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Anyone else’s Landlord do this? AIBU to be irritated?

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Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 10:26

For context we’ve been renting this house from our Landlady for just over ten years now and she’s hands down the most intrusive landlord I’ve ever had. Can be very free with her opinions on how we live and has form for dropping in unannounced as she’s passing by, if she does let us know she’s coming it’s with as little notice as possible.
So fairly or not I find her very irritating generally but what’s really annoying me is the last couple of years she's developed a habit of scheduling in visits to the house every single time my son is off school. My son has autism and attends a special school, he really doesn’t like having strangers in our home which she is aware of. As my husband frequently travels for work at short notice I don’t work so she could come anytime during term time but she repeatedly turns up during the holidays, usually with one days notice and disrupts our plans. I just don’t understand why she herself wouldn’t rather come when my sons at school, everything is tidied away etc.
The last straw is her texting me at 6:30am on bank holiday Monday to say she wanted to call in at some point that afternoon to drop in some paperwork to us. She wasn’t too happy at being told we weren’t available that short notice but agreed to reschedule so now she’s coming today at some point between late morning and early afternoon so we’re wasting a day just hanging around waiting for her and I spent the hottest day of the year deep cleaning downstairs to circumvent comments on my not having hoovered over the bank holiday weekend and how my son really doesn’t need that many toys out…
Is anyone else’s landlord like this? Am I unreasonable to find this annoying and wish she’d try to schedule this in outside of the holidays?

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Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 14:01

PrincessofWills · 27/05/2026 13:49

I doubt she's regretting it, rather she's responding to the RRA which allows increases only once a year and restricts possession proceedings. It means the risk is much higher so the rent has to reflect that.

I think may be regretting not having raised our rent a reasonable amount before this I mean. As now she’s limited to once a year, even if it’s reasonable for her to raise it she’s made it difficult for herself. One the plus side, all going well when we’ve served notice and left she can decorate and rent it out at the market rent.

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Agapornis · 27/05/2026 13:59

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 13:17

Yeah she was very not happy with these new regulations. She asked us for a meeting to discuss the new legislation, again in the evening knowing my son would be home and be a distraction, then skimmed over that then she started talking about how much money it was going to cost her, next thing we know she’s telling us our rent was going to increase next month but she’d be keeping it below market rate as we’re such good tenants and she and her DH believe in helping out young people. DH was furious she'd lied and said it was just talk about the new rules then increased our rent with no notice. Suddenly became obvious she’d increased the rent as much as she legally could before she could only do it once a year.

increased our rent with no notice

Could you elaborate on this? Even before 1 May's RRA there was a minimum notice period, I think it was 1 month?

Is your deposit even registered with a scheme? Because if it's not you'll be entitled to a lot of money. https://www.gov.uk/tenancy-deposit-protection/if-your-landlord-doesnt-protect-your-deposit

If it the deposit is registered, the default is that you'll get 100% back unless she disputes it.

I think you're being far too passive about what is your own money.

fivepastmidnight · 27/05/2026 13:58

God she sounds like an absolute nightmare. I don't see why she needs to turn up to tell the electrician what needs doing surely you can do that yourself. I wouldn't be able to live like that How frequently is frequently? I would explain to her it's much more convenient for me if you come during the term time And I can arrange to be in . Half term upset X. I would email that's not convenient for me i'm available this week between the hours of this and this - let me know what suits you and we can find something that's convenient to us both. I've rented my house for the last 10 years and I rarely see my landlord unless I've text him to tell him something's not working [Usually the boiler one a once a year } he arranges for the plumber to come and will text me to say Tuesday morning OK etc ? other than that he arranges the gas engineneer to do the annual gas checks.
it's her property but it's your home. The person further up the thread whose landlord used to go through their bins This happened to me [they also used to live next door to me }How disconcerting that there's more than one weirdo doing this

JHound · 27/05/2026 13:53

MidnightMusing5 · 27/05/2026 13:43

I’ve got family who are landlords of multiple properties. They also turn up unannounced. . In return, they don’t put up the rent very often and all their properties are rented out below market value. This in turn means they have a lot of long term tenants . The check is to ensure the house is being looked after and not damaged. I consider that a fair exchange?

