To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

Tomayto-tomahto the patriarchy predates the manosphere by 3-4000 ish years, sadly. Same shit different creek

It doesn't. There is no camaraderie among men. Women have the sisterhood, but men do not share the same bond with other men.

"Manosphere" predates The Manosphere by centuries.

I had cheer up love it might never happen all through my 20s. As if we have a duty to look cheerful at all times. In your 20s you can be going through a lot of turmoil- end of relationships, and in my case my mums sudden death when I was 27. I didn’t need a bunch of randoms telling me to cheer up. I wonder if they do it because they have no idea how to approach women productively/ flirt?

I'm not really a fan of the clever or smug comments by the way. The issue with that approach is that it feeds them.

Whenever this happens to me, I don't make eye contact and I say nothing.

But this behaviour clearly predates the manosphere by decades.

Sadly we're all just minnows swimming in the vast patriarchal ocean that is the manosphere.

Doesn't matter if he's online or not. It leeches into everything.

Hahahaha nailed it. Omg i've had a few blokes say that to me. 'Cheer up it might never happen', literally random strangers and yes, always blokes. How dare they! To which I replied 'it already has' and he didn't know what to say.

I don't think you really understand men as a whole, or the manosphere. The old bloke making stupid comments to you in a pub is very unlikely to be navigating "manosphere" forums on the internet, and most of them if you mentioned something like "feminism" or "men's rights" would just stare at you blankly and ask "what's that?"

Guys who say that are automatically arseholes.

A couple of years ago I was getting on a bus wearing a mask when the driver, who was standing beside it vaping, said 'your glasses have steamed up.'

Well yes, I can actually tell if my glasses have steamed up, you know. I felt like replying that it had the advantage that I couldn't see his nasty face but decided to give him my best side-eye instead. I have asthma and I do my best to avoid any kind of virus but that's none of your business Mr Twatty bus driver and wearing a mask on public transport is MY lifestyle choice.

I had bought a couple of bras at Tesco a couple of years back, and as I passed the security gate the alarm went off. I hadn’t realised they were tagged, and I’d used the self checkout. The woman took them out my bag to remove the tags and an older man passed me and said ‘bet you’re glad you didn’t have it on’ in a sleazy voice. I nearly threw up in my mouth 🤮

God, what a twat. Baffles me how some men can be such idiots.

I don't understand and three people have said it was funny now so clearly I'm missing something. Not being shitty, genuinely want you to explain it.

Some Drs can be awful! My elderly father has experienced some dreadful comments especially from higher up consultants. Very arrogant

Should have said “ talking on my mobile”

This.
Not all men, but always men
Same as on Facebook.. people ask for advice or post info on the community pages, men rushing on to make witty comments while most women respond properly

I had an arse hole of a man shout at me “ watch that hole” when I was walking & at the same time talking to sister about my elderly Dad who’d had a fall and had just been taken into hospital .
Unfortunately I couldn’t think of anything suitably scathing to say to him so just called him a knob !”

Same. Walking to school in my uniform. I was so embarrassed and didn’t tell my parents as I thought I had done something to cause it.

Awful. I had that exact comment directed at me during a time when my mother was very ill, which was hurtful enough - can’t imagine how you must have felt

I have an autoimmune disease. A doctor was discussing treatment with me and with a stupid grin on his face asked me if I was pregnant because of the harm to a fetus. I was 72 yrs. old. I told him I was hoping for a miracle but not that one.

I can remember being 12 and load of men - not boys - yelling all sorts at me from a car.
I was like a string bean. Flat chest, no bum. Hair in a plait.
And I will never forget my mum saying…
God that’s happened earlier than I thought.
Then I got a talk when we got home - it was early 80’s.

I don’t know what’s going on with them at the minute. I went for my Asda click and collect and there was a queue to get into the lanes to get your shopping. Joined the queue. Some man drove right to the front and went into the parking space beside the lanes and started waving his phone in the workers face. At least 2 other men got out of cars behind me doing the same, trying to bunk the queue. I got near the front and was close to the guy who bunked car and the worker asked who was there first and I said “Me, he’s just drove round all these waiting cars” and the guy tutted at me! Really wound me up.

I must be so used to these comments I just respond cheerfully. Suppose I'm used to it as am under 4ft 11ins and have a massive gentle dog. I've had the breed for 12 years and still get men teling me how to look after him.