AIBU for not thanking drivers for stopping at crossings?

@PedestrianAbuse I'm still fascinated to know whether you limit your 'thank yous' to those doing something voluntarily? Do you thank people who are paid to give a service? Like waiting staff, shop assistants, doctors, nurses?

@randomchap

You asked a question on a board called Am I Being Unreasonable, and now are getting miffed that people are saying you're being unreasonable.
Did you mean to post the question on the Just Validate Me board?

100% this.

Why ask AIBU, and then give a dozen reasons why you think you AREN'T?

The vast majority of posters on this thread are saying YABU @PedestrianAbuse and yet still you're like 'yeah but yeah but...' Just accept that you MAY be in the wrong.

@BuildbyNumbere

If you are so adamant you are in the right, why on earth are you asking on here? You obviously doubt yourself … are unfortunately you sound like you are being rude.

As this poster said ^ you must know on some level that you are being rude, (and are in the wrong,) or you wouldn't have felt the need to ask on here!

Two thirds of 833 voters (so far) have voted for YABU, and most people commenting are saying you are too! Hopefully this is giving you some food for thought, and you will be a bit more polite going forward.......

Do you live your whole life in such a transactional way?
Do you never consider the bigger picture of how simple actions can have a big impact?
When the car stops st the crossing, do you not look at them and acknowledge them? Do you not say thank you when a waiter puts your meal in front of you or a shop assistant hands you your purchase?
If you've paid for a service do you not still say thank you?
How sad for us all if everyone behaved like you.

It's clearly important enough for you to not bother thanking drivers stopping. Very bizarre and most drivers would think ignorant sod so crack on. Any regular driver, who you didn't thank might recognise you the next time and not bother. That's how consideration and acknowledgement work.

You asked a question on a board called Am I Being Unreasonable, and now are getting miffed that people are saying you're being unreasonable.

Did you mean to post the question on the Just Valifade Me board?

It's not about gratitude. It's about acknowledging other people who interact (even minimally) with you. The driver saw you, acknowledged your desire to cross so stopped the car. In return you acknowledge the driver by looking at them and smiling or raising your hand.
Both are simple acts of politeness within a civilised society.

No OP, it's weird that you don't see courtesy is courtesy no matter what the situation, as is ignorance.

It’s just etiquette, it doesn’t have to make sense. There are loads of social norms you don’t have to participate in, but why would you not just do it?

Drivers thank drivers too. It just makes things nicer. It makes people more likely to be courteous to each other in future because people like to be acknowledged.

I just don’t get why anyone would opt out of something so small that takes no effort whatsoever. You’d have to train yourself not to, as it is the norm everywhere

So if you see other cars driving over the crossing like dicks, surely that's even more reason to acknowledge those that don't. Do you drive - do you thank other drivers when they let you out into the main traffic? That's the similarity I'm seeing here. In both cases, neither is really obliged to be considerate.

Of you're too lazy to raise your hand, maybe you could smile at them. It's ignorant not to acknowledge somebody else's courtesy.

What do you mean? Saying thank you has always been the norm. I've lived more than 6 decades and thanking other people has been standard throughout my life including bus drivers, cars stopping etc.
It's sad that people not longer take the miniscule effort to acknowledge other people around them by smiling or raising a hand when the other person has done something like stopping at a crossing.That sort of micro contact can have a massive impact on communities.
I think it's equally sad that the driver would feel entitled to shout at a pedestrian that didn't say thank you.
In my book yabu @PedestrianAbuse but so was he.

If you are so adamant you are in the right, why on earth are you asking on here? You obviously doubt yourself … are unfortunately you sound like you are being rude.

Holding doors is a favour that should be thanked. As a driver I always thank people who let me through a passing place and expect thanks the other way round.

Still annoys me when thanked by pedestrians on crossings. I haven't done them a favour and thanking me implies it is a favour which implies it is optional to stop which makes it more likely next time I'm a pedestrian someone might not stop.

Every time I stop at a crossing I look away into my rear view mirror so I can't catch a thank you wave as it annoys me so much.

I like to thank drivers for not mowing me/my child down, the same way I thank someone for holding a door.
it’s really not a big deal to give a little wave

Without fail, I always shout at these ignorant people, usually something like

"Thank You ,Ignorant!"

I feel it is my duty to educate people who are playing their part in dragging society down tiny bit by tiny bit.

There is no excuse. It is ignorant to not say thank you or smile or wave.

If I hold a door open and someone goes through without so much as looking at me, I say "Pardon. I didn't catch that." They usually say something along the lines of "I didn't say anything" and I reply, "Sorry. I thought you said Thank You."

If you are one of those looking for excuses not to acknowledge cars stopping or doors being held for you, then you are pig ignorant.

You can dress up an excuse any way you like, it doesn't work. Oink Oink to you.