional and non professional people, people educated to university/masters level, people educated to GSCE level, teachers, solicitors, CEOs, nurses, doctors, consultants, vicars, reverends, surgeons, psychiatrists, radiologists, dentists, checkout operators, nannies, secretaries, admin workers ... people from all walks of life, and having babies in their 40s is something I rarely see. As I said, I could count all the women I know on the fingers of one hand who have had babies in their 40s... Yet on here there are hundreds! And all of these hundreds know hundreds more!!!

Parallel Universe of Mumsnet strikes again!

Second (very welcome) baby at 39 many years ago.

Good idea if you are happy with another pregnancy. No guarantee either way, but still good chance of pregnancy.