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AIBU to think writing confidential HR notes on a train is inappropriate?

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Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:19

I am on a train in the UK.

Someone on the seat in front of me is writing up meeting notes from work. All clearly visible through the gaps between seats. I am slightly long sighted mind you.

I have seen that:

  • She works in HR for company X
  • The meeting was for an employee named Y (I can see his name and job title), following him raising a grievance about a GDPR breach of his data within work.
  • Subsequent notes of the meeting about this grievance.

She's still typing her notes now.

AIBU for thinking that people should be very mindful of what work they complete in public places? And that this is inappropriate, and if Y found out that these notes were being written in full public view, they would have a further grievance on their hands?

Or am I a nosey parker?

(Or both?)

OP posts:
HelenaWilson · 31/05/2026 13:22

This HR woman isn't the only one who behaves inappropriately on trains. Article on the BBC today about Wi-Fi on trains:

On a typical journey, Rebecca estimates she can manage only about half the tasks she would normally be able to get through at her desk. When she has audio calls, she forewarns her colleagues she might lose connection.
"I just wouldn't risk having an important video call," Rebecca says, citing how unstable the connection often is. "I would never plan one."
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn8pn4l03r7o

No, we don't want to hear your audio calls or hear or see your important video calls.

And another person the journalist spoke to:

As a teacher, she says she often wants to work on the train, but says the connection usually isn't good enough.

Grace Dean checks wi-fi access on her laptop as she travels on a train to Norwich

Why Britain's notoriously bad train wi-fi might soon be a thing of the past

How bad is the signal on our trains? We spoke to commuters to find out.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn8pn4l03r7o

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/05/2026 13:10

JoeyJava · 31/05/2026 12:33

I'd say you're the one behaving inappropriately in this scenario. Should've asked the person you were snooping on for their opinion. And also emailed their colleague for their take.

Why should she? She was a member of public who just happened to see the employee of a company breaching confidentiality.
Why are people blaming the op when it’s the HR woman who broke the law! HR woman should have kept confidential info private not had it out on public display on a train!!!

BringBackCatsEyes · 31/05/2026 12:45

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 31/05/2026 12:34

I agree, but employers are vicariously responsible for the actions of their employees. A prudent employer makes sure its staff are regularly trained and re-trained on such matters, particularly where they have a statutory responsibility.

Fair point.

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 31/05/2026 12:34

BringBackCatsEyes · 30/05/2026 17:15

Really? "Don't work on confidential documents, or talk about confidential matters in a public space".
I can (just about) understand someone w/o HR training might need reminding, especially if it's a one-off project or something, but I'm baffled this isn't basic HR training.

I agree, but employers are vicariously responsible for the actions of their employees. A prudent employer makes sure its staff are regularly trained and re-trained on such matters, particularly where they have a statutory responsibility.

JoeyJava · 31/05/2026 12:33

I'd say you're the one behaving inappropriately in this scenario. Should've asked the person you were snooping on for their opinion. And also emailed their colleague for their take.

Ohdearnotthisagain · 31/05/2026 03:33

Our work has a policy in relation to tech use that specifies no work on laptops on public transport. For this reason!

Absolute stupidity from that employee.

busymomtoone · 31/05/2026 00:46

Gwenhwyfar · 30/05/2026 09:43

Your comparisons are abhorrent. Someone not complying with her workplace rules is hardly the same as abusing someone.
Reporting someone to their employer for this kind of thing is also disgusting.

So imagine if instead of writing and instead of someone else it was You that HR was loudly talking about / naming/ recounting details of a disciplinary. It’s not a bit of chit chat or gossip - it’s a ( supposedly) specially trained and qualified professional spilling the tea in a fully visible and public place. Absolutely no difference to a doctor naming and talking about embarrassing/ confidential cases. It’s completely and utterly reprehensible , and a million miles away from one co worker slagging off another co worker. It’s a CASE which may even ( and often does) result in legal action. Either the people not getting this have never worked in their lives or they have no moral compass/ extremely low expectations of employers.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 30/05/2026 17:32

Could have typed the notes with xx as name and changed when in a private setting to actual name/initials.

BringBackCatsEyes · 30/05/2026 17:15

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 30/05/2026 15:41

I can't speak for HR employees but everyone needs periodic reminders of this kind of thing.

Really? "Don't work on confidential documents, or talk about confidential matters in a public space".
I can (just about) understand someone w/o HR training might need reminding, especially if it's a one-off project or something, but I'm baffled this isn't basic HR training.

Witchonenowbob · 30/05/2026 17:11

whattheflipz · 30/05/2026 15:53

How about let them just know you can see a lot of confidential information. Just in case they weren't aware.

Well they should be….

It’s hardly rocket science is it!

HelenaWilson · 30/05/2026 16:35

How about let them just know you can see a lot of confidential information. Just in case they weren't aware.

But late for that, seeing that it was two days ago.

But the point is, anyone dealing with personal or confidential information should not need to be told not to do it in a public place.

And as for all the posters saying this poor little woman shouldn't be expected to do her job properly and professionally because - because - because - Is it any wonder women sometimes aren't taken seriously in the workplace when other women have this attitude?

whattheflipz · 30/05/2026 15:53

How about let them just know you can see a lot of confidential information. Just in case they weren't aware.

