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AIBU to be upset my parents walked the dog in this heat?

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rollinginthedeepsea · 26/05/2026 22:07

My parents are looking after our dog this week whilst we are abroad. They’re not dog owners themselves so I had messaged them a few days ago reminding them to not walk above roughly 20’c with the dog as that’s the rule we go by in summer. I wouldn’t expect them to be able to walk at 7or 8am as they are in their early seventies so presumed they would use common sense and just skip any walks . Checked ring camera for a parcel today and seen they walked our dog at 10.30 in 26’c.
I've called them out on it and they’re acting like I’m being completely over the top and that the dog was fine. AIBU?
The dog is not a risk breed or elderly but I’m upset at the principle of ignoring what I’ve asked.

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sleepwouldbenice · 31/05/2026 21:04

Tryanalogue · 31/05/2026 16:34

Parents should have lied. The dog wouldn’t tell.

Well if there had been an incident then it would be obvious

SixtySomething · 31/05/2026 16:43

Tryanalogue · 31/05/2026 16:34

Parents should have lied. The dog wouldn’t tell.

They were trying to do everything right in their book. Just forgot about OPs rules
I can understand this.

Tryanalogue · 31/05/2026 16:34

Parents should have lied. The dog wouldn’t tell.

sleepwouldbenice · 31/05/2026 16:28

SixtySomething · 31/05/2026 13:43

It I’m saying not everyone, unlike with a younger generation.

Still likely

SixtySomething · 31/05/2026 13:43

sleepwouldbenice · 31/05/2026 13:40

Not really
Plenty of people of that age are perfectly regularly messaging!

It I’m saying not everyone, unlike with a younger generation.

sleepwouldbenice · 31/05/2026 13:40

SixtySomething · 30/05/2026 16:52

Being in their 70s they probably don't naturally think about texting when in doubt. Also don't want to bother OP.

Not really
Plenty of people of that age are perfectly regularly messaging!

category12 · 30/05/2026 17:29

If they're in their 70s it's unlikely they're going to give the dog a strenuous walk.

I think you're massively ungrateful tbh. They're doing you a favour. Dog is fine.

A case of knowing too much through technology. Years gone by you'd happily know nothing about what time your dog got walked.

WiddlinDiddlin · 30/05/2026 17:26

Neolara · 26/05/2026 22:22

Genuine question - people have dogs in hot countries. What happens if you have a dog in Australia or Kenya or somewhere else that's hot for large parts of the year? Are you suggesting these dogs should never get walked?

Such dogs tend to have far less fur and zero undercoat and aren't walked in the heat of the day, in really hot places its typical that no one does anything in the hottest part of the day!

In contrast our dogs in the UK have had to handle a jump from 13c here to nearly 30 in a space of perhaps 36 hours. My dogs are shedding handfuls of winter undercoat, despite me brushing them daily.

Dogs regulate temperature by avoiding activity that raises body heat, via insulation and panting - this is a very inefficient method if you are dragged out on a walk or encouraged to run around in the heat and given no time to acclimatise.

If you look at feral/wild dogs in hot countries they have pretty short coats, so undercoat sheds out easily, laze around in the shade all day and are active at dawn/dusk for the most part.

Glitchymn1 · 30/05/2026 17:24

On the fence, we were on holiday with our dog. I stayed in the rental home for the hottest part of day with dog. We walked her first thing, carried her over hot pavements, it was breezy at the beach, she loved swimming, we carried water for her and a parasol. We would have gone straight back if she had shown any kind of discomfort. She’s a young dog. I don’t think 10.30 is too bad, but depends on the breed etc

Cosyblankets · 30/05/2026 17:18

26 is a bit hot but not walking your dog over 20 degrees? Why? What is going to happen at 20 degrees?
I think the world had gone mad over this. I'm a dog owner and I'll use my common sense. If it's too hot I'll get up early but at the minute not a day goes by without someone posting on Facebook that they saw a dog being walked. You know nothing about them they may have been going 5 min to the patch of grass because they don't have a garden. They may be walking 5 minutes to the woods where it's much cooler.
People need to mInd their own business.

SixtySomething · 30/05/2026 16:52

sleepwouldbenice · 28/05/2026 12:05

Yep

Being in their 70s they probably don't naturally think about texting when in doubt. Also don't want to bother OP.

SixtySomething · 30/05/2026 16:50

rollinginthedeepsea · 26/05/2026 22:07

My parents are looking after our dog this week whilst we are abroad. They’re not dog owners themselves so I had messaged them a few days ago reminding them to not walk above roughly 20’c with the dog as that’s the rule we go by in summer. I wouldn’t expect them to be able to walk at 7or 8am as they are in their early seventies so presumed they would use common sense and just skip any walks . Checked ring camera for a parcel today and seen they walked our dog at 10.30 in 26’c.
I've called them out on it and they’re acting like I’m being completely over the top and that the dog was fine. AIBU?
The dog is not a risk breed or elderly but I’m upset at the principle of ignoring what I’ve asked.

They probably thought your dog needed a wallk.

Empress13 · 30/05/2026 16:09

blackpooolrock · 27/05/2026 14:29

your dog is fine. Dogs have been around for a long time and are out in all kinds of heat all over the world. Yes there will be notices from various charities and whatnot about not doing this and that but they are OTT too. Everyone is overly cautious about everything - its ridiculous, the world is too soft.