I don’t think it’s a fair exchange. I do like anybody visiting me unannounced. Not even family. I don’t care what the rent is. Also if my clothes are strewn all over the place and I have not dusted in a month it does not mean the property is not being looked after.

Goblinmusic · 27/05/2026 13:53

PrincessofWills · 27/05/2026 13:51

So your rent is below market rent by several hundred - and you're still impugning your landlord . . . you might be the problem here.

How is the OP the problem for paying the agreed rent?

PrincessofWills · 27/05/2026 13:51

So your rent is below market rent by several hundred - and you're still impugning your landlord . . . you might be the problem here.

VexedofVirginiaWater · 27/05/2026 13:51

Does she know you are moving soon OP?

Thumber · 27/05/2026 13:51

MidnightMusing5 · 27/05/2026 13:43

I’ve got family who are landlords of multiple properties. They also turn up unannounced. . In return, they don’t put up the rent very often and all their properties are rented out below market value. This in turn means they have a lot of long term tenants . The check is to ensure the house is being looked after and not damaged. I consider that a fair exchange?

Some would say “fair”, but the vast majority of the population as well as the police and the courts would say “illegal”

JHound · 27/05/2026 13:51

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 12:49

She doesn’t have children or grandchildren herself so at first I assumed it was just coincidence but last year she mentioned in conversation a few times about having great nieces and nephews visiting during half term and planning holidays around that so I think she does have some awareness.

I wasn’t too impressed when she tried to schedule the first bit of decorating over half term and the painter and decorator said oh that’s half term maybe the week after is better and she tried to tell him it didn’t matter as I wouldn’t mind. It just didn’t seem to occur to her it was easier for him without a very loud kid wandering around while he’s working and that maybe I would mind not being able to take my son out when I wanted during a week off school.

I mean I have had done things with nieces and nephews during school holidays but largely arranged with parents which is how I learned when the holidays are. But I would have no forward knowledge of anything.

But you do need to restrict her access to the property though.

PrincessofWills · 27/05/2026 13:49

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 13:41

Definitely this she’s tried to get us close to market rate as she can in the time she’s had before the new renters rights are in effect. I'd much rather have had a smaller yearly increase to keep in line with this area instead of her putting it up so much in such a short space of time. She puts charging us below market down to wanting to help young people and keeping such good long term tenants but I guess she’s regretting that now for whatever reason.

I doubt she's regretting it, rather she's responding to the RRA which allows increases only once a year and restricts possession proceedings. It means the risk is much higher so the rent has to reflect that.

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 13:49

MidnightMusing5 · 27/05/2026 13:43

I’ve got family who are landlords of multiple properties. They also turn up unannounced. . In return, they don’t put up the rent very often and all their properties are rented out below market value. This in turn means they have a lot of long term tenants . The check is to ensure the house is being looked after and not damaged. I consider that a fair exchange?

We had three monthly inspections for the first three years of renting until she suddenly stopped and she’s now turning a blind eye to the disrepair of a lot of the house while steadily increasing our rent until we’re only a couple of hundred pounds below market rent. So not quite a reciprocal arrangement. It’s really the lack of better options that have kept us here so long.

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PrincessofWills · 27/05/2026 13:45

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 27/05/2026 11:42

She could use royal mail tracked and signed for delivery.

You could prepare some paperwork of your own showing her all the ways she could be a less intrusive landlord and take it round to her house and make her sign for it.

No, it needs confirmation the tenant has received it, ideally by signing a note to say they have received it. It can be served by email providing the tenancy agreement states this. It's not her fault it's the RRA insisting the document be provided.

Mabiscuit · 27/05/2026 13:43

I used to have this with landlords when I was renting. They would pretend to check something like a shelf or tap but I know it was to see if I wad sub-letting. I wasn't but that was a very uncomfortable time when I would said say no to last minute visits. Once I came home frok work to find a handyman in the apartment and the LL said she had texted. It was in her drafts.