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 30/05/2026 15:41

BringBackCatsEyes · 30/05/2026 12:43

Surely it's drummed into HR employees?
I've never worked in HR and not really in any sort of confidential field and I know all this.

I can't speak for HR employees but everyone needs periodic reminders of this kind of thing.

Wingingit73 · 30/05/2026 15:25

A report about a GDPR breach which is also a GDPR breach 😂 if you think they're making trouble definitely report it.

Dancingintherain09 · 30/05/2026 14:30

floatinginacoolpool · 29/05/2026 18:46

It could be a line in an Alanis Morissette song Grin

Isnt it ironic...dont you think?

😆

I'm going to watch her in concert in 3 weeks

HelenaWilson · 30/05/2026 13:59

People are remarkably careless about their own privacy, never mind anyone else's.

I was in my garden once when a woman on a first floor balcony in the flats behind was having a long phone conversation with a social worker about her child. If I could hear her, any number of other people in the flats and in the back gardens could also hear.

Another time I was trying a new cafe in my local High Street. While I was there the assistant was on a long phone call to the DSS. That wasn't the only reason why I didn't go back, but it was one of the reasons.

Sickdissapointed · 30/05/2026 13:37

I was on a train to Kings Cross. A woman was on the phone talking through the eviction of a family from their home including the reasons why. Appalling.
whole carriage was glaring at her.
Obviously never been introduced to confidentiality.

BringBackCatsEyes · 30/05/2026 12:43

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 30/05/2026 12:19

Except a lot of people are used to working remotely and having to work whilst travelling and I suspect they never give it a second thought. I think companies where employees have laptops should provide privacy screens as a matter of course, at least to people who travel as part of their roles. Our information security training covers not making confidential phones in public, not using apps on your phone or your laptop where others can see the information, but the cyber security elements are the ones everyone focuses on and remembers.

Surely it's drummed into HR employees?
I've never worked in HR and not really in any sort of confidential field and I know all this.

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 30/05/2026 12:19

BringBackCatsEyes · 30/05/2026 11:33

It seems like something that shouldn't even need to be stipulated.
It's obvious, isn't it?

Except a lot of people are used to working remotely and having to work whilst travelling and I suspect they never give it a second thought. I think companies where employees have laptops should provide privacy screens as a matter of course, at least to people who travel as part of their roles. Our information security training covers not making confidential phones in public, not using apps on your phone or your laptop where others can see the information, but the cyber security elements are the ones everyone focuses on and remembers.

BringBackCatsEyes · 30/05/2026 11:33

lilkitten · 30/05/2026 11:02

I used to work in local government, I'm pretty sure they actually stipulated that we weren't to use our laptop for any confidential documents in a public place. I would contact the company.

It seems like something that shouldn't even need to be stipulated.
It's obvious, isn't it?

Nyata · 30/05/2026 11:26

You should contact the company, a few years ago I saw a guy marking International GCSE papers on the train. It so happened to be a school from my country. I confronted him about it and he was so embarrassed. I contacted the Cambridge Exams Syndicate and they told me they would look into it. I didn’t have his name so not sure if they did anything about it.

lilkitten · 30/05/2026 11:02

I used to work in local government, I'm pretty sure they actually stipulated that we weren't to use our laptop for any confidential documents in a public place. I would contact the company.

EBearhug · 30/05/2026 10:47

Cloudtime · 30/05/2026 10:28

At some point this stops being “the information was visible” and starts being “I spent a good chunk of my train journey reading a stranger’s screen.”

Should she be more careful with confidential information? Possibly. But you’re hardly making the case that people can't read it when you’ve managed to compile a detailed briefing note on a complete stranger’s employment dispute from the seat behind.

The fact that it’s visible wouldn’t really be a problem if people like you didn’t exist .

But people like this - and people who will act in worse ways than merely starting a thread on MN - do exist, and that is why GDPR laws exist and why anyone working in a public space, be it a train or anywhere else, should be very selective about what they work on in those spaces.

Even in the office, I think work on things like disciplinaries/grievances/health records/ promotions/payrises/redundancies, etc, those docs should be worked on in private areas, not the main open plan areas that most offices tend to be in these days.

blubberyboo · 30/05/2026 10:30

Cloudtime · 30/05/2026 10:28

At some point this stops being “the information was visible” and starts being “I spent a good chunk of my train journey reading a stranger’s screen.”

Should she be more careful with confidential information? Possibly. But you’re hardly making the case that people can't read it when you’ve managed to compile a detailed briefing note on a complete stranger’s employment dispute from the seat behind.

The fact that it’s visible wouldn’t really be a problem if people like you didn’t exist .

The reason GDPR laws and now the Data (Use and Access)Act, exist is because persons become at risk for all sorts of reasons when companies are careless with their data.

Cloudtime · 30/05/2026 10:28

At some point this stops being “the information was visible” and starts being “I spent a good chunk of my train journey reading a stranger’s screen.”

Should she be more careful with confidential information? Possibly. But you’re hardly making the case that people can't read it when you’ve managed to compile a detailed briefing note on a complete stranger’s employment dispute from the seat behind.

The fact that it’s visible wouldn’t really be a problem if people like you didn’t exist .