Was I inappropriate to request this from my dentist?

Absolutely reasonable. Reports of women being assaulted while sedated or unconscious or even dead in funeral homes mean we are never guaranteed to be safe. I would want a chaperone.

There are many reasons why someone else may not be allowed

it depends on the proceedure eg implant etc the surgery is set up sterile with drapes etc and any else would need to be gowned up , briefed on not touching anything , surfaces etc and space needs to be made for them and a chair in a room that already will have at least four people in it all with jobs to do

many people do not react well to witnessing dental/surgical proceedures ranging from fainting to becoming aggressive or argumentative. I once had a child in the chair for an extraction which they handled brilliantly but both parents fainted right by the doors , so help couldn’t get in and we had the child, and two parents to cope with.

I also had a patients partner take out their phone and start filming them as they thought it was funny when the patient was having a complex proceedure . They got very aggressive when told to stop filming and leave the room.

People find it hard to sit for an hour or more without phones etc to distract them , but for obvious reasons we cannot let phones be used in these circumstances , both for privacy reasons and because phone screens are a Petri dish of bacteria .

When you are doing a complex proceedure, particularly under sedation it is difficult to have to also monitor what an accompanying person is doing for an hour or more whilst you are carrying out a complex microsurgery. With very nervous patients we would often let someone be in with them whilst they were induced and then send them out to wait. With at least three professionals in the room at all times safe guarding is not a concern.

But does it state no other ppl e.g husband allowed?

Page 28 of this document states you need at least one other sedation trained person , alongside the sedationist . https://www.saad.org.uk/IACSD%202020.pdf
and there will be at least one dental nurse in addition to provide the dental nursing support as required by GDC standards

I had weekly work on my teeth under sedation and I was allowed a person with me. There was also the dentist plus nurse.
This was in an NHS hospital...there were 10 or so beds with only waist high barriers between each cubicle. Once lying down you couldn't see each other.

Pls cite the document or knowledge you based this on.

What kinds of magazines does he have in the waiting room?

Just had this done and there were 2 dental nurses in the room the whole time, 1 of which was holding my hand

Oh for heavens sake

You are asking a trained medical professional if it's ok for your boo to be present as he performs a medical procedure in a sterile (or close to as can be) room

When said medical professional will have at least one nurse supporting

Would you want your husband there for gallbladder removal or him to snuggle up with you in an MRI??

I think the dental nurse should be there, however, they may need to pop out like they sometimes do so I understand your feelings on this. I’d explain why.

The dental nurse is a chaperone for both the dentist and the patient. That is a very important and big part of their job. A dentist will not treat you without their nurse.

I stayed with my mum a few times as she was a very nervous patient and was never made to feel it was unusual or a problem.

Seriously?- I've never had major work without a nurse there too- sedation is usually handled by a specialist- a lone dentist only uses local.

When I was sedated I had my dentist, a nurse and some doing the sedation who was also a dentist (or it could be a doctor) who happened to be my dentists wife- and they are great people. After my surgery he walked me to the car and made sure I was sat in it and fated I before I was driven home!

I’m very lucky he is NHS too

YANBU in our town a dentist raped lots of his patients… who were sedated … I would be concerned if they didn’t let your husband attend. With mask etc of course. Weird af time to find another dentist

he should be agreeing to what makes you comfortable if this is in his surgery. Its not unreasonable to ask for husband to be in the room/accompany you.

This - there's always a nurse present.

There is always an attendant there as it would be impossible for the Dentist to do any treatment by themselves. If you have to be sedated, there may well even be a team of people.

Despite your post, one has to ask if this is actually your request or your husband being controlling.

For those that voted YANBU did you even think of that first before firing off. How many more women are going to give up their freedoms unnecessarily.

Is he still willing to complete the work on you?

I presume you are based in the UK, if so, I used to be a dental nurse. If we ever had nervous patients that required sedation usually using Valium, we had strict protocols that I was not allowed to leave the room once it was administered. If the dentist needed anything we had to call another nurse to come in or go get what was needed, this was about monitoring the patient but also about protecting them whilst being under sedation. Completely within your rights to ask and if he is not happy with it, I would be asking for another dentist or asking what their protocols are when providing sedation. Best of luck.

I hate the dentist, I used to take my Dad, even as an adult!

Anyone accompanying you in order to take you home, would surely stay in the waiting room/reception area.

When I was 18 and didnt know any better I went to a new dentist because my old one had gone private. It was just me and a male dentist who numbed my mouth and then left the room for 15 minutes. He said he couldn't put a cap on the tooth so it had to come out...then couldn't get it out and just removed the nerve and snapped off the bits he could see. Unsurprisingly ended up with an infection and a much bigger procedure later with another dentist to try and extract the root. Many years later the dentist was in the paper due to allegations of malpractice and alcoholism. He resigned before he could be struck off!

Fucks sake how on earth do you ever leave the house without hubbys protection

I want to hear more about THAT! 😂