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To be annoyed at this child and family (on holiday)

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Blueeyedstork · 29/05/2026 00:14

We are in Spain at the moment with another couple and their kids. DH and I have one DS (13)

a bit of backstory relevant to this is when I was 11 I was pushed out of a boat on the lake in the Lake District on a school residential trip and was not allowed to get changed until the rest of the activities that afternoon were finished. So I was wet and freezing cold. It also took someone ages to respond to the fact I had been pushed out the boat, so ever since then I have had a phobia of cold water and being out my depth. It’s got to the point where a single spash can freak me out so I stay out of the pool as I know it’s unreasonable on a family resort to ask kids not to splash. it’s my problem and I deal with it.

anyway fast forward the last 2 days we have been sat on sunbeds and there is a family of 3 kids with water guns just squirting them at everyone on the sunbeds. The first time I jumped out of my skin. My husband asked them to stop and other people have asked them to stop including a family with a child with autism who was getting really upset. The parents just shrug and said we are by a pool so we should expect it. Eventually the mothers of the child with autism when to get one of the staff members and they were told to pack it in.

today they were back doing the same thing. They got me twice and once in the face which really panicked me. The staff at the pool today were not bothered and would not tell them to stop so I spend the afternoon sitting away from the pool. I had been there about 10 minutes with my eyes shut before I feel this cold water on my face and one of the little buggers and stood there spraying right in my face. Well I feel off the chair and have injured my shoulder. My husband marched up to the staff and demanded the manager of the hotel. The lifeguard then actually asked the family to stop.

Then coming back from evening meal tonight and we were suddenly all covered with water and one of the little buggers was stood outside his chalet squirting people going past but this time he has obviously been bought the biggest super soaker in the shop. The boy laughed and shouted “dad it’s the lady who screams when she is squirted” (I didn’t really scream just let out a yelp a few times). The dad burst out laughing. I had to hold DH back from confronting him. (The dad is built like a brick shit house and looks the type that would punch someone just for fun)

anyway we when to reception and reported them but the staff don’t seem bothered. I kind of feel these boys will be out to get me tomorrow as they obviously find my reaction funny. the parents don’t give a toss

we have 3 days left and I don’t want to be looking over my shoulder all the time. What can I do or am I being unreasonable about all this

OP posts:
nicepotoftea · 29/05/2026 08:48

Mumandcarer80 · 29/05/2026 08:39

Have you never thought of getting some counselling? They are targeting you because they know they will get a good reaction. They’re kids that’s what they do. We’ve all been kids we all did this.

And I say that as someone who was chucked into a river fully clothed as a teenager by my friends boyfriend’s. Because I didn’t want to jump off the bridge some of the others had. I had to sit in wet clothes in my friend’s brothers car to get home. Then I had to walk home which is about a 40 minute walk.

No, most children do not do this, and most parents don't allow their children to do this.

I would be sympathetic if they were just jumping in the pool and other hotel guests were getting slightly splashed, but it is very much not normal to target complete strangers with water guns.

LondonTipton99 · 29/05/2026 08:44

Mumandcarer80 · 29/05/2026 08:39

Have you never thought of getting some counselling? They are targeting you because they know they will get a good reaction. They’re kids that’s what they do. We’ve all been kids we all did this.

And I say that as someone who was chucked into a river fully clothed as a teenager by my friends boyfriend’s. Because I didn’t want to jump off the bridge some of the others had. I had to sit in wet clothes in my friend’s brothers car to get home. Then I had to walk home which is about a 40 minute walk.

WOW

No it isn’t what kids do. I would go ape at my kids if they were purposely squirting at someone and the water guns would be removed. And no I never did this.

what the hell.

only complete twats would do this or let their kids do this.

OP. Take it up a notch. Tell the hotel staff that it’s assault and you will be calling the police go to the hotel. Bet they take it seriously then.

Mumandcarer80 · 29/05/2026 08:39

Have you never thought of getting some counselling? They are targeting you because they know they will get a good reaction. They’re kids that’s what they do. We’ve all been kids we all did this.

