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Dd’s teacher suggesting I sit in on the lesson so Dd remembers what to do

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Stopwiththeicecreamsnow · 28/05/2026 11:52

Dd recently started a new music lesson. She really enjoyed it at first, but has been struggling recently with understanding/remembering what to do for her homework.
She’s bright and motivated usually, but not keen to do this practice homework each week.
The teacher is very nice. I said to her that Dd had made a great effort but struggled to know what to do. She said they would work on it and maybe I could sit in on the lesson so I can remember what she needs to do too.
I’m ok to do this, but wondering if this is the right approach and think she probably just needs to go more slowly with Dd so she understands? I’m also worried I may not remember myself as I have so much to remember in my life already 😂
During her lesson, I generally use that time to sit in my car and catch up on work emails etc.

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lilythesheep · 28/05/2026 12:02

My kids do Suzuki music and the expectation is that parents sit in on every lesson so they can support and guide practice at home.

Dd1 also does conventional method piano and the teacher writes notes in a notebook but DD
still needs help applying this effectively in practice.

My experience is that it takes years to learn how to practise an instrument effectively and children don’t have that maturity until about 11 or 12 at the earliest. If they don’t practise effectively then it is a waste of time and money paying for lessons as their natural inclination is just to play everything through rather than break down and work at the hard bits.

Obviously it is up to you, but if you can sit in at least a couple of times and then support your dd then you will likely see big improvements.

Stopwiththeicecreamsnow · 28/05/2026 12:01

FlatErica · 28/05/2026 11:54

I’m confused, how old is DD? And why can’t she or can’t the tutor write it down?

She’s 7. The teacher did write the work to practise in her book, but Dd didn’t know or remember how to do it. I don’t read music sadly, so I haven’t a clue how to help her like I can with school work

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campingwidow · 28/05/2026 11:57

When I used to do piano lessons I had a wee notepad and the teacher wrote a list of what I had to do at home each week. Should work.

PygmyOwl · 28/05/2026 11:56

My DC used to have little log books to take to their music lessons and the teacher would write comments / next steps in those.

SparklyBlueDress · 28/05/2026 11:56

Generally there is a note book that goes to lessons and the teacher writes pointers in that

MojoJojo71 · 28/05/2026 11:55

Can the teacher not write down what she wants her to do? Or either you or the teacher could video what she needs to practice? You’d only have to come in for a couple of minutes at the end to do that

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 28/05/2026 11:55

How old is dd ?

does she really really want to learn this instrument

are you supposed to be ' at ' work whilst you are sat in the car catching up on work emails

FlatErica · 28/05/2026 11:54

I’m confused, how old is DD? And why can’t she or can’t the tutor write it down?

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