AIBU to give my children a treat everyday?

Agree. After a ten mile run and a cold shower!

Says who?

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It's a biscuit. There's no need to use terms like treat over a biscuit. It's food in the same way fruit is food.

What is it then?

A staple food like bread, rice or potatoes?

YANBU OP, nothing wrong with a daily treat.

I don't give "treats" every day, but I don't apply a limit to it either. I try to do a bit of gentle linking between need and type of food.

E.g. needing ice lollies to keep cool, going to do exercise so might be more hungry etc.

I try to balance between it not being a big deal and not being a habit either.

A biscuit is a treat to some people.

Thinking back (my DS is now 25) I was strict about him only occasionally eating sugary stuff that would be in his mouth for ages (and therefore coating his teeth). Eg Chupa Chup type lollies or hard boiled type sweets. I was also strict about no fizzy drinks except occasionally. Luckily he was a massive milk drinker.

I was much more relaxed about chocolate and biscuits (he didn't eat cake as he had an egg allergy).

I also had a no sweet stuff until after lunch rule but that rule didn't apply on holidays. I also only allowed boring cereals but that rule was relaxed on holiday too and if self-catering he would have the little selection pack cereals.

God I sound like a barrel of laughs 😆

Try one with butter, cheese and a crisp slice of apple on top - game changing I tell you!

Wow! I thought I was strict when my DS was little 😆

I dont label food as treats etc in general.

My son is allowed biscuits, chocolate, crisps even sweets everyday. All in moderation as part of a balanced diet.

Seems to be working fine as he isn't overly bothered by any food and often chooses fruit first. He's a good weight, really fit and no dental issues.

I've struggled with my relationship with food all my life so seeing my child have a healthy and balanced attitude is such a great feeling!

I know I didn’t make the original comment but I was thinking the same thing, that maybe you have guilt over eating those things yourself and have a negative association with them, like perhaps growing up there was some shame in eating those kinds of things. I might be totally off the mark but I’m just speculating!

My little boy has a mini brownie (you know the ones you buy in a pack of 20), everyday for his dessert with his yoghurt and fruit after dinner. It’s not a treat for anything it’s just part of his balanced diet, he still gets it regardless of whether or not he finishes all his broccoli (which tbf he does as he loves veg 😂) his grandparents think this is shocking but I want him to grow up knowing that things like this are fine in moderation and a normal part of a balanced diet

I actually wouldn’t let my children have those things every day, but I think I’m quite unusual in that respect (reading through the replies to the thread kind of confirms I’m an outlier).

Appreciate they’ll probably mainline Haribo when they get the chance, but I wouldn’t have shop bought cakes and biscuits in the house so I wouldn’t give it to them. I just don’t think it has any nutritional value and wouldn’t want anyone to eat it habitually. But I’m happy to let them have a bit of cake if we go out to a cafe, or an ice cream on a hot day. It’s hard to get the balance right and I might be too restrictive.

Digestives are nice, they're sugary enough I think. An angel slice is lots of sugar. Sounds like you've got the right balance to me. Good for you.

I give mine a Gingsters pasty and packet of Werthers Originals.

Mine were brought up having 'afters' every day and home baking/biscuits were freely available. I even chose full sugar drinks and pure fruit juice as don't feel artificial sweeteners are 'healthy' ..........all 30s/40s now not a filling between them, nor overweight.

Yesterday my son had a banana, 3 small packets of tangtastic haribos, 1 mars milkshake, and a blueberry bread abiet to save his life (diabetic was 1.2 mmol with 8 uints of insulin on board) but hey ho. So don’t think a custard cream is that bad 😂

A biscuit, occasional cake is fine every day, especially if they're eating a healthy diet otherwise. We've always had a biscuit or two in the morning, so could hardly say to DD, she couldn't have one. She was bought up that a snack in the afternoon was fruit, veggie sticks, babybel or toast and she totally accepted that as she got older.

A biscuit a day is hardly a big deal!

I think my standards are different to many others on this thread 🤣

We don't restrict 'treats' really at all. I certainly don't keep track of how many biscuits my kids eat each day. They know what's healthy and what isn't. Mine are older than yours now but even when we were younger I really tried to not make food about what you can eat and what you should restrict. Appreciate that approach isn't for everyone.

I can often tell the kids whose 'treats' are heavily restricted as they go absolutely wild at the fact we have always had sweets and biscuits in easily accessible areas. They aren't kept out of the way. Like stuffing them into their pockets wild, or putting a handful in their bag for later!

Yep. My kids have ‘a treat’ as you call them twice a day. We call them ‘dessert’ or ‘pudding’ after lunch and dinner.

We do every single day, and more on the weekends. As a result my kids aren’t the ones stuffing their faces at parties because it’s not something held over them. Yesterday my ds turned down a mini magnum because he was full. And then later on went to snack on fruit. I don’t think many kids would do that.

The replies are exactly as I expected.

Poor kids. Mines already had a mini magnum today, shoot me.

As a mum of adult children can I just say please don’t get too het up about these things.

I spent quite a lot of time stressing over haribos and biscuits/cakes … then they get to 10/11 and are making their own to and from school and start buying shite every day. Prob went more mad for it as I’d limited it.

Then they hit 15/16 and start necking vodka at parties and smoking/vaping.

I wish I’d been more chilled … they’re both a healthy weight now, very few fillings and eat a mostly balanced diet.