To not let DH go to this woman’s house?

I hate this mindset that justifies treating men like sex mad half-wits who need to be controlled in order to remain faithful.

If your husband needs to be treated like a spaniel in order to not fuck other women he isn't worth being married to. If you're "laying down the law" or "nipping it in the bud" or "keeping him on the leash" like a toddler, you've already lost the battle. It's as simple as that.

Nobody who understood about the main differences between why men and women cheat would advocate keeping a woman on a short leash.

For her to want cheat in the first place, she's already done with her dh.

Unless he's a sadistic bastard who enjoys keeping his wife prisoner, he may as well let her go with grace.

'Yes go and have your haircut with this man whose opinion you trust more than mine, who you openly admit to fancying and not even trying to hide it. Absolutely fine. '

Then when she's gone having her hair done he should get onto the divorce lawyer.

Imagine this place if a man wanted to keep a woman on a lead it would be WW111

No.
While there are men who are sex mad, it's my opinion that a lot will do it purely because the opportunity presented itself.
It has nothing to do with their feelings for their wife. Hard to accept but true.

No woman cheats purely because the opportunity presented itself. Her cheating has EVERYTHING to do her feelings ("negative) for her dh.

Honestly, if the genders were reversed here, the dh may as well accept that it's over.

Let me say this, women are more socially savvy and they know full well that changing, their jacket when advised by another man not her dh, admitting she finds him attractive and being alone with him are clear unequivocal indications that she is done.

I'd go as far to say here that if the. genders were reversed here this is a wife that is so done with her dh she's not even hiding it.

Because ultimately a better way to test out someone’s character is to let them have as much freedom as possible and see how they react.

If you constantly put obstacles in their way you are creating resentment, forcing him to lie to you and making yourself look desperate. And none of it will stop it happening.

If you love someone set them free etc.

You're not all men, though.
Some argue that there is a concept of pre-selection, too.
A married man is married therefore another woman thought he was viable as a mate.

Agree

Suggest she comes to your house for the haircut

This is an elite response

Someone he barely knows walked into the house and said what’s up with your outfit then he changed and asked her if that looks better? That is really odd, it’s very familiar behaviour.

That's an awful answer.

Imagine your DH using that on you about anything, from cleaning to cooking to work to raising DC.

Its a cop out.

People here have said that him asking you is trying to dump the responsibility onto you. This answer is exactly the same in reverse.

It says "i don't like it (stamp) but I'm not adult enough to discuss with you whether I'm being unreasonable or whether you're a scumbag"

It's as awful as that old "well if you don't know what's wrong I'm not going to tell you".

Ffs, have a real conversation between the only two people that matter. Marriages die when people don't communicate.

I agree with other posters that he is your husband, not a toddler. If he wants to cheat, he will find a way and either he will do so or he will resent you and that could be the end of your marriage anyway.

OMG really? 🙈🙈🙈

If she wants to sleep with him, it is a good way to encourage something to happen as well because you will look unhinged and she may even carry it further to annoy you.

You don’t get equality by subjugating someone else.

At the risk of sounding incredibly dull compared to some great responses (on both sides)..
I always side with the view that (even though many male friends have tried it on etc once rebuffed remained friends and several have never tried etc) that men and women can be friends. And I absolutely think not letting (as it were) someone do something (I mean obviously there are limits - I’m not going to let my husband drink drive or mow down a cyclist etc) is wrong usually .. there is more to the OP than just that aspect.
The DH already knows the woman - he didn’t just meet her at jacket-gate. He sees her in the pub. That’s relevant because she felt comfortable enough to contact him on social media.
A recent situation for me (I adored my “DH” now hate him - that’s only vaguely relevant)… we have a mutual female friend who was in a relationship with a mutual male friend, they split years ago. He moved away. She stayed etc. about 2 years ago she and DH “discovered” a mutual interest. That meant we spent more time together (us plus others) doing said interests and on other social occasions. I loved her deeply as the closest friend I’d had in years.
He suddenly developed menonitis. He told her about him having a health scare within minutes of finding out,.he completely failed to tell her about a HUGE diagnosis for our child etc etc.
Suddenly he got obsessed with wanting to go to her house alone to do said interests. I was fine with it. Then I heard him pester her to do this. She texted me to ask if it was ok. That was when I knew it wasn’t.
I didn’t say you aren’t allowed or you can’t. I finally said, I am not okay with this. All you do is text her and talk about her and invite her over and it’s nauseous behaviour. You can be with her. But that’s it for us.
there was a period of me refusing to back down- he made me. He actually got me to “explain” to her and apologise. I did!!
This week I’ve seen the light - she told him everything I’d ever told her in confidence from 14 years of stuff. She told him I “dump” on her too much and was planning to leave him (not true - I would but severely disabled child etc) - now it’s the ultimate standoff. I refuse to ever see her again. He’s like a forlorn romantic hero.
OP - and anyone else who finds themselves in this scenario. My long winded story can e a cautionary tale. It’s not about “nipping something in the bud”.
You can’t.
If they want to they will. If they have the “courage”.
On an aside but relatedly, I was aggressively pursued fairly recently by a married man whose wife has just had a baby. I did nothing to warrant that. But if someone decides they want to try something there are many ways - the denials of “just a friend” (ie let’s see where this goes), the “it just happened” to the I don’t care I’m doing this anyway.
I wish there was something useful I could say.. but if you shut it down you will have another problem anyway - he will resent you.

Its not up to you to allow it or not.

however, if he does it, how you deal with it is another matter

Yes. Like this.

However, if he's asking for your approval, don't give it.

I agree. The wird to not let him go,apply to a child. You are not his keeper.
Tell him it upsets you and you would prefer him not to go. Ask him not to go. If he respects you ,he will do as you wish.
Not a big deal about jacket. First you say it and then someone else commented. He got the message. Awful jacket.
She seems a bit rude commenting on other 's clothing choices

Me too! Or words to that effect. She'd have known I was onto her, anyway.

Could you handle allowing her to give you a haircut or at least some treatment, so you could go together but it doesn't look like you are there to chaperone your DH? I know she probably has lots of women to practice with and wants a man, but it could be a compromise that you (as a couple) offer to her?

You have a gut for a reason..it’s been there, instinct, to protect you since man crawled from the primordial soup, so to speak. Never ignore your gut

The jacket situation may have been that two people had said the exact same thing in a short amount of time. I wouldn’t have taken in personally. The reaching out on social media for a haircut is odd. Most trainee hairdressers would advertise generally for training needs. I think she is overstepping and your husband sounds a bit oblivious to it. It was a dangerous question to ask about whether he found her attractive. Generalisation but most men I know are not as particular as women about who/what they find attractive in a person.

I'm male, married for 40 years. There's no way I would have even thought about going to her house for a trim and would have totally declined the invitation ..... Unless I had an ulterior motive.