MidnightMusing5 · 27/05/2026 13:43

I’ve got family who are landlords of multiple properties. They also turn up unannounced. . In return, they don’t put up the rent very often and all their properties are rented out below market value. This in turn means they have a lot of long term tenants . The check is to ensure the house is being looked after and not damaged. I consider that a fair exchange?

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 13:41

deepdas · 27/05/2026 13:31

Sounds to me that she is currently worrying about the new renters rights paperwork and also worried that she has been charging you too little and if she does not get your rent where it needs to be before a certain deadline then she won't be able to increase it and you could take advantage of the situation and the new incoming renters rights.

Definitely this she’s tried to get us close to market rate as she can in the time she’s had before the new renters rights are in effect. I'd much rather have had a smaller yearly increase to keep in line with this area instead of her putting it up so much in such a short space of time. She puts charging us below market down to wanting to help young people and keeping such good long term tenants but I guess she’s regretting that now for whatever reason.

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deepdas · 27/05/2026 13:31

Sounds to me that she is currently worrying about the new renters rights paperwork and also worried that she has been charging you too little and if she does not get your rent where it needs to be before a certain deadline then she won't be able to increase it and you could take advantage of the situation and the new incoming renters rights.

InterviewGhost · 27/05/2026 13:30

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 13:28

She definitely treats us though she’s doing us a favour by letting us live here rather than us paying for the right to live here. Always making comments on our age even though we were thirty one and thirty two when we first moved in nd have been living together and renting since I was twenty one. Always making comments about my appearance in weird ways, I have social anxiety and when it came up in conversation it was like she didn’t believe it, kept saying No, beautiful blonde specksofwhite can’t possibly have social anxiety!', just very weird as I’m not particularly attractive and I’m fairly sure hair colour isn’t related to mental health issues 😂
I just find her extremely contrary. She regularly compliments how clean the house is but in the same breath makes comments on how much stuff we own and repeatedly suggests we’re hoarders. She knew we had cats and was happy to rent to us but she really can’t stand my cat and has made a couple of very poor taste jokes about getting them out down. Could barely contain her relief when one did actually pass away of an illness which I thought was pretty horrible.

She sounds unhinged at best and fucking nasty at worst.

LaBarucci · 27/05/2026 13:29

LarksAscending · 27/05/2026 13:25

It’s May 27…

Yeah, I know, sorry😐I rectified the mistake in my last post above.

PashaMinaMio · 27/05/2026 13:28

Byron1990 · 27/05/2026 11:07

I’m a landlord, this is illlegal, you have a right to enjoy your home in peace. Tell her no without appropriate notice and only for actual checks anything else can be done by email

This. ^^
i was a landlord until last winter. No way would I have disturbed my long term tenants like this. They are entitled to the “quiet enjoyment of their home.”

Shes disrespectful & you can put a stop to it constructively by suggesting 2 inspections a year. Nothing more. If she’s pushy, keep her on te doorstep. Thats pretty standard.

Set up some constructive boundaries. Get familiar with your tenancy rights. Look up the Shelter website. Gov.uk & Citizens Advice too.

LarksAscending · 27/05/2026 13:28

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 13:06

We’ve already written off the deposit, we suspect she’ll be difficult and I just don’t want the hassle of fighting her. I wouldn’t even know where to start over who’s responsible for the laminate issues or the peeling paint and other stuff.

Don’t do that. It should be in a scheme so she can’t just nick it. You very simply submit evidence of the house after you leave (time stamped photos) and any cleaning services paid for etc and they rule in your favour. Don’t be a wet wipe.

Most of that stuff is considered wear and tear after a few years so she cannot claim it from you.

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 13:28

InterviewGhost · 27/05/2026 12:29

My last landlord was like this. He once had a massive go at me because the skirting boards were dusty. He said he and his wife would never “keep house” like this.

He also liked to go through the bins and comment on what I used / threw away (he lived next to the property I rented).

When he did his inspections, he would look in the oven, fridge, cupboards etc. And comment on everything.

