To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

... another good response if they shout out is to ask them to keep repeating what they said as if you didn't hear them ... sometimes it works and they hear themselves what a stupid comment it is or they give up. Especially satisfying if they are playing to a crowd 😅

YANBU. My ultimate pet peeve and thing I dread in public is men talking without need. They're either shouting or saying idiotic things or telling you their life story. The most annoying is when they drop hints as if they expect you to ask about them. A man at the till in the supermarket recently turned around to me and said "I bet you're wondering why I'm buying so many loaves of bread" Which I pretended I didn't hear. He then told me he buys them for a local community centre, and as if fed up of waiting for me to ask about it, he huffed and tried to get the cashier to agree how rude I was! Fuck off! I don't give a shit about your 3 loaves of bread! I'm not going to applaud you for spending £2.50 on your local community centre's bread reserves!

The best way to deal with this is to stop and simply stare them out. See the opening sequence in “Promising Young Woman” when the moronic men try to catcall her. They do this to belittle women and make them feel uncomfortable so you need to face it head on and make them feel uncomfortable instead.

In what way?

Sharkninja is a massive brand in the affiliate marketing and Tiktok shop scene. It's possible that man and his friend did Tiktok shop for the brand or they were involved in some marketing scheme and he was just using jargon to refer to something his friend knew about.

I think the type of men who do this are desperate for attention, so if they can’t get it any other way they resort to stupid, unwanted and mostly very unfunny comments, hoping for a laugh in response, and if they can’t have that, they’ll settle for making you feel uncomfortable.

Recently I was cleaning something at work when a couple of outside contractors walked by and one said “you’ve missed a bit,” like it’s not been said a million times before. I just laughed and said, “really? I didn’t know people still made that joke,” which shut him up without being offensive, ie giving him a reason to call me… whatever. You fill in the blank.

YNBU I’m just so disheartened to realise how many of these bloody idiots walk amongst us. They don’t seem to mature beyond 12 years

Calm down sugar tits is a good one.
Or... are you upset about something sweetheart?
Don't be getting 'Himotional '😂

Just laugh in their face... its very gratifying

not sure about that, they've always been tw*ts imho

Dim person who can only read out loud? My DC did that when young.

If I can be arsed I tend to act as though I thought they were genuinely Tring to tell me something, say sorry what was that, why, how do you mean, etc etc. Works particularly well for sexist jokes but in general they just have to acknowledge they were saying something mindless.

Actually so did I! Though I guess if I was struggling with a 20kg parcel I might not be as quick to see the funny side.

Headphones. A gift to women

@shutityouduffer 💐💐💐
I used to run in the early mornings near my home. Saw the same chap some mornings walking his dogs. The first couple of times I wished him a cheery ‘good morning’ as I passed, but he just used to stare at me so I gave up saying anything. After that, whenever I saw him he’d say ‘Still plodding away are you?’ Or something equally belittling.
Twat.
Can’t open his mouth to wish someone a good morning, but he can spare the breath to make them feel bad about themselves.

I usually use my middle finger for those kind of blokes and that usually shuts them up.

I was getting a lift to an event with a couple of friends - in a 3 door car. The car stopped working (clutch issues?) on a busy junction on a sort of roundabout where we were in the central lane of 3 on a busy road into the city centre. I jumped out and started pushing - it wasn't easy for the 3rd friend as she was in the back of the car and would have had to tip the seat and awkwardly crawl out (very small car - thankfully!). Luckily the first bit of the push wasn't too bad, and a bus stopped the traffic (double decker!) so that we could get over to the left hand lane but then it started going uphill slightly towards traffic lights. 3 men were passing - they said something like 'Whoa, Girl Power!' and at the same time a passing woman of a similar age (50s) rushed over and started to help me push. Typical attitude really!

They want your attention and are past the age of being able to pull on your skirt and say "Lady! lady! look at me I'm Spiderman I am!"

It must be some sort of dominance ritual. They don't bother once you are out of the age range they deem fuckable.

Men are dicks and nearly every mumsnet thread confirms this

Yes it’s never women who make these stupid remarks. I’d offer help if I could but making stupid, pointless, unhelpful remarks has never been on my (female) radar. I actually heard a man old enough to be her father, tell a young woman to ‘smile’ a few month’s ago. Poor girl just smiled weakly, I’m old enough now to have glared at him instead.

Yes. There are some men who literally say anything that comes into their heads. Limited is what they are.

I thought the shark ninja thing was funny 🤷‍♀️

Products of the Manosphere.

The one I used to get the most and it used to drive me crazy was "They're bad for you" when I smoked, yes I know they are thanks for that. And yes I really do know, I have given up now 😅

"Thank you, Random Man" is the retort you're looking for. Along with 😐