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AIBU to think writing confidential HR notes on a train is inappropriate?

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Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:19

I am on a train in the UK.

Someone on the seat in front of me is writing up meeting notes from work. All clearly visible through the gaps between seats. I am slightly long sighted mind you.

I have seen that:

  • She works in HR for company X
  • The meeting was for an employee named Y (I can see his name and job title), following him raising a grievance about a GDPR breach of his data within work.
  • Subsequent notes of the meeting about this grievance.

She's still typing her notes now.

AIBU for thinking that people should be very mindful of what work they complete in public places? And that this is inappropriate, and if Y found out that these notes were being written in full public view, they would have a further grievance on their hands?

Or am I a nosey parker?

(Or both?)

OP posts:
Dancingintherain09 · 29/05/2026 18:45

AndyBurnhamForPM · 28/05/2026 17:21

I would contact the company and complain.

Same, writing up a GDPR issue while creating another 🤦🏼‍♀️

Witchonenowbob · 29/05/2026 18:45

Waspy43 · 29/05/2026 18:38

Exactly this ! Stop being nosey and look out the window or read a book , it has nothing to do with you

Stop working on a train in a non private area! Work at work not making up time whilst travelling.

Waspy43 · 29/05/2026 18:38

SandwichSuperstar · 28/05/2026 17:34

I think the consensus was 'get your nose out of the gap between the back of the seats'.

But that's relying on memory.

Exactly this ! Stop being nosey and look out the window or read a book , it has nothing to do with you

ChocolateCinderToffee · 29/05/2026 18:37

I used to work in the public sector and we were specifically trained to be careful about things like this. It amazes me that so many people don't realise they can be overseen or overheard in cafes or on public transport.

Gwenhwyfar · 29/05/2026 18:26

Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:36

That's fine 🤣 I can accept that I'm nosey.

But I'm not the one with an obligation for this man's confidentiality.

Exactly so it's none of your business.

Witchonenowbob · 29/05/2026 18:18

Ritaskitchen · 28/05/2026 17:22

She needs a privacy screen for her computer. Maybe just don’t look anymore. Or let her know? She maynot realise.

Maybe she should realise and manage her own security and not expect the world to turn a blind eye! Because they won’t!

Muffinme · 29/05/2026 18:09

I was going into work on the train about 10 years ago. Packed to the brim with commuters. An aged 30ish man was talking loudly to a mate on his phone. “Yes I’m at Name of Company now” he says - friend says something - “Yes I’m enjoying it, but all the women I work with are ugly” he replies sounding really quite annoyed. Well know insurance brokers in the City.

Forevergardening · 29/05/2026 18:09

In my line of work we do an annual gdpr refresher course and this type of scenario is part of the training. Its very wrong and breaches gdpr

mangoamango · 29/05/2026 18:02

Last year, I took a train for work. As the train was about to leave, 2 Very Important Business Men crashed into the carriage, speaking very loudly and paying very little attention to their surroundings. They found their seats a couple of rows from me and proceeded to spend the entire 2 hour journey finalising their presentation, discussing their pricing strategy, what their known weak points were and how they were going to divert attention from them. All very loudly and in great, great detail.

If they had paid just a little more attention to their surroundings, they would have seen me, recognised me as their former colleague who had left the company 2 months ago and worked out that I was highly likely to be travelling to pitch for the same project as them (they had even quoted my departure as one of the things that they wanted to avoid talking about).

If they had been a little bit more considerate of their fellow travellers on the 6.30 am train, I might have taken pity on them and said something.

The look on their faces when they saw me as we were getting off the train suggested that they will never make that mistake again.

Glasgowgal200 · 29/05/2026 17:58

I once overhead someone talking on the phone on a bus a few years ago about an employee wanting time off because their child was off sick from school and no-one else was available to look after them and the other person was saying it wasn't their problem and they had to still come in anyway

MiaKulper · 29/05/2026 13:33

@BanditTheCat , it isn’t breaking any law but it is.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 29/05/2026 13:12

BanditTheCat · 28/05/2026 22:46

I haven’t read all the comments but as someone who had a fairly long career in HR, it isn’t breaking any law, and honestly that person was probably just trying - like a lot of people in the corporate world - to use an opportunity where there’s a bit of dead time and they’re not being interrupted to get on top of their work. HR people do work on trains as well as other people do. Just because it’s HR and we deal with work confidential to the company, doesn’t mean just because someone’s taking a peek at that work that we’ve breached any type of ethics. And people saying “Ring the company!” are the same type of people who comment on threads about not being able to put offers in on houses that are already sold by offering the solution of “Just knock on the door and demand a viewing.”

How long ago was your career in HR????? The 1800’s??

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 29/05/2026 13:08

blubberyboo · 28/05/2026 22:18

Sorry she certainly was not entitled to assume nobody would peer through a train seat.

when you are responsible for someone’s data that doesn’t mean you get a pass for assuming that the general public are to take responsibility for averting their eyes

we live in a world where criminals are trying to harvest data all the time. The responsibility lies firmly with the data controller to protect it from everyone.

If she needed to work on the train she should have used a privacy screen or typed her notes up on a word document anonymising the personal data until she could transfer it to the file in a private place

no excuse and she deserves to be reported

Edited

I agree. Thinking how I’d feel if it was my personal info and info on a grievance being out there for anyone to see.

