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AIBU to be upset my parents walked the dog in this heat?

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rollinginthedeepsea · 26/05/2026 22:07

My parents are looking after our dog this week whilst we are abroad. They’re not dog owners themselves so I had messaged them a few days ago reminding them to not walk above roughly 20’c with the dog as that’s the rule we go by in summer. I wouldn’t expect them to be able to walk at 7or 8am as they are in their early seventies so presumed they would use common sense and just skip any walks . Checked ring camera for a parcel today and seen they walked our dog at 10.30 in 26’c.
I've called them out on it and they’re acting like I’m being completely over the top and that the dog was fine. AIBU?
The dog is not a risk breed or elderly but I’m upset at the principle of ignoring what I’ve asked.

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Melsy88 · 27/05/2026 09:34

I don't think you're being unreasonable and have had similar conversations with my parents!
It's not like you're asking something different or inconvenient, and you know your dog best.

BIossomtoes · 27/05/2026 09:11

mydogisthebest · 27/05/2026 07:27

You should not let her run round when it is do hot. Dogs don't always do what is best for their health do they? Some dogs lie in hot sun and then get heat stroke.

A friend of mine is a vet nurse and every summer she sees dogs with burnt pads, dogs with heat stroke etc. Sadly some of the dogs with heat stroke die. All because of stupid owners

Try stopping a dog from running around. I’d really love to see you try. Ours lay in the sun yesterday with blissful looks on their faces with frequent recourse to the drinking bowl. I’d venture to suggest that dogs’ instincts are more reliable than humans’ theories.

Ablondiebutagoody · 27/05/2026 08:59

ScouserSue · 26/05/2026 23:58

26C is most definitely hot if you’re working a fur coat. If it isn’t that hot, why don’t you wear your winter coat and gloves and a hat - well you won’t because you’d overheat.

There is a reason that fur coats aren't made from dog hair. It doesn't insulate in the way that you think.

PuppyMonkey · 27/05/2026 08:52

I’ve also got a dog who refuses to poo in the back garden but we haven’t taken him out for a walk for a few days now because it’s too hot and guess what? He’s poo’d in the back garden.

sleepwouldbenice · 27/05/2026 08:32

tiramisugelato · 27/05/2026 08:06

Of course your friend sees dogs with heatstroke and burnt pads - her job is quite literally to deal with those things. But millions of other dogs manage to get through the summer without ever burning their feet or struggling to breathe.

That’s not to diminish how awful those things are, but they’re still very much a rarity and using them to scaremonger and bully people who still choose to walk their dogs when it’s above a randomly designated temperature is all kinds of fucked up.

Rather than random numbers do you not think the advice given is based on scientific evidence and dogs who have suffered?
The advice is just that. Advice. Based on evidence. Its not compulsory but its pretty dumb to ignore it

sleepwouldbenice · 27/05/2026 08:29

Ablondiebutagoody · 26/05/2026 22:39

What ill-effects did the dog suffer?

Saw a dog collapsed in a woods yesterday from heat. It does happen
Your ignorance is showing

Jellycatspyjamas · 27/05/2026 08:23

The advice you link to outlines risks if dogs are exercised too vigorously or have underlying conditions. I’d not think twice about taking my dog out at 20-24 degrees, and your parents are doing you a favour caring for your dog. I couldn’t get worked up about unless it was closer to 30 when they took him out.

Ohthatsabitshit · 27/05/2026 08:16

Dogs like people can walk in temperatures above 26 degrees.

tiramisugelato · 27/05/2026 08:06

mydogisthebest · 27/05/2026 07:27

You should not let her run round when it is do hot. Dogs don't always do what is best for their health do they? Some dogs lie in hot sun and then get heat stroke.

A friend of mine is a vet nurse and every summer she sees dogs with burnt pads, dogs with heat stroke etc. Sadly some of the dogs with heat stroke die. All because of stupid owners

Of course your friend sees dogs with heatstroke and burnt pads - her job is quite literally to deal with those things. But millions of other dogs manage to get through the summer without ever burning their feet or struggling to breathe.

That’s not to diminish how awful those things are, but they’re still very much a rarity and using them to scaremonger and bully people who still choose to walk their dogs when it’s above a randomly designated temperature is all kinds of fucked up.

rollinginthedeepsea · 27/05/2026 08:03

Imlyingandthatsthetruth · 27/05/2026 07:23

Can't get past "I wouldn’t expect them to be able to walk at 7or 8am as they are in their early seventies"!

