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AIBU to think writing confidential HR notes on a train is inappropriate?

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Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:19

I am on a train in the UK.

Someone on the seat in front of me is writing up meeting notes from work. All clearly visible through the gaps between seats. I am slightly long sighted mind you.

I have seen that:

  • She works in HR for company X
  • The meeting was for an employee named Y (I can see his name and job title), following him raising a grievance about a GDPR breach of his data within work.
  • Subsequent notes of the meeting about this grievance.

She's still typing her notes now.

AIBU for thinking that people should be very mindful of what work they complete in public places? And that this is inappropriate, and if Y found out that these notes were being written in full public view, they would have a further grievance on their hands?

Or am I a nosey parker?

(Or both?)

OP posts:
abbynabby23 · 01/06/2026 00:07

Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:19

I am on a train in the UK.

Someone on the seat in front of me is writing up meeting notes from work. All clearly visible through the gaps between seats. I am slightly long sighted mind you.

I have seen that:

  • She works in HR for company X
  • The meeting was for an employee named Y (I can see his name and job title), following him raising a grievance about a GDPR breach of his data within work.
  • Subsequent notes of the meeting about this grievance.

She's still typing her notes now.

AIBU for thinking that people should be very mindful of what work they complete in public places? And that this is inappropriate, and if Y found out that these notes were being written in full public view, they would have a further grievance on their hands?

Or am I a nosey parker?

(Or both?)

haha! What an irony! I used to work a lot from the train but we had to have a screen cover for confidentially.

Pennyfloor · 01/06/2026 00:04

Would you not read a book or look out of the window on a train journey? I mean I would have probably had a nose too but not thought for one minute to report them.. 😬

FreyaW · 31/05/2026 22:24

Contact the company.
I'm even nosier than you, hence I'm a journalist..
I would also be searching for the man concerned, via Internet & social media... and make him aware.

NoWineOnASchoolNight · 31/05/2026 21:46

Just asking for a friend - it wasn’t a midlands based train and a company starting with a C by any chance?

Harriet36 · 31/05/2026 20:57

I can't believe you read the screen, memorised the contents, then rushed to Mumsnet to report this woman. The courteous thing to do would have been to tell her you can see her notes. You'd have come across as like someone with way too much time on your hands though, and far too interested in other people's private business. Do you read people's private messages on their phones, with your fantastic eyesight, as well? Where's the dignity in that? You need a kindle and a few good books downloaded, to while away these boring train journeys.

Confessionsofa40yrold · 31/05/2026 20:40

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Skyflymom · 31/05/2026 20:36

What is inappropriate is you making the effort to read something's on someone else's device. Mind your business!

Whatthefork1 · 31/05/2026 20:24

Inappropriate? Yes. Would I care? No. I don’t concern myself with what others are doing. I’m more concerned about the fact you read such screen to know all the details you do and have then come onto MN to ask about it. You don’t have much going on in life, do you?

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 31/05/2026 19:21

Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:19

I am on a train in the UK.

Someone on the seat in front of me is writing up meeting notes from work. All clearly visible through the gaps between seats. I am slightly long sighted mind you.

I have seen that:

  • She works in HR for company X
  • The meeting was for an employee named Y (I can see his name and job title), following him raising a grievance about a GDPR breach of his data within work.
  • Subsequent notes of the meeting about this grievance.

She's still typing her notes now.

AIBU for thinking that people should be very mindful of what work they complete in public places? And that this is inappropriate, and if Y found out that these notes were being written in full public view, they would have a further grievance on their hands?

Or am I a nosey parker?

(Or both?)

That’s wrong and breaking company confidentiality rules. If work found out or the mentioned person found out, she’d be up for gross misconduct!

IStillHearTheWaves · 31/05/2026 19:02

Contacting the company in question doesn't necessarily mean the person will get in trouble, it may highlight a weakness in their training that needs to be addressed.

The subject of this person's report is entitled to confidentiality and that has been breached.

IStillHearTheWaves · 31/05/2026 18:58

Completely inappropriate. I work in a very heavily regulated industry and we have endless training on this sort of thing (for good reason, it appears!)

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/05/2026 18:51

Gwenhwyfar · 31/05/2026 18:40

So you would report a shoplifter? You'd taking it on yourself to defend the interests of a big company over somebody taking chewing gum? Seriously?

Yes I would. Just because it’s chewing gum doesn’t make it right! Stealing is stealing. Everyone else has to pay for it!

HelenaWilson · 31/05/2026 18:47

I wouldn't report anything that doesn't clearly hurt a victim.

And how would you know what will hurt a victim?

Gwenhwyfar · 31/05/2026 18:40

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/05/2026 18:36

“I've seen people shoplift and I don't report them.”

Says it all… I rest my case 😂

So you would report a shoplifter? You'd taking it on yourself to defend the interests of a big company over somebody taking chewing gum? Seriously?

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/05/2026 18:36

Gwenhwyfar · 31/05/2026 18:34

I wouldn't report anything that doesn't clearly hurt a victim.
I've seen people shoplift and I don't report them.
If they hit someone then yes I would, but it would be to the police.
I have nothing to do with someone else's employer.

“I've seen people shoplift and I don't report them.”

Says it all… I rest my case 😂

Gwenhwyfar · 31/05/2026 18:34

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/05/2026 18:31

That’s not the point. And having someone’s CONFIDENTIAL information on full view is grounds to report to the employer! You claiming it’s not serious when it’s actually classed as a serious breach under GDPR, I would say is serious. The chances of the op knowing the HR woman are very slim, yes… but not impossible. They were on the same train. May even have got on the train from the same station and may be from the same town!

