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AIBU to end it after he would not help with my flat tyre

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Leabee1234 · 29/05/2026 13:35

Ive been with my partner over a year and ive just ended things again as I am so fed up and I am distraught now. My final straw was today I had a flat tyre and was standed with my 3 year old in the car (not his child mine from previous relationship) I basically have a spare wheel but no.idea how to fit it and I was stressed panicking with my unsettled son in the car. I rang him he didnt once offer to help I then said are you not going to offer to help as no one else is available and im stranded. He said its not his fault I dont habe breakdown cover and im an idiot for not knowing how to chanfe a tyre. He was 30.mins away but was free this morning wasnt working. I would always and have always offered to help him if he eber needs it. So ibe gone mad and lost my shit with him. He said im entitled.i basically ended up having yo drive over 10 mins with flat tyre to garage crying as I was worried my car would break or wheel.would comd off. He just doesnt care or make effort at all. He always says he loves me and cares but he doesnt show it. He also doesnt show mucu interest in my son. Weve had alot of arguments about his lack of effort and how I feel unappreciated and unsupported but nothing changes. Now ive gonr mad he said that this is my fault and hes glad were over . We had a holiday booked in 2 weeks just me.and him for a few nights also. I just feel so shit. I feel like I make so much effort for him and always have and I dont receive it. How do I find strength to let go. I hate the thoucht of starting over again. Im exhausted from trying

OP posts:
Leabee1234 · 29/05/2026 13:40

Fidgety31 · 29/05/2026 13:39

Maybe he doesn’t know how to change a tyre either

He does. He just refused to help me when I was stuck

OP posts:
Fidgety31 · 29/05/2026 13:39

Maybe he doesn’t know how to change a tyre either

Morepositivemum · 29/05/2026 13:39

it doesn’t sound like you’re being unreasonable no. (And I do normally say maybe he was having a bad day etc etc but to nag you when you’re stuck- feck that)

Fortysevenpl · 29/05/2026 13:38

He does not love you one bit if he just couldn’t be arsed to help you and called you an idiot for not know how to change the wheel. Well, many cars don’t even have a spare wheel these days. And RAC often take 5+ hours to come out these days.

regardless, look at it like this. Your tyre punctured for a reason and the universe has shown you what a selfish cunt this man is. You are better off without him. Run a mile, don’t take him back

PixeyandDixey · 29/05/2026 13:38

YANBU, your partner should have your back as you have his, otherwise what's the point of him. Ditch him and get AA breakdown.

LauritaEvita · 29/05/2026 13:37

He’s showing you what type of man he is. Stay away from him.