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Why might this person have bruises ?

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0livesandcheese · 27/05/2026 13:53

If you saw that someone had bruises on her upper arms would you ask about them? I am concerned but I also know that she enjoys quite a liberal sex life. I don’t know exactly what she participates in but have an idea that she is quite experimental. Could it be that it’s from this or would you be concerned? I haven’t said anything before and this is the third time I’ve noticed bruises. Please don’t attack me if I’m getting this wrong, just asking for advice aibu

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0livesandcheese · 27/05/2026 14:01

It doesn’t look like the bumping into things kind of bruises purely because it’s the same on each side

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0livesandcheese · 27/05/2026 14:00

Ok the bruises look like they could be marks from someone holding her down, one on each side on her upper arms. Not covered in bruises. It may have nothing to do with sex but I am worried to ask in case nobody is hurting her and it’s just the rough sex stuff

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Moonstarsrain · 27/05/2026 13:59

Could she be on blood thinning injections? I bruised so easily when I was on them, my toddler gave me a massive purple hand print bruise on my arm trying to pull himself up on me! I bruised so easily for months after. I would ask gently, 'I've noticed you've got a few bruises on your arm, are
you okay?' No harm in asking.

Eeyorefan · 27/05/2026 13:59

As family members train in martial arts and get bruised I would probably think it was that, or like me she’s permanently walking into things (I’m very clumsy)

MyMilchick · 27/05/2026 13:58

I bruise so easily, I nearly always have bruises on my arms and legs, 99% of them I have no idea how they got there!

porchiepalava · 27/05/2026 13:57

My upper arms (and legs but you can’t see them) are covered in bruises. I bruise very easily and work in a supermarket doing stock which means lifting etc.

What is your interest in this person and why are you suspicious of their sex life? There must be more to this.

YourHeartyFatball · 27/05/2026 13:57

Why would it be from sex? How is that your first thought? Maybe she’s on blood thinners. Maybe she has a bleeding disorder. Maybe she’s really clumsy. Maybe she’s being hurt…

Without asking directly, there’s no way to tell.

PoppySaidYesIKnow · 27/05/2026 13:56

If someone I knew well/cared about was covered in bruises I would definitely ask “oh gosh, what have you done to your arms?”

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0livesandcheese · 27/05/2026 13:53

im asking if I should ignore and let her be. Or say something

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