I come from a very small family due to my parents both being only children. Because of medical reasons, I am childfree and it looks unlikely I’ll ever have nephews and nieces. Because of this, my friends are the closest people I have.
My absolute best friend is getting married (and by best friend, I mean, if I were to make my will tomorrow, she’d inherit my estate because I have no decendants in the family). She’s said that she wants family only bridesmaids, because she’s been bridesmaid a few times to others and wants to avoid the drama of picking people and maybe upsetting some because she couldn’t pick them all because they were so many she’s been bridesmaid to.
The Irony is, I fully support this decision. I’m all for low drama, so I think she’s being really sensible. But I just can’t get over the fact that I feel like I’m greiving the experience of being by her side during her big day. I think a part of my hoped that I was different because all the friends she’s been bridesmaids for have been people from her work and uni, and I’m the only friend from home (which is where she’ll set up home with her future husband) and who’s been through school with her. I’m fairly well connected in the area so quite a bit of her social life is through me.
I’m so annoyed with myself for feeling sad like this, because I really do believe that she’s doing the right thing to avoid dramas. But I just feel sad about it too. Any tips on how I can get over this and enjoy the day for what it is?! I was the first person she phoned with the news that she was engaged and she’s always said that I’m her best friend because I come from a similar background to her that not everyone would understand the way of life so I’ve started thinking irrationally like “I can’t mean that much to her if she doesn’t want me by her side” - argh!!
aIBU - you need to get over this
YNBU - it’s ok for this to hurt a little