To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

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Thats appalling! I’m so sorry. In my experience rather a lot have a staggering superiority complex. I met 2 consultants in a social setting and I was absolutely horrified at their behaviour. Seeing my elderly father through rather a lot medically has opened my eyes right up to the disrespect some of these hold for patients. Sad for all the great Drs having to work around these individuals. Hoping you have the right people to help you now.

You are so right! I have just been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease after struggling to get tests and a diagnosis for six years. My doctor wrote to an endocrinologist for advice after my abnormal test results and his reply began "Nothing to see here"! And he told off my doctor for arranging the tests for me. Arrogant twat.

I'm quite enjoying the vision of random blokes yelling at assorted male strangers: Gizza smile, love; Nice arse, I'll have a handful; Oy, fatty, cover that up; Show us yer tits, love; Phwoar, wouldn't mind a go on that; Left a bit, right a bit, no left again, now back it in gently, straighten up, easy does it, yes, well done; Bloody men drivers, haven't got a clue what you're doing; Out of my way you stupid cunt; Having a bit of trouble with that are you love; Don't mind me, I'm just enjoying the view while you bend over; Pick that up, clumsy bitch; You're sexy in school uniform, you'll be sexier with it off; Not too young for a bit of how's-yer-father; Hey nurse, I need some intimate care ...

... All while going "Har, har, har" and expecting the male objects to grin with delight at being given attention. Gratitude, even. Wonder how that'd work out for them?

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The point is you wouldn't say it to a random male stranger. What you say to your friends is neither here nor there.

I dunno, i often compliment my male friends on having nice tits

I agree, it is quite funny

When my dd was a baby she would tolerate her pram for a short amount of time before kicking off and only calming down when I had to put her in a sling. I would therefore often go out with both the pram and sling. One day I was carrying her in a sling and pushing the pram when a random man took it upon himself to comment on this saying something along the lines of "wouldn't the baby be better in the pram rather than you having to carry her". Wow why didnt I think of that? What an idiot. I just looked at him and walked off.

Men tell other men to cheer up love? They tell them to smile? men cat call other men?

men may well talk shit to each other. This thread is about what they say to women. They say things to women that don’t say to men.

Well I've only very rarely been spoken to by other men in public; and then it has invariably been the case that they were either drunk, psychotic or actively trying to pick a fight.

Edit; the point being that women suffer this frequently, rather than rarely.

@ThatCyanCat It's not my job to entertain passing men on the street and it's not my job to waste my time and energy on men online either. If you were actually interested in women's perspectives, you wouldn't join MN purely so you can ignore them.

I didn't say it's your job to entertain men.
I didn't say it's your job to waste time and energy on men.
I didn't say the perspectives and experiences presented on the thread aren't valid.

Someone said that men don't bother other men in public. All I did was point out that that is not correct.

I'm not going to rehash 20 pages in one comment so you can fail to see it all a second time. It's not my job to entertain passing men on the street and it's not my job to waste my time and energy on men online either. If you were actually interested in women's perspectives, you wouldn't join MN purely so you can ignore them.

@ThatCyanCat It's really not my fault if you read the entire thread and still can't absorb anything that's been said, to the point where you say stuff like this with absolutely no irony.

There's nothing in this thread which proves that men don't talk like this to other men.

Of course they do. Why would you think otherwise?

I'm not really sure where your perspectives come from.

It's really not my fault if you read the entire thread and still can't absorb anything that's been said, to the point where you say stuff like this with absolutely no irony.

However, this does seem to be how you engage on here, so nobody expects you to make an exception now. All I can suggest is that you switch from transmit to receive occasionally, but I don't think you're here for that. 🤷‍♀️

Oh love. An (older male) colleague said it to me the day my parent was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Ive never forgotten. Love to you

@ThatCyanCat I don't think these men are scared of other men as much as they simply don't consider them accessories to their own lives who are there to love and appreciate inane, stupid, inappropriate or patronising comments. They don't think other men are there for their entertainment.

I'm not really sure where your perspectives come from. It should be common knowledge that men don't give a shit about other men and they do, in some cases, consider other men to be there solely to be berated and humiliated.

I don't think these men are scared of other men as much as they simply don't consider them accessories to their own lives who are there to love and appreciate inane, stupid, inappropriate or patronising comments. They don't think other men are there for their entertainment.

To be fair, he didn't say women are treated as equals. Our crime is wanting to be treated as equals.

Maybe if women were all meek & submissive, the overlords would be nice to us? Wait, we have evidence ... [looks at Afghanistan, Iran, all of recorded history]: Nope. May as well carry on pointing out that women are fully human.

@Petrolitis Now this is interesting because men don't make these comments to other random men in real life on the whole,

Yes, they do.

probably due to fear of retribution.

What "retribution"? If a man makes horrendous comments to another man, what "retribution" would they receive?

The idea that men are afraid of other men, but not women, is a bizarre myth that exists on this board for seemingly no reason.

The internet has exacerbated it for sure, but these guys have always existed. My dad thought women and feminism and a world that oppressed straight white men were to blame for everyone thinking he was a knob as well.

Do you see nothing ironic in your exhibiting exactly the type of behaviour complained of in this thread; while suggesting it is in some way your birthright to do so? I think it is quite funny.

Incels?

Utterly clueless