YABU to give other adults instructions, i'm sure they can manage without you controlling them. They probably think the same which is why they walked the dog and ignored you.

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Dogs in hot parts of the world are used to those temperatures they are acclimatised dogs here in UK are not given temperatures we are currently experiencing are not the norm ! Go educate yourself God help any dog of yours

PocketSand · 28/05/2026 16:12

I took my dog during the high temperatures to the dog field where he has choice on how he spends the 50 minutes. He walked around the field 1.5 times sticking to the shade and spent the remaining 40-45 minutes lying in the shade. He knows his limits. Obviously most dogs will ignore their limits if they have no choice but to accompany their owners. Although my dog will do the passive lie down flat and refuse to take another step if I don’t get the message.

tiramisugelato · 28/05/2026 14:03

Dunnocantthinkofone · 28/05/2026 11:08

But no one whose dog ends up with heatstroke ever thinks it is their dog who is at risk! If they think of it at all, they conceptually believe it’s a problem that other dogs might have.
obviously some cope better than other, many people get away with it just fine. But no professional is going to advise something potentially risky, are they?

Professionals will ALWAYS err on the side of caution. That's why they tell everyone whose dog has eaten grapes to come in for an emetic. It's why humans are told that all cat and dog bites require medical attention and antibiotics.

My own dog struggles in the heat FWIW so I wouldn't walk him above about 22-23, but I don't feel like it's my place to dictate what others do. OP's parents shouldn't have walked her dog against her wishes but ultimately this is one of the risks of not paying for professional pet care.

sleepwouldbenice · 28/05/2026 12:06

FudgeFudy · 27/05/2026 14:50

26 degrees and people are going on like they chucked the dog in a blast furnace. Given by all accounts the dog was fine that goes to show that the OP was being OTT in the first place and should stop acting like some sort of Oberdoggyfuhrer whose orders must be followed to the letter, whether they make sense or not.

It didn't happen to me doesn't mean the risk doesn't exist

sleepwouldbenice · 28/05/2026 12:05

Fortysevenpl · 28/05/2026 11:34

The problem is that they were asked not to walk the dog in the heat and they did so anyway. They could have texted op saying look the dog is going mental, the heat feels alright for us to take him to a shady area, is that alright?

Yep

sleepwouldbenice · 28/05/2026 12:04

Dunnocantthinkofone · 28/05/2026 11:08

But no one whose dog ends up with heatstroke ever thinks it is their dog who is at risk! If they think of it at all, they conceptually believe it’s a problem that other dogs might have.
obviously some cope better than other, many people get away with it just fine. But no professional is going to advise something potentially risky, are they?

Exactly
And it really isn't only old or ill dogs
At the end of the day its not legal requirement its advice and optional from experts
But, as with many aspects in life, plenty of people just think they know better

OttersOnAPlane · 28/05/2026 11:37

Skybluepinky · 27/05/2026 16:33

If you don’t like the way your parents are poking after your dog pay someone to look after it or take it with you.

Exactly.

They've done you a favour and saved you a lot of money by looking after your dog. How they take care of the dog is up to them.

If you don't like how they do it, pay a professional.

Fortysevenpl · 28/05/2026 11:34

The problem is that they were asked not to walk the dog in the heat and they did so anyway. They could have texted op saying look the dog is going mental, the heat feels alright for us to take him to a shady area, is that alright?

MeridaBrave · 28/05/2026 11:33

I’ve been walking my dog at 6:30am each morning but but 2.30 he’s barking to go out again. I think if you ask your parents to dog sit you just have to let them do it their way.

YetAnotherAlias62 · 28/05/2026 11:27

I agree with OP, it's the principle - they were asked not to walk the dog if it was over 20c and they did it anyway.
And to everyone saying "it was fine for the parents to be out in that heat so it was fine for the dogs" - were the parents walking on hot pavements in bare feet and wearing a fur coat?

OP, just don't ever leave your dog with them again

Dunnocantthinkofone · 28/05/2026 11:08

tiramisugelato · 28/05/2026 10:51

No - it’s proven risk for some dogs, not every dog.

But no one whose dog ends up with heatstroke ever thinks it is their dog who is at risk! If they think of it at all, they conceptually believe it’s a problem that other dogs might have.
obviously some cope better than other, many people get away with it just fine. But no professional is going to advise something potentially risky, are they?

tiramisugelato · 28/05/2026 10:51

sleepwouldbenice · 28/05/2026 09:24

Well yes
Following the advice from experts...isnt compulsory its just sensible?.
No one has said heat exhaustion will happen to every dog at all. Its you that is arguing this
They just dont want to put their dog at evidenced and scientifically proven risk
Its the last word that's key

No - it’s proven risk for some dogs, not every dog.

sleepwouldbenice · 28/05/2026 09:24

tiramisugelato · 28/05/2026 06:58

They issue advice because it’s quite literally their job to warn people of potential dangers. In the same way they post about certain foods being toxic, or certain plants, or warn of the risks of stick injuries etc.

It doesn’t mean that every single dog is at risk of heatstroke as soon as the thermometer reads a certain digit, which is what people seem to have interpreted it to mean.

Well yes
Following the advice from experts...isnt compulsory its just sensible?.
No one has said heat exhaustion will happen to every dog at all. Its you that is arguing this
They just dont want to put their dog at evidenced and scientifically proven risk
Its the last word that's key

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