I wouldn't report anything that doesn't clearly hurt a victim.
I've seen people shoplift and I don't report them.
If they hit someone then yes I would, but it would be to the police.
I have nothing to do with someone else's employer.

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/05/2026 18:31

Gwenhwyfar · 31/05/2026 18:16

Yes, I would be saying the same thing. It's not good, but it's also not serious enough for me to report someone to their employer. The chances that the person on the train knows me are small and I'm not a snitch (for this kind of thing).
If it bothered me, I would speak to the person directly.
Reporting someone to their employer is disgusting. I can't think of any circumstance in which I would do it because in the case of a serious offence, I'd go to the police.

That’s not the point. And having someone’s CONFIDENTIAL information on full view is grounds to report to the employer! You claiming it’s not serious when it’s actually classed as a serious breach under GDPR, I would say is serious. The chances of the op knowing the HR woman are very slim, yes… but not impossible. They were on the same train. May even have got on the train from the same station and may be from the same town!

Newmumatlast · 31/05/2026 18:24

AndyBurnhamForPM · 28/05/2026 17:21

I would contact the company and complain.

Agree. Especially as it was a complaint re GDPR

Gwenhwyfar · 31/05/2026 18:16

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/05/2026 18:10

So let’s flip this around…. if this HR employee instead worked in a hospital or GP practice and decided to do some “work” on the train and opened up a patient’s medical records - let’s say your medical records for example, when there’s a risk that someone else on the train could see them and see everything about you, maybe find out you had diarrhoea or a gynaecological problem… and a fellow passenger was able to read all this from the seat behind, would you still be saying the same thing?

What this HR woman had on full view of other passengers was personal information about an employee who worked at the same company as her! Just because it’s a different situation to the example I have given above doesn’t make it ok or any less of a breach of confidentiality/ GDPR!!

Yes, I would be saying the same thing. It's not good, but it's also not serious enough for me to report someone to their employer. The chances that the person on the train knows me are small and I'm not a snitch (for this kind of thing).
If it bothered me, I would speak to the person directly.
Reporting someone to their employer is disgusting. I can't think of any circumstance in which I would do it because in the case of a serious offence, I'd go to the police.

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/05/2026 18:10

Gwenhwyfar · 31/05/2026 17:55

I am obviously capable of realising that it could be me!

However, a person on the train is most likely not in a tiny village and the chances are that the person able to see their computer does not know me. The chances of real embarrassment for me are small.
In any case, it's a workplace matter, not a serious violent offence and not something the OP should be reporting to anybody's employer. At the limit, yes, maybe tell the HR person you can see their computer and ask them to be more careful, but there's no need to go reporting them and it's not OP's responsibility.

So let’s flip this around…. if this HR employee instead worked in a hospital or GP practice and decided to do some “work” on the train and opened up a patient’s medical records - let’s say your medical records for example, when there’s a risk that someone else on the train could see them and see everything about you, maybe find out you had diarrhoea or a gynaecological problem… and a fellow passenger was able to read all this from the seat behind, would you still be saying the same thing?

What this HR woman had on full view of other passengers was personal information about an employee who worked at the same company as her! Just because it’s a different situation to the example I have given above doesn’t make it ok or any less of a breach of confidentiality/ GDPR!!

Gwenhwyfar · 31/05/2026 17:55

busymomtoone · 31/05/2026 00:46

So imagine if instead of writing and instead of someone else it was You that HR was loudly talking about / naming/ recounting details of a disciplinary. It’s not a bit of chit chat or gossip - it’s a ( supposedly) specially trained and qualified professional spilling the tea in a fully visible and public place. Absolutely no difference to a doctor naming and talking about embarrassing/ confidential cases. It’s completely and utterly reprehensible , and a million miles away from one co worker slagging off another co worker. It’s a CASE which may even ( and often does) result in legal action. Either the people not getting this have never worked in their lives or they have no moral compass/ extremely low expectations of employers.

I am obviously capable of realising that it could be me!

However, a person on the train is most likely not in a tiny village and the chances are that the person able to see their computer does not know me. The chances of real embarrassment for me are small.
In any case, it's a workplace matter, not a serious violent offence and not something the OP should be reporting to anybody's employer. At the limit, yes, maybe tell the HR person you can see their computer and ask them to be more careful, but there's no need to go reporting them and it's not OP's responsibility.

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 31/05/2026 14:02

igelkott2026 · 31/05/2026 13:30

Seriously? Does that mean if someone dances around their garden naked, I am not allowed to look out of my window anymore?

For goodness sake.

This was already covered upthread. JoeyJava is wrong on this point.

igelkott2026 · 31/05/2026 13:30

JoeyJava · 31/05/2026 12:33

I'd say you're the one behaving inappropriately in this scenario. Should've asked the person you were snooping on for their opinion. And also emailed their colleague for their take.

Seriously? Does that mean if someone dances around their garden naked, I am not allowed to look out of my window anymore?

For goodness sake.

igelkott2026 · 31/05/2026 13:29

(Just seen that the post above mine referred to the same comment!)

igelkott2026 · 31/05/2026 13:29

People are awful on trains. I once sat next to someone who was looking at documents with highly confidential printed on them!

And then there was the guy who was moaning about his colleague Clare. I eventually told him to shut up and remember his duties of confidentiality and after a supercilious response he did shut up,

My DH mentioned this morning that there was an article on the BBC about train wifi being improved and someone said they had to make audio calls on the train because they couldn't trust the wifi for video calls. I mean, really? These people walk (travel) among us...