MN The home of ageist crap.

That’s them saying it’s too early for them and me respecting their decision. I personally don’t think it’s early. But they do, so why would I then insist they get up then?

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Candy24 · 27/05/2026 07:57

WOW some dog owners are nutty. Your being over the top and quiet pedantic.

Purplecatshopaholic · 27/05/2026 07:48

I wouldn’t walk my dogs on pavement at 26 degrees so I agree op. However I’d be more pissed off they ignored my request/instructions as that’s just rude.

TotalBaloney · 27/05/2026 07:31

mydogisthebest · 27/05/2026 07:27

You should not let her run round when it is do hot. Dogs don't always do what is best for their health do they? Some dogs lie in hot sun and then get heat stroke.

A friend of mine is a vet nurse and every summer she sees dogs with burnt pads, dogs with heat stroke etc. Sadly some of the dogs with heat stroke die. All because of stupid owners

Oh course I stop her running around, I’m not an idiot 🙄 , my point being that just because your dog lies around all day in the heat, not all have the same inclination.

mydogisthebest · 27/05/2026 07:28

Neodymium · 27/05/2026 07:26

Geez in Australia we walk dogs at 26 degrees. Maybe 31 you might think twice. What an overreaction. Dogs can pant to keep themselves cool.

Yes dogs pant to keep cool just as we sweat but it's not some miracle things that stops them getting overheated, heat stroke or even dying.

Geez there are some idiots on this thread

mydogisthebest · 27/05/2026 07:27

TotalBaloney · 27/05/2026 07:21

Which part of the PP’s post are you referring to as ‘absolute rubbish’? Because her points about their coats and panting are perfectly accurate.
I have a 2 year old beagle. I wish she’d lain around all day in the heat! Instead she behaved exactly as she normally does… running round the garden with socks she’s stolen out of the laundry basket trying to get us to chase her and thinking it’s the best game ever, for example. Granted she took herself off to the shade to sleep rather than deliberately seeking out the sunniest part of the house and garden like she normally does, but otherwise there was no real change to her behaviour.

You should not let her run round when it is do hot. Dogs don't always do what is best for their health do they? Some dogs lie in hot sun and then get heat stroke.

A friend of mine is a vet nurse and every summer she sees dogs with burnt pads, dogs with heat stroke etc. Sadly some of the dogs with heat stroke die. All because of stupid owners

Neodymium · 27/05/2026 07:26

Geez in Australia we walk dogs at 26 degrees. Maybe 31 you might think twice. What an overreaction. Dogs can pant to keep themselves cool.

TotalBaloney · 27/05/2026 07:23

WildEnergySupplier · 27/05/2026 06:39

Why did you go on holiday and leave your dog in this situation?

The dog should be a member of your family.

Oh come on… there is absolutely nothing wrong with going on holiday and leaving your dog with trusted carers.
DH and I are going away for 3 days without our kids today (they’re staying with grandparents). Doesn’t mean they’re not members of our family.

Imlyingandthatsthetruth · 27/05/2026 07:23

Can't get past "I wouldn’t expect them to be able to walk at 7or 8am as they are in their early seventies"!

MN The home of ageist crap.

TotalBaloney · 27/05/2026 07:21

mydogisthebest · 27/05/2026 07:10

Absolute rubbish. A couple in their 70's may well love hot weather but I can guarantee a dog doesn't.

My dog, after being walked at 7am just lay around all day until walked at 11pm. He never normally just lays around. When he moved he only moved to different spots where he could feel the fan we had on.

Also, unless the 70 year old couple are walking barefoot, the dog should not be walked on hot pavements

Which part of the PP’s post are you referring to as ‘absolute rubbish’? Because her points about their coats and panting are perfectly accurate.
I have a 2 year old beagle. I wish she’d lain around all day in the heat! Instead she behaved exactly as she normally does… running round the garden with socks she’s stolen out of the laundry basket trying to get us to chase her and thinking it’s the best game ever, for example. Granted she took herself off to the shade to sleep rather than deliberately seeking out the sunniest part of the house and garden like she normally does, but otherwise there was no real change to her behaviour.

floatinginacoolpool · 27/05/2026 07:20

Surely the dog needed to go out first thing though? That's the bit that baffes me? Maybe you could have arranged a dog walker to do a 7 am walk if you didn't want to ask your parents.

