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AIBU to expect my 17-year-old to get dressed and walk the dog with a meltdown?

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Jimmycooper · 26/05/2026 16:31

To tell teen DD to get out of PJs and take dog for a walk in the good weather?

We’ve had yet another screaming match where she has lashed out with ‘i’ve no friends etc etc etc’

It feels like any time I ask her to do anything or suggest she does anything other than sit in her room , its armageddon and full on tantrums.

I’m absolutely sick of this. She’s 17 and it should not result in a screaming match when it’s suggested she get out of bed.

I know posters will say she’s 17 let her do what she wants - I do and she stays in bed , mopes and gets angry when anyone tries to engage with her.

It’s fucking exhausting. Yes she is neuro diverse, I’ve had years of this and I’d love to know when I can expect the house not to be a battlefield

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Balloonhearts · 26/05/2026 16:43

Shouldn't be walking dogs in this weather. The hot pavement burns their pads. Wait till it's cooler. But yes, at 17 she should be pulling her weight at home and I'd be giving her a few difficult truths about her current sponging lifestyle. She should be looking at jobs or going to uni, not loafing in her room all day like a 12 year old.

icouldholditwithacobweb · 26/05/2026 16:43

I am so baffled that people don't know it's too hot to be walking a dog in this weather - assuming you're in the UK and you are also in the heatwave, it's a recipe for burned paws and possibly heatstroke.

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 26/05/2026 16:42

YABU. Why don't you take the dog out?

Don't expect her to do something you're not willing to do.

BeaPerry · 26/05/2026 16:42

no walking the dog in a heat wave !!

you are getting caught up in the symptoms -
look for the cause

why is she so irritable / isolating / no friends etc

start there - what support / resources does she need ??

BMW58 · 26/05/2026 16:42

OP please don't walk the dog between 10am and 9pm!!!!!!

The pavements are beyond scorching and every chance the dog will burn his/her paws.

Walk very early or very late. If you're not sure put your bare foot on the pavement to test it. If it's too hot for you it's too hot for a dog.

Allmarbleslost · 26/05/2026 16:41

Where do you live op? It's 32 degrees here and way too hot to walk a dog

WallaceinAnderland · 26/05/2026 16:41

It's too hot for either her or the dog to be out walking and definitely too hot for arguments

Stressmummy12 · 26/05/2026 16:41

I wouldn’t be walking the dog in this heat, are you crazy the poor dog will overheat and their paws would burn on the floor like let the dog rest with their cool water never mind the 17 year old Jesus

RudolphTheReindeer · 26/05/2026 16:40

Well its about 10 bajillion degrees out today so probably not the best time for your dd or dog to go for a walk.

SinceYouSaySo · 26/05/2026 16:40

No. 17 year olds don't get to do what they want when they live under my roof. Don't care if they're ND. They don't do it with other people so it's not an excuse.

On a separate point, it's possibly too hot to walk the dog, atm.

Go make her clean a bathroom, instead!

puppycuddles · 26/05/2026 16:39

I'm more worried about the dog right now. Where are you living? It's 27 degrees celsius where I am, there's no way I'd bring my dog out now, early morning and evening only when it's not so hot.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/05/2026 16:38

Ah op its too hot for that, let her stay horizontal and try again when its cooler x

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