And I say that as someone who was chucked into a river fully clothed as a teenager by my friends boyfriend’s. Because I didn’t want to jump off the bridge some of the others had. I had to sit in wet clothes in my friend’s brothers car to get home. Then I had to walk home which is about a 40 minute walk.

StretchingShantyJugg · 29/05/2026 08:37

Reading this has made my blood boil. Entitled little fuckers, encouraged by their useless and selfish parents.

I'd just keep complaining to staff and management - theres nothing else you can do, seeing as the parents couldn't care less.

FloorWipes · 29/05/2026 08:33

We had to report a family on holiday a couple of years ago because they were screaming in their room and on their balcony and I was actually concerned for their safety as well as the fact that it was unpleasant for us and we couldn't sleep. Multiple people complained but hotel reception was initially reluctant to get involved so DH told them that if security didn't come he would be phoning the police there and then. It was a Tui holiday and they seemed to have joint security across their local hotels so some security arrived from elsewhere. The next day a rep came and put the family on a final warning that with any further disturbance they would be removed from the hotel. We had no issues the rest of our stay. I definitely think you just need to escalate this with staff, manager, tour operator etc.

StephensLass1977 · 29/05/2026 08:33

Meaowth33 · 29/05/2026 01:36

Do you really say 'sat' instead of 'say'?

Beat me to it 😂.

Op, this is absolutely horrible. Been on the receiving end of kids like this more times than I can remember, but never on holiday. I remember walking our dogs a year or two ago in some lovely woodland by our house, and a huge group of teenage girls appeared. My heart sank, as this type never leave people alone. Sure enough they started running up to us, screaming the word "pigeon" repeatedly (nope, me neither). I think I've seen a few of the parents and they are as you describe those boys' father. I told them to fuck off, and called them cunts. That shut them up.

However, I'd put my house on the fact that if you showed any sort of temper or light discipline, the father would be challenging your husband to a fight.

I honestly don't know what can be done about families like this, as everyone seems terrified of them. The amount of parents I've had steaming up to me and threatening me because I've nicely asked their kid to stop coming into my garden and ripping up my grass, for example.

Please leave as many bad reviews as you can. Shocking the staff won't deal with it.

Inmyuggs · 29/05/2026 08:32

Grab the gun
Little shits
1 star review.

G5000 · 29/05/2026 08:30

EmeraldShamrock000 · 29/05/2026 08:16

I’m surprised the staff haven’t noticed. I love Spain, the lifeguards have no problem policing bad behaviour, really surprised that they haven’t spoken to the parents.
Why didn’t anyone report it to staff? They would definitely deal with it.

OP said: we when to reception and reported them but the staff don’t seem bothered

airportfloor · 29/05/2026 08:29

Say you'll give the kids £100 at the end of their hol if they stop squirting. And then dont give it to them.

Passingthrough123 · 29/05/2026 08:29

I would speak to other people around the pool who have been targeted and get a group together to confront the parents en masse. Take Noodles in lieu of pitchforks.

BUT – and this is crucial – tell the management first. Let them know that because of their inaction, an ugly row is brewing poolside and that's on them. Make it very clear you'll also all be making a formal complaint about how they've sat back and allowed your holiday to be ruined by this selfish family.

Bet they'll have it sorted before you've armed yourselves with the swimming aids.

Weeellokthen · 29/05/2026 08:28

Meaowth33 · 29/05/2026 01:36

Do you really say 'sat' instead of 'say'?

Touche 😂

Katemax82 · 29/05/2026 08:25

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 29/05/2026 00:29

It would be most unfortunate if, when you were passing the child, that you accidentally grabbed the water gun and stuck it up their father's arse...

Lol!

luckylavender · 29/05/2026 08:25

Thequeenofwishfulthinking · 29/05/2026 01:47

I would get a couple of buckets of water ready first thing and tip the full contents over their heads next time you see them.
When they complain (and they definitely will) say you thought they wanted a water fight given their recent behaviour but you must have got the wrong end of the stick etc.
Act completely innocent and baffled by their negative reaction..