When I moved, he tried to keep the entire deposit without going through the deposit scheme (ie by asking me to transfer him £x, when I mentioned having to negotiate through the scheme he said he didn’t know how to).

Ive had a few landlords like this actually - that run their rental properties as if they are air BnBs and treat all tenants like kids.

Anyway OP. She sounds infuriating.

She definitely treats us though she’s doing us a favour by letting us live here rather than us paying for the right to live here. Always making comments on our age even though we were thirty one and thirty two when we first moved in nd have been living together and renting since I was twenty one. Always making comments about my appearance in weird ways, I have social anxiety and when it came up in conversation it was like she didn’t believe it, kept saying No, beautiful blonde specksofwhite can’t possibly have social anxiety!', just very weird as I’m not particularly attractive and I’m fairly sure hair colour isn’t related to mental health issues 😂
I just find her extremely contrary. She regularly compliments how clean the house is but in the same breath makes comments on how much stuff we own and repeatedly suggests we’re hoarders. She knew we had cats and was happy to rent to us but she really can’t stand my cat and has made a couple of very poor taste jokes about getting them out down. Could barely contain her relief when one did actually pass away of an illness which I thought was pretty horrible.

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LarksAscending · 27/05/2026 13:25

LaBarucci · 27/05/2026 12:49

Just a minute. As Agapornis has mentioned above, your landlord has a legal requirement to send out a copy of the Renters Rights Act to you, and should have done this by now. The deadline for doing this was 31 May, which has now passed. Thankfully my EAs took on this task (at a price) and my own tenant has received a copy, but, if there are no EAs involved here, your landlord is now liable for a £7,000 fine. Also, she cannot raise the rent (at standard market rates) more than once a year; under Section 8 of the act, she must give you 4 months notice before requiring you to move out for one of four reasons established by the Act; if she does do this, she cannot rent or sell the property for twelve months thereafter. Even under the old legislation she has been breaking the law left, right and centre. Here's a copy of the Act for you to send her if she isn't aware of it already - unless, of course, this 'paperwork' she's handing over was in fact the Renters Rights Act itself- but she's still past the official deadline

It’s May 27…

Pollymollydolly · 27/05/2026 13:20

Specksofwhiteallaround · 27/05/2026 13:06

We’ve already written off the deposit, we suspect she’ll be difficult and I just don’t want the hassle of fighting her. I wouldn’t even know where to start over who’s responsible for the laminate issues or the peeling paint and other stuff.

Don’t write off your deposit - it’s actually really difficult for landlords to make a claim on your deposit.

I’m not in the uk but friends of ours rented out their uk flat for years through an agent. They had long term tenants and clearly the agents were shite as when the tenants moved out there was a lot of damage. The tenants had pets without permission and they clearly didn’t look after them very well as the carpets were pet urine soaked and lots of damage to walls and skirtings from the pets. It was put down to fair wear and tear. The real biggy though was the tenants removed the second bathroom and made it into an office!! Yes, they removed the bathroom suite and turned the room into an office. Our friends applied to claim their deposit and basically got a tiny amount, nowhere near enough to sort the issues. Obviously with long term tenants you would expect to replace carpets and decorate, but the filth and damage to this flat - it really shocked me that they were awarded so little and the tenants got most of their deposit back.

Edited to add the deposit was held with the Tenancy Deposit Scheme so all done through official channels. Honestly think your landlord wouldn’t be entitled to a bean as you haven’t caused any damage, it’s just general wear and tear.

notawittyname1954 · 27/05/2026 13:19

She should be given you 24 hours notice minimum.

TheAmusedQuail · 27/05/2026 13:18

Email her (so you have a record) and ask her to make sure she gives 24 hours notice and a specific time/date in future.

I'm a landlady. It really isn't that hard to do.

And it is absolutely fine for you to give a date / time which is convenient for you.

I would (and am) be fine with all of those conditions. They are actually backed by law.

As for the rent increase, if it's below market rent, there isn't much you can do about it. Unfortunately, the new legislation around renting is going to adversely affect tenants the most.

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