AIBU in looking for Rachel..
And around 2000-2002 had a long distance relationship with a Frenchman living in Paris, surname starting with L?
And were you planning, in around 2002, to move to another EU country with him (not France)?
And did you choose a flat together in a quiet, greenish area of the new city?
And did you, very last minute, decide not to make the move and to end the relationship?
The dates may be slightly out. The gist isn't.
If this sounds familiar, I would really love to know why you didn't go - the real story.
I met him a few years later. He told me that it was probably because your mother didn't like him. She had a thing against him because he was French and she convinced you to dump him. Back when he told me, he was the big victim in the story. I was totally naive then and thought it sounded odd, but people are strange, so it wasn't impossible, right? And he was clearly sad about it all. Poor, sweet him....
I ended up marrying him. And I've often thought about you, and wondered. I eventually managed to get divorced. And if you read this and do not get in touch, please know you that you did the right thing, whatever the reason was, to simply not come. He is a master manipulator and coercive controller. When I tried to divorce him, it took years and years and years. I thought about how simply not turning up was brilliant - assuming that was actually what happened!
There are some details I've missed out, i.e. the name of the city and country you were moving to, his name, where his family is from, his work etc, so you can fill them in if it's really you. You could DM me or just reply below (obviously without his personal details).