To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

I’m 4’11” and the amount of comments my height gets from men is ridiculous.
Do they think they’re funny?
Do they think it’s the first time i’ve ever heard it?
Today isn’t my first day being this height.
I can’t change it, and i don’t want to change it.

Men have to just say something…but control that urge when I’m with my husband.
Funny that.

Which they conveniently don’t do to men.

Also female and 6ft 2".

In my 20's and 30's multiple men asked me directly "What's the weather like up there?" in an attempt to get some response.
Obviously no tall woman has ever heard that comment before 🙄

My response was always verbally neutral; to get away as fast as possible. I wish I'd had the confidence to tell them to "Fuck off!" loudly instead.

More power to you and your S in your lives without men.

Does your employer not have an 'abuse will not be tolerated' policy? Your word against his, I realise, and he would probably have denied it, but the store has a right not to serve people abusing their staff surely.

I’m with you there . I work Retail so I see it all the time . I was helping out with trollies one Sunday and a male customer come right up to me and said “oh what are you doing out here or is it because you are so f**king useless at everything else “ ?.,. I was shocked but I still replied politely to him which annoyed me but I can’t say what I really wanted to say

I've never heard of that. To be honest, the term "bro-hood" sounds like an ironic parody of "sisterhood" to me. Kind of like "meninism."

No, would SHOULD NOT HAVE TO 'shrug off' ABUSE, being called names, or sexual harassment. Jog off with that misogynistic attitude!

Someone has never heard of the bro-hood....

Yes, I'm often supportive, and often other posters thank me.
But I get impatient with women, in this day and age, who are still doormats, or who go to pieces at the slightest negativity, or who feel the need for advice on the tiniest decision, or need to ask permission to have their feelings.
Perhaps some people might be better off, or might develop a spine, if everyone wasn't always rushing to support something no matter what. I'm baffled at so many people here who seemed to have reached adulthood without ever having experienced embarrassment from committing a faux pas or irritation from other people imposing or being rude.

Yes, me too. I accept DH's extensive knowledge of the railway system prior to 1945 and his ability to recite Land Rover part numbers with chilling accuracy and he accepts (and shows mild interest) in my obsession with native trees, small shiny beetles, fungi, my so so attempts at propagating woody stems and similar results with food preserving.

If he hears a man being verbally (or otherwise) abusive towards woman, he just assumes they have something fundamental missing.

Yes, or quiet shy men who don't want to draw attention to themselves. Never understood why this isn't seen as being a very attractive thing in men. I find loud overconfidence in men (and women for that matter) pretty repellent.

I agree with this. I think this is why a lot of women go for geeky sorts. My DH is a bit geeky and it would never cross his mind to cat call or chat shit to women.

That’s a bit harsh - but he might not be quite so ready to pass comment next time…..

@TomatoSandwiches
I think you posted too soon. Allow me to finish your sentence for you... are cunts!!
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I work in a customer facing role which offers a photocopying service to the public. When im serving women they explain what they need copied, stand to one side while I do it, pay me then take the copies and say thankyou. Men however seem to think they need to stand as close to me as possible at the copier to " supervise"! I then get their full life history and long winded explanations on why the item needs copied. I know what's coming when they say " well what it is... and off they go. Infuriating

I've had "go on love, you can do it" as I cycled up a slight incline in our largely flat town.

I find "no" works best when I'm told to smile.

Your totally NOT being unreasonable: one would expect better from these "random" men. However, just ignore these fools: there are many such who make comments (some hurtful) on anything different -- and they don't suffer from a medical condition (such as Tourette syndrome) either.

Its weird isnt it

Someone walking around grinning at nothing would look completely unhinged and creepy AF.

Its kind of like telling a random stranger walking past you to suddenly start dancing - why would they?

12 years ago i went on holiday with one of my best friends to Zante....one evening we headed out for dinner...we were dressed up...relaxed...happy etc and as we walked by one of the many restaurants trying to get us to go in...the owner said something to me... either 'smile or cheer up'...I can remember feeling really humiliated....i didnt even respond...probably just gave an awkward laugh....if it happened now id respond with a fuck off.

Exactly, which is why I refuse to let it pass. They need to have their asses handed to them. Pricks.

This one seems to be super common (as in my example). Why do some men expect us to just walk around smiling? Smiling at what? I never see lone men walking around smiling to themselves, or telling other men to cheer up. Of course I forgot we exist to be amenable and care-free in the eyes of men at all times 🙄

Working in London - random mid thirties loser a few times my size walking past me (with a migraine) a few weeks ago tells me to cheer up. I spun around, said audibly so others could hear 'What did you say? Don't tell me to cheer up, you fat fuck'. He did a double take.

It's like they see us as children who'll be flattered & delighted to be teased by a grown up man.

It's felt quite cathartic reading this thread (and contributing to it). I don't think I've really appreciated until now how prevalent this behaviour is, and the mental toll it takes on women having to deal with it, day in, day out.

Interesting the poster whose husband didn't see the issue in the swimming pool until she pointed it out to him. I think that's part of the problem too, the men that don't do this type of stuff don't see it when it happens to women so are pretty ignorant that it does happen and therefore don't intervene or notice it so the men who do shout/say these rude things to women continue to get away with it. I'm going to show my DH this thread and get him to read it from start to finish. He already knows my story (being told to smile and cheer up just after my sister died), but I think reading all these stories in black and white might hammer it home to him just how shitty and entitled these men are towards women. Like we "owe" them our time or "deserve" to be shouted at/abused in public. It's exhausting dealing with, quite honestly. I don't really know if it will ever stop.

I'm so sorry thus happened to you and your daughter, and that moron thought it was ok to make things even worse..