That would just escalate matters and they probably would enjoy it more

allthingsinmoderation · 29/05/2026 08:24

I dont think you are being unreasonable about this.
I dont think you have to explain your childhood trauma to feel its unacceptable to be repeated squirted with a water gun.
Its one thing to quite rightly think playing with a water gun/squirted toy in a pool on holiday is normal fun but squirting others without their consent is not fun.
Formal complaint in writing to manager explaining the extent of the spoiling of your enjoyment.if no response escalate, failing all else the scathing review may illicit a response. The power of a great review is not to be underestimated. Make the review balanced but highlight the issue that ruined your holiday,a bit of humour (if you can find any) works wonders too.As for what you can do to make the last few days of your holiday enjoyable id go out of the hotel for the remaining time you have.

Quejica · 29/05/2026 08:24

Echoing the advice to ask for the complaints book. Libro de Reclamaciones. It may be forms rather than a book but it is taken very seriously in Spain. You should be given a copy to retain but definitely take a photo in case you are not.
I would also consider calling the local police if there are further incidents or even calling into the police station, the local police are generally very friendly and helpful (admittedly I can only speak of my experience).

CopeNorth · 29/05/2026 08:22

I’m sorry. This is awful. Can you get out for the day/go to the beach etc? x

Oriunda · 29/05/2026 08:17

DamsonBramble · 29/05/2026 07:44

There's a Robinsons squash advert where a teacher speaks to a parent about their child's bad behaviour at school and the mum goes home and giggles with the child about it while they drink squash. ie. Useless parenting/ Parents encouraging bad behaviour.

I absolutely hate this advert. Maybe that's the market that the Robinsons people are targeting. Nothing more guaranteed to stop me buying it.

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 29/05/2026 08:16

Get your own super soaker and sit next to the family spraying them, their phones, their bags and their clothes all day. It’s not fair they’re missing out on the fun!

EmeraldShamrock000 · 29/05/2026 08:16

G5000 · 29/05/2026 08:13

I expect to be splashed occasionally at the pool by random blasters of water.
It's not that though, OP says they are specifically squirting at people on sunbeds, not random accidental splashes.

I’m surprised the staff haven’t noticed. I love Spain, the lifeguards have no problem policing bad behaviour, really surprised that they haven’t spoken to the parents.
Why didn’t anyone report it to staff? They would definitely deal with it.

Galaxylights · 29/05/2026 08:15

Well since the parents are encouraging this behaviour, you can tell what entitled shits they will be growing up to.

Unfortunately if the hotel won't do anything, what can you do? Maybe report it to the holiday rep. Can you go off site for food?

I honestly don't understand some people and letting their kids do this shit. To actively encourage them to spoil it for others. This is where the entitlement you see today comes from, people letting kids do what they want with no consequences.

MamaToABeautifulBoy · 29/05/2026 08:13

You are being harassed. You need to speak to the Duty Manager.

MamaToABeautifulBoy · 29/05/2026 08:13

MyCottageGarden · 29/05/2026 08:05

Went and when are two completely different words.

Surely you’re not sitting by a pool all week?! What a waste of a holiday! Go out and explore the local area and make the most of your time there

You win the prize for the most patronising post on the thread 👏🏼

G5000 · 29/05/2026 08:13

I expect to be splashed occasionally at the pool by random blasters of water.
It's not that though, OP says they are specifically squirting at people on sunbeds, not random accidental splashes.

itsgettingweird · 29/05/2026 08:12

EmeraldShamrock000 · 29/05/2026 08:09

The chalet is unacceptable. The pool area is different. I expect to be splashed occasionally at the pool by random blasters of water. You can choose a lounger further from the pool, I wouldn’t be policing children playing with a squirter.
They’ve no idea that you have a phobia.
My children are older, they don’t use water toys, not old enough for an adult only hotel so for now it’s part of the package on a poolside trip.

She did choose a lounger further away. The child went up to her specifically to spray the water at her on the face.

Fast800goingforit · 29/05/2026 08:12

MyCottageGarden · 29/05/2026 08:05

Went and when are two completely different words.

Surely you’re not sitting by a pool all week?! What a waste of a holiday! Go out and explore the local area and make the most of your time there

Oh go stick your judgement! If someone wants to sit by the pool all week, what's it to you? My job and life are knackering. Much as I love getting out and about on holiday, relaxing by the pool is what I need sometimes.

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