MiaKulper · 29/05/2026 12:07

@Pineapplewhip , The people on here telling you to report her are complete Karen's who take complete joy in knowing they might get someone fired.
what's with the 'complete Karen's' other than showing you to be an ageist bigot with poor grammar?

No consideration for the fact this is a human being, who might have a handful of kids at home
What's that got to do with her competence or lack of it?
Would you think it was OK for your GP to be slapdash because he or she had a handful of children?

and be reliant on this job to keep her head above water.
A job in which she fails to follow regulations

Its not a good economy - she could be out of work for months if she was sacked.
Tough shit. The organization could hire someone competent.

HoraceCope · 29/05/2026 10:22

and there is a chance she might have left the paper work on the train, it happens
there are rules surely

plsdontlookatme · 29/05/2026 10:18

Pineapplewhip · 29/05/2026 06:35

YANBU to think this is unprofessional. I quite agree and laugh at the irony of the complaint being about GDPR 😂

The people on here telling you to report her are complete Karen's who take complete joy in knowing they might get someone fired. No consideration for the fact this is a human being, who might have a handful of kids at home and be reliant on this job to keep her head above water. Its not a good economy - she could be out of work for months if she was sacked.

In some ways, I like the idea of writing a generic email to the company to put out a memorandum on being mindful on trains without names. It depends on how large the company is though- it may be just as outing to write this. Tbh i wouldn't be bothered with the hassle though.

Do people with children deserve additional leniency for wrongdoing?

Flyingintotheunknown · 29/05/2026 09:59

LetMeGoogleThat · 29/05/2026 09:55

I agree, the OP is there to travel between A and B. But, in this instance she's involved herself, and has a choice as to her actions, she chose MN 🤷‍♀️

Yes she chose MN for advice. I agree with pp’s that if she feels so strongly about it then she should report it directly to the company rather than addressing it with the employee herself.

LetMeGoogleThat · 29/05/2026 09:55

Flyingintotheunknown · 29/05/2026 09:15

Again, it is not the op’s responsibility to tap the HR woman on the shoulder and address it. The op can report it to the company if she likes and the company should be the ones to deal with it… not some member of the general public who happened to be on the same train journey. The op is not there to police employees of companies she doesn’t work for.

I agree, the OP is there to travel between A and B. But, in this instance she's involved herself, and has a choice as to her actions, she chose MN 🤷‍♀️

BitterTits · 29/05/2026 09:35

Elphabababa · 29/05/2026 06:32

This has been a split board for responses. 50/50 OP is a weirdo/HR lady is unacceptable.

I wasn't really interested in getting involved with talking to her about it on a busy train. Let's remember that the responsibility doesn't lay with me, it lays with her. I believe she was fully aware that people could see, as she had a stranger sat right next too her and people standing up in the aisle who could be looking.

I AM nosey that is true. Perhaps I should be more virtuous and look away. But that isn't actually the issue here as much as some people want to say it is.

But I have enjoyed talking it through.

If I was the person being written about in public, I'd want to know, particularly if I already had a grievance in the same vein! I know I can't do my work in public, so I don't.

Monty36 · 29/05/2026 09:27

Completely wrong. I remember sitting on a train and being appalled as I watched someone marking formal exam papers opposite me.

BitterTits · 29/05/2026 09:21

Can't believe the OP is getting the blame on the first page at least. I'd be tempted to send a photo to the person involved in support of their case!

LetMeGoogleThat · 29/05/2026 09:19

floatinginacoolpool · 29/05/2026 08:38

Exactly

  • do an online course (maybe on GDPR Grin)
  • read a journal or do some research
  • review public policy documents or any other publicly available information (a thorough read of the ICO's website might be a good place to start Grin)

Yes, that's all well and good general advice. However, the law is a tad more specific, the duty in this instance sits with the controller, the employer. So, unless you are familiar with their data security policies and protections in place, for this it should explicitly state that she can't work on a train, or should supply the privacy tools if not, then they are the ones at fault. You can't judge her unless you know the controls in place. The ICO are not really interested in her personal disclosure, they are interested in the employers interpretation and compliance of A4.

Flyingintotheunknown · 29/05/2026 09:15

LetMeGoogleThat · 29/05/2026 09:06

I didn't say it was right, I said it was understandable and mostly driven by modern work culture. Yes, she made a mistake, but the level of report her, on this thread, instead of maybe tap her on the shoulder and remind her that you can see it is pretty unpleasant.

Again, it is not the op’s responsibility to tap the HR woman on the shoulder and address it. The op can report it to the company if she likes and the company should be the ones to deal with it… not some member of the general public who happened to be on the same train journey. The op is not there to police employees of companies she doesn’t work for.

LetMeGoogleThat · 29/05/2026 09:06

floatinginacoolpool · 29/05/2026 08:22

But you shouldn't be working on anything that contains personal data or is confidential no matter how much you "have to".

I didn't say it was right, I said it was understandable and mostly driven by modern work culture. Yes, she made a mistake, but the level of report her, on this thread, instead of maybe tap her on the shoulder and remind her that you can see it is pretty unpleasant.

secon · 29/05/2026 08:56

The irony! This is a sackable offence where I work. Call and report this- they’d do it if it were you.