AIBU for not thanking drivers for stopping at crossings?

Oh I see you didn't tag me this time, perhaps because you wanted the last word?

I wasn't wrong about anything. I know the Highway Code inside out, I have to, because of my job. I would not be able to keep my job without continuing to know it inside out.

As I said before, I wrote "at" instead of "on", so fucking what? It doesn't mean that I don't know the law. The whole post is about using the crossings, so it's fair to say that I was talking about them being in use.

YOU are the only one who has twisted things, you actually lied by claiming I said "give way", when I never uttered those words.

You have such an audacity and a concerning incessant need to be right. I suggest you seek a therapist for that.

Again, depends!

if someone served me without any conversation beyond grunting at me, has a face like bulldog chewing a wasp and just kind of threw my things at me then no, they absolutely would not get a thank you.

engaging in polite conversation, service with a smile and friendly demeanour - of course I’d say thank you.

Depends.

if it’s bust, lots of vehicles and other pedestrians it would be a bit ridiculous to nod and wave at all of them.

if I’m a lone pedestrian and one solitary car stops for me then yes, I’d probably acknowledge the driver.

So if someone serves you in a shop or restaurant you don't say thank you? Because that isn't out of kindness, it's their job. It's generally considered desirable to express thanks though.

Oh I completely agree there have been many responses on this thread that have baffled me simply because I can't understand the amount of passion people have to this fairly benign topic lol I was more making the point that the OP has conducted herself well in her responses to some comments that have been I'm sure not pleasant to read about ones self even if you are aware these are strangers making up stories about your life

Its just nice to be nice, no?

There's been some bonkers responses on this thread and it's not been from the majority saying the OP is being unreasonable.

@PedestrianAbuse I just wanted to say thank you for a very interesting thread. It's something I've never given much thought to before and its been fascinating to read how passionate some PP are about the subject!

I usually do give a head nod/wave but I don't notice if people do the same when I'm the driver rather than the pedestrian and the two people who yelled at you are clearly wrong.

For what its worth I have enjoyed your polite and reasonable responses to those attempting to assassinate your character!

Err, no. You realised you were wrong and instead of admitting it you've tried to twist your first post, which you tagged me into. If you had meant for the law only to apply when the pedestrian was on the crossing, you would have said it. So no, drivers do not have to stop otherwise but are required to.

So because I wrote "at" instead of "on", you're hell bent on being a pedant?

Stop being so silly and grow up. By "at" I meant using it, yes, I should have been clearer for those who need extra help in understanding things.

What a leap to suggest I find another job, just because you decided to claim I said things that I didn't i.e. "give way", which was never even mentioned. Do you always lie in order to attempt to prove your point?

So what do you think stop means in these circumstances?

So no, you weren't clear at all @PeachMelbaYoghurt I suggest you find another job.

Exactly - no mention of "give way".

This is exactly what you wrote:

But it isn't courtesy. Drivers legally have to stop for pedestrians at zebra crossings.
It's a lawful requirement, they are not stopping out of courtesy, they are stopping in order to comply with the law.

Nope, I did not say that, I never mentioned "give way", so you've got me mixed up with someone else. Believe me, I'm well aware of the rules of the road, I have to be, for my job!

You said it was a legal requirement to give way when it isn't. If you think that and the OP does, no wonder you can't see why thanks are needed. It is only a requirement when the pedestrian has stepped onto the crossing for obvious reasons not when they are waiting at the curb.

I'm aware of the that, and although I wasn't specific, that's what I meant by pedestrians at zebra crossings. Baring in mind what the thread is about, as in why would a pedestrian not using the zebra crossing be saying thanks, I thought my comment was clear - clearly not.

Does the highway code say drivers have to stop?

They don't have to stop at all. Only if a pedestrian is already on the crossing.

But it isn't courtesy. Drivers legally have to stop for pedestrians at zebra crossings.

It's a lawful requirement, they are not stopping out of courtesy, they are stopping in order to comply with the law.

It's polite but I don't get angry if someone didn't thank me..I'd just shrug and carry on with my day. You have to stop so what difference does it make?

They are being unreasonable, they may WANT to be thanked and many people may give them a quick wave of the hand but there is no requirement to thank them and they’re only doing what the Highway Code requires of them. I bet they’re the sort of people who give way to other cars when they’ve got right of way and hold up all the traffic behind them unnecessarily!

This is all car motornormativity in action.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motonormativity

Its a motor (ha!) reflex 🫠🫥