RedToothBrush · 27/05/2026 07:20

rollinginthedeepsea · 27/05/2026 07:17

Should have specified to only reply if you are in the UK! We follow this rule in the uk which won’t apply to other countries:
No one has ever had shoes for dogs here!!!! Ridiculous people from abroad are commenting!!
Everyone is missing the point, my parents insisted to look after her, I politely asked not to walk and they ignored it. I was a bit miffed. There’s no major argument or fall out, they’re not going to never do the dog again another time or ever not talk to me again. Some of you are so stupid these replies have made me LOL.

Heat stroke kills elderly parents.

Where's your pretty infographic on this?

If they feel okay to go for a walk with a dog, the dog is more than likely going to be ok.

If they think it's too hot for them, their judgement on this is probably going to reflect similar thinking to the dog.

RedToothBrush · 27/05/2026 07:17

There was a health warning issued for high temperatures. This principally is a warning for older people and infants.

Yet your concern isn't for the well being of your elderly parents walking in high temperatures. I note you assume they are already so decrepit that they are unable to get up early in this context.

Instead your concern is for the dog and 'the lack of respect' they have shown towards you for ignoring your request about temperature.

Frankly do you want the dog walked or not? And do you give much of a shiny shit about your parents? They are doing you a favour after all.

You just sound ungrateful and unreasonable.

rollinginthedeepsea · 27/05/2026 07:17

Should have specified to only reply if you are in the UK! We follow this rule in the uk which won’t apply to other countries:
No one has ever had shoes for dogs here!!!! Ridiculous people from abroad are commenting!!
Everyone is missing the point, my parents insisted to look after her, I politely asked not to walk and they ignored it. I was a bit miffed. There’s no major argument or fall out, they’re not going to never do the dog again another time or ever not talk to me again. Some of you are so stupid these replies have made me LOL.

AIBU to be upset my parents walked the dog in this heat?
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mydogisthebest · 27/05/2026 07:10

MyThreeWords · 27/05/2026 06:53

All these threads about walking dogs in hot weather seem to invoke hyperbole about "wearing a fur coat"!

Having fur is not like "wearing a fur coat", any more than having hair is like wearing a wig. (Believe me, I have to wear a wig and it is hot hot hot, in a way that simply having hair is not not not.)

Unless you have acquired a dog that has the kind of heavy coat intended for sub-zero landscapes (in which case, why did you do that?), or you are failing to clip a dog whose coat needs appropriate clipping, it is very likely that your dog's coat is providing him/her with insulation against heat in summer, as well as against cold in winter.

This is why mammals in hot countries are not routinely bald. (Shout-out to elephants and rhinos, though. I'm sure they have their own, distinct, strategies of protection against heat.)

Us usual on these threads, there are also several horrified mentions o of dogs pantingShock! You might just as well be horrified by humans sweating.
Panting serves the same function for dogs that sweating does for humans. Both are a totally fine adaptation to heat, and are not, in themselves, a sign of distress.

I can't see in any of the OP's posts what breed her dog is, how old it is, what health problems it may have. So I'm assuming she feels that no dog should be walked at temps higher than around 20 degrees. I can't for the life of me think why this should apply to dogs in general, any more than it should apply to humans in general.

Unless the OP's dog is one of the unhealthy breeds, or is old or ill, I'm guessing that any temperature-and-activity combo that is comfortable for a couple in their 70s is comfy for the dog. If the OP doesn't trust them to make their own day-to-day commonsense judgements about the dog, it probably wasn't fair on them to ask them to take responsibility for it

Absolute rubbish. A couple in their 70's may well love hot weather but I can guarantee a dog doesn't.

My dog, after being walked at 7am just lay around all day until walked at 11pm. He never normally just lays around. When he moved he only moved to different spots where he could feel the fan we had on.

Also, unless the 70 year old couple are walking barefoot, the dog should not be walked on hot pavements

FastFood · 27/05/2026 07:07

ReadingSoManyThreads · 26/05/2026 23:38

Those dogs are acclimatised to that heat from birth. Dogs in the UK are NOT acclimatised to UK heatwave temperatures. Hence why it's very dangerous for them and dogs do die in the UK during heatwaves.

There have been hot waves for years now, so technically dogs here should be acclimatised too. My dog is heading towards his 3rd summer, all of which had heat waves.