To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

Yeah you are.

No one is entitled to be made to speak to anyone.

He then called her rude for not responding to his self congratulatory pat on the back for his good bread deed.

The 'mind your own fucking business' brigade.

Crikey, how tedious. I had that rubbish in the 00s as a bar person!

I'm sorry for your loss. I had the exact same comment whilst cradling my darling old dog at the vets, about to have him pts. What the fuck is wrong with these mono brain celled unoriginal arseholes?

Tell me about it! I work part time in a bar, the amount of comments I get on repeat is ridiculous. All by men who think they are funny, and think hey are even funnier when drunk. Obviously, because it's my job, I always smile and give a little response back, but in my head I hate on them! Things like
"Look at the jugs on that!" (when carrying jugs of Pimms).
"Look at head on that" if it's a bit foamy,
"Do you know how to use that?" When I had to take a broom and sweep up in the road due to a broken glass after a fight.
"Do you come with it" when they buy a pint,
"Give it some welly!" When pushing down on a tap. and on and on.

Women on the other hand usually just saying "Thank you" pleasantly, or similar.

Love this 😂

Its the "on that" bit as well, like you're not a person but a thing

In my case they had drilled a hole in my wall. In fact the builder proceeded to tell me how used to have a cat, well actually a kitten as the kids wanted it but they had to get rid of it as it was actually quite expensive.

You are not wrong. It's always a man.

They do it when driving too, they often do manoeuvres on women they wouldn't dare on a man.

I was in the wrong here and I shouldn't have reacted like this. But I was hot, tired and he pissed me off. It was my right of way, coming down a road, he was the bottom where it goes into like a cross roads where it has wait markings on the floor for left and right.

I just got to this section behind another car, he clearly got impatient and as he had a huge car, started moving forward just as I am passing him and he nearly went into me. I was going slow and I wouldn't let him pass and I stuck my middle finger up at him. He obviously thought I was going to just let him push past me because he had a huge car.

🫣🫣🫣Omg not my finest moment but I am so sick of bully boy men who always push in with their cars or just act aggressive then I do it back this time, ridiculous of me really. They need to learn patience and to wait their turn.

This kind of stuff makes me so angry. It’s never women saying this shite, is it?!

@shutityouduffer you should have shouted your username at them.

When walking my puppy and totally minding my own business I have had several men offering me ‘advice’ on dog training, despite it being clear that I know what I am doing. Some that have forced my dog to meet theirs while it’s obvious I am trying to train him telling me they “need to be socialised”
Whenever I walk past other women walking their dogs we tend to completely understand what the other is trying to achieve if we are trying to give them space and just smile at each other!

I would never heckle a stranger in public, it’s just fucking odd behaviour

I'd have just said 'No'.
And stared at him.

They are misogynists. They don’t say this stuff to men.

Yes I do not want to be spoken to as I go about my daily life. Im introvert and shy. I will tolerate a quick hi from a stranger walk a dog past my house if I am outside. But no. This happened a few time to me recently and o really just wanted to tell you them to fuck off. Something inane from a person who “everyone loves and is friendly and chatty” no. Do not talk to me. I do not care for you misogynistic witticisms.

i think they will like the thanks random man so now I just started with my mouth slightly open. Like I’m clueless.

Awful men and comments. I’m glad some other ones were nicer. There are dickheads everywhere it seems.
I had one the other week - I (early 50s, wearing no makeup) was walking home in our village at about 9.30 at night with my 11 yo daughter. Two men got out of a taxi, one was quite drunk. It was still light and we commented on that. As I walked on I heard him say “Look at the arse on that.” I was really annoyed that a man would make such a comment with a child present, I sincerely hope he was not talking about her.

I wholeheartedly agree, I have been driving since I passed my first test at 17 in London that was over 25 years ago!

Think of them as your hecklers OP, desperate to be noticed.

My favourite thing to say to men when they make a 'joke' like this is

'Can you explain that to me, I don't understand the joke' over and over again while they tie themselves in knots

'No, still don't get it, why is that funny?'

You are pissed off you can't come back with a witty putdown? Unless comments are rude/racist/misogynist, what is the problem?

I have lived in London for years and can definitely parallel park, reverse park, whatever. Several times a random man will start giving me advice on how to park my car. I find it incredibly irritating. And there is no way that they would do that to a man.

You live in a village full of idiots @shutityouduffer

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I agree the kicking comment was probably in reference to the ninja. However, it's a bit rude trying to crack wise when someone is fighting against an awkward package. Try not to let the comments wind you up.

If it helps my stock response to men attempting to be funny is "That's very funny, you should be on stage....sweeping it".

No to the poster who was wearing them while on her laptop at the tube when a strupid random man demanded her attention by asking where her bag was from.

Yet on that thread she had other posters imploring her to Be Kind and Be Polite.

Men demand the attention of women as a means of controlling them and how they conduct themselves into the world. Many many people don't seem to get that.

Oh for goodness sake. I have had unasked for guidance from one male passer by when parking on my drive.