How would you feel if your husband/partner said this to you?

It’s normally the other way around with so many guys punching above their weight for reasons unknown.

But either way, it’s a horribly unpleasant comment and major red flag.

Right! I was annoyed wondering how they had misread me so badly that they thought that I’d tolerate that shit 😆

OP, I’m curious - who initiated the divorce? And has he mentioned any love interests since you agreed to separate?

IME sometimes men are cowards about breaking up. So what they will do is treat a woman so poorly that she calls time on the relationship. I don’t know why they think that’s any better than just saying they want to break up , but it’s what many do.

You’re separating / divorcing soclearly it was said to be nasty and hurt you a year ago. It’s meaningless And has no Connection to Reality. Don’t take it to heart.

People say all sorts of things when they’re wanting to hurt somebody. It’s ridiculous and frankly, a very juvenile attack on somebody he wanted to hurt. Please give it no more headspace. It’s nothing more than ‘Your mother is ugly and you smell’ Type of insult.

Thank goodness you’re moving on from this man. I couldn’t imagine living with somebody this immature and nasty. The sort of person that spitefully says mean things isn’t somebody I would give any Creedence to. Think about it, In reality, why would anybody look at the two of you with his nasty juvenile and vindictive character and think he was better than anyone? And purely physically, I very much doubt he some Greek God and you are Quasimodo.

No, no, he’s just a dick

Well, to me, that comment was a deliberate attempt to provoke you, not something that was an actual truth...I.e., he's not too good for you. Was he having an affair by any chance. It sounds like a man who has been told by some other woman (or man) that he's gorgeous and they wouldn't have pictured you as his wife jusy to flatter him and start an affair.

In my mind there's no other reason he would say something like that unless he was trying to get you so upset that you would leave him to make it easier for him.........unless of course someone told him that he was punching above his weight having a lovely lady like you!

You are letting him live rent free in your head. Have you done anything since you separated that you enjoy that makes you feel good? Join a Can't Sing Choir ( unless you can sing and then just join a choir), do a course, train for something that will earn you good money. Don't let a man ( although I hesitate to call him that) who was just using comments to try to make you lose confidence do this to you. Know your worth and be the queen he was trying to dethrone.

RTFT.

I would feel insulted and think he was a conceited prick. He thinks he’s better than you and deserves better. Does he have a habit of putting you down ? I think once contempt enters a relationship it’s the beginning of the end.

He sounds like an arrogant narcissist and I suspect this comment is the least of your worries. I'd be willing to bet he puts you down in other ways and is not a loving suppportive partner. I doubt most people would put up with this sort of treatment.

You said it’s been a year since he said that?The correct question is why on earth you are still with him? Have some self respect and dump him. I don’t care if he says he was joking. He’s a jerk and probably emotionally abusive in other ways too. Hit the road, Jack, and don’t you come back no more…

What an absolutely awful thing to say, designed to knock your confidence and keep you down.
Well rid of him.
Just keep an eye that he doesn’t do this to your daughter if you have one.

Sounds like he's conscious of the fact your too good for him and putting you in your place so to speak to knock your confidence.BIG RED FLAG,RUN.

I’d always say dh was the better looking when we got together. Not sure how I’d feel if he agreed!

Never EVER go back to this arsehole! Congratulations for getting rid 😍

Yea, that, and the fxxking cheek of them thinking that it would fly with me.😁

Definitely not over reacting. Glad to read you’re divorcing his ungrateful ass.

Kind wishes OP

I've wondered that about a person of interest many times and I'm sure so have his family what the hell he's doing with her especially given he's not happy just seeing a photo of them together makes me cringe they are laughing stock

I think this is so rude & I really hate this culture of 'he/she is punching above her weight' (meaning he/she is better looking than you. So bloody what? I've met plenty of supposedly attractive who are not actually very nice. Surely we want our partner to be loving, loyal, kind, funny, supportive etc- this is what keeps relationships going through tough times rather than ' she's got a nice figure'. Sorry you've experienced this x

I'd say yes that's right because I'm way above your league!

Yeah I agree. So when I’ve been negged the insult didn’t actually get to me, I was just disgusted at the fact their intention was to bring me down.

It tells me a lot about how they feel about me and how they feel about themselves and just generally what kind of person they are.

I have no self esteem issues with my looks at all, but for me the character of someone to suggest such a thing would be total Ick and I would be so done.

He wouldn't be good enough for me.
Delighted to read you are divorcing the arsehole.
He's no loss to you.

Gah! He fancies himself doesn’t he?!

Honestly I’d piss myself laughing and tell him people probably wonder what I’m doing with that miserable prick!

It's deeper than a throwaway comment, isn't it?! It's his whole view of you. So I would have to re-think the relationship.

So glad he’s an ex now. I would try and not dwell on this too much. He sounds like a very nasty Man and you are much better off without him

Horrible thing to say. Glad you’ve got rid.

I would probably tell him to go fuck himself and jog on and find one of those people then.