To get wound up by random men making stupid, rude comments when I’m visibly struggling in public?

Ive had this when stopped sorting an issue with my car. I was outside driver door but had to stoop and reach in to look for a release button. Not sure if my bum was actually on display (don’t think it was) but my bent over arse was visible to the road (i was in a car park next to it). The amount of horn peeps (jeering really) I got as cars drove on past, instead of realising I was sorting something or needing help. It was a rural area, cars don’t peep routinely at that bit. But it was oh so funny seeing a woman struggling unglamorously.

Oh do FO dear

Dont get me started on men who comment when you’re jogging

do they shout “come on love” to men who run? No. No they do not

A few years ago I turned around on a canal towpath for return leg of a six-mile run and man I had passed just before the midway point said "you didn't go far" when I passed him again - condescending and wrong!

I got "cheer up love, it might never happen" 20 minutes after I'd heard my grandad died. I went ballistic at the bloke. Bloody men.

I call them cheerbleeders

I perfectly understand this upsets you but maybe you should try and grow a thicker skin? The "I should 've kicked it" obviously refers to the ninja stuff, completely unasked for, but what if you had answered "please don't kick it but if you could help me carry it that would make you a real hero" ? And yes, I used to be a woossy, but developing a spine hasn't hurt me 😊

It’s because they are so funny and clever OP 🙄

(would have taken a cab with that BBQ sounds like a nightmare trying to carry it especially in this heat).

Yes I’ve had this before and it really fucking pisses me off. I often think “you’re lucky I’m not a bloke because I’d cave your fucking head in mate”. Horrible I know, but when you’ve had shit over and over for years… it does build up.

Once got a rouge comment when I was with my dad and they definitely did not know that scary looking bloke was my dad. It was very satisfying seeing them shit themselves when he kicked off I’m not going to lie 😭.

Something similar happened to me too. Insensitive oafs, why do they do it?

I've worked in male dominated jobs for years and have learnt to come back with remarks to mug them off in a witty way but put them in their place. I love to see their reactions 😂 but then I am quite blunt so don't get offended by their idiotic comments. It's hard to sometimes think on the spot though. I don't no what goes through their heads tbh

I think he said he should have kicked it as their a real life ninja shark in it.

Not exactly joke of the year. But another little gem from were just having a larf brigade.

As my mother used to say. Don't mock the afflicted. Its a shame for them. Poor things.

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OMGosh that's horrific.

I'm so sorry you had to hear that ❤️

Added to this, those who clap your parking, 'You did well to get that into there love" was once said to me as I got out of the car. When I said There's lots of space, would you have struggled?; he looked quite offended.

What an admirable hobby - coming onto forums and trolling women.

I bet you're a real catch.

I was standing outside the cancer unit with a family member in a wheelchair on a warm day. The carpark was opposite. My family member was in their pajamas and they had a scarf on their head. They were very obviously having cancer treatment at the time. Some male arsehole about mid 40s shouted over " enjoy your fags eh girls" I'm in the UK so they meant cigarettes. This male walked off clearly pleased with himself. We were the only ones there, neither of us smoke , no one had been near us, so there was no one he could of mistaken us for smoking. We had literally came outside to look at the sun and get some non hospital air. He's lucky I couldn't leave my family member on their own or I'd of ran after him. He thought he was being really clever , probably told everyone later how he'd told us and how clever he was. Stupid dickhead.

Nicely played.

This isn’t my post, but regardless, the OP was struggling and they were joking on rather than offering help or just shutting up.

It really is pathetic at times isn't? I used to get various comments from young blokes when walking my chihuahua, all around how easily they or their dog could kill mine.
Like animal cruelty was some sort of flex (idk, maybe the other mouth breathers would be impressed by somebody kicking a chihuahua to death?).
Never heard a single comment like that from a woman though....apparently we don't feel threatened by tiny dogs!

Men! Sigh!! Cheer yourself up by watching Ladies First on Netflix. Very enjoyable 90 minutes! We can but dream..!!

We can’t judge their tone from your post. It doesn’t seem like they were making fun. Perhaps you are seeing the world negatively at the moment? I vote you are being unreasonable as they are not things that I think you should dwell on.. saying this with kindness.

Woman here, do sod off dear. No one asked for your opinion.

I am nearly as far north as you can get before being Scottish and if someone wants to say hello here we still just say hi/good morning/evening etc. Making a joke out of someone struggling isn’t ok wherever you’re from.

Well done, you got two in one. Several times, under both usernames.

Were you using one account for patronising and the other for condescending? It's hard to tell. Perhaps you'd like to mansplain.