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AIBU to stop texting when a friend seems dry over messages?

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ProudAzureSquid · 26/05/2026 23:01

One of my friends has seemed a bit off over text lately. Not rude or anything, just dry enough that I’ve started feeling like I’m bothering him whenever I message.
Earlier we had a slightly awkward conversation and I ended up saying “you seem kinda pissed, I won’t text now.” He replied quickly saying he wasn’t pissed, so I don’t think there’s actually any issue between us.

After that though, I just didn’t really feel like carrying on the conversation. I’m not angry with him and I don’t want things to be awkward at all, I think I’m just a bit tired of always being the one keeping the texting going.
Part of me feels like I should send something normal afterwards just so it doesn’t seem weird, but another part of me thinks I might be overthinking it and it’s fine to just leave the conversation where it naturally ended (with him saying he's not pissed).

AIBU for not replying further and just leaving it there? 😶

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ProudAzureSquid · 27/05/2026 00:49

BauhausOfEliott · 27/05/2026 00:29

Good grief. Not everyone is in the mood to chat all the bloody time. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re annoyed, simply that sometimes they’ve got other things to do and think about beyond giving you attention. You sound very needy and I think you need to learn to take a hint.

It’s not like I’m constantly messaging him though. I text him once in a while, but his replies felt a bit different compared to before so I just wondered if something was up

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OxRug · 27/05/2026 00:48

Pissed? Or pissed off?

BauhausOfEliott · 27/05/2026 00:29

Good grief. Not everyone is in the mood to chat all the bloody time. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re annoyed, simply that sometimes they’ve got other things to do and think about beyond giving you attention. You sound very needy and I think you need to learn to take a hint.

ProudAzureSquid · 27/05/2026 00:04

Jk987 · 26/05/2026 23:37

Maybe he’s got a girlfriend now.

I have a partner 😅

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Jk987 · 26/05/2026 23:37

Maybe he’s got a girlfriend now.

ProudAzureSquid · 26/05/2026 23:22

HappiestSleeping · 26/05/2026 23:15

I find it better to actually speak to people. All this texting drives me nuts and takes longer than actual human engagement. That way you can also tell by tone of voice etc. Facial expression if you video call.

Look at me getting all modern suggesting video calls.

Yeah, I agree.

It wasn’t even a long conversation, I just sent something short. I’m just wondering whether I should say anything now after he said he’s not pissed, or if it’s better to leave it there.

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HappiestSleeping · 26/05/2026 23:15

I find it better to actually speak to people. All this texting drives me nuts and takes longer than actual human engagement. That way you can also tell by tone of voice etc. Facial expression if you video call.

Look at me getting all modern suggesting video calls.

ProudAzureSquid · 26/05/2026 23:12

Childanddogmama · 26/05/2026 23:08

Some people (me included) just aren't texters. I can't be bothered with chit chat over text and sometimes take days to reply. Perhaps you are just different in how you communicate.

Yeah I totally get that, which is why I stepped back a bit. He used to text me way more before so I’m just a bit confused by the sudden change. I don’t know whether to reply now after he said he’s not pissed or just leave it there though

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Childanddogmama · 26/05/2026 23:08

Some people (me included) just aren't texters. I can't be bothered with chit chat over text and sometimes take days to reply. Perhaps you are just different in how you communicate.