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My manager has banned all vests, skirts and shorts

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itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:32

I could cry right now.

I understand banning thin strapped vests but surely thick straps are fine? She’s also banned all shorts (including knee length) and skirts that sit at the knee. Basically we have to go down to ankle length trousers.

AIBU to genuinely consider quitting my job? Her office is air conditioned but we’re in a horrible hot sun trap!

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CatA27 · 27/05/2026 20:12

BridgetJonesV2 · 26/05/2026 13:36

Sorry but no one wants exposed arm pits out in this heat. I'm with her on that.

Because exposed armpits smell worse than ones wrapped in polyester?

LlynTegid · 27/05/2026 20:12

Summer has happened every year since the end of the ice age. The impact of the climate crisis has been felt for at least 20 years.

Changing expectations about what is acceptable to wear in an office should have been done long before anyone started buying summer clothes, at the very least.

Also, without asking the OPs job, I wonder if for part of this week it could have been done from home?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/05/2026 20:06

WhatMyNameis · 27/05/2026 19:14

I know, right?!

WTF - armpit hair inappropriate??!! 🤣🤣🤣
Oh good lord! What is it with people and YOUR NATURAL FUCKING STATE OF BEING?

I don’t like seeing armpit hair on men or women - and if it is sweaty, I like it even less - but that is completely a ‘me’ problem, and I simply don’t have to look.

RitaIncognita · 27/05/2026 19:58

Jayne35 · 27/05/2026 18:51

Some catering jobs say no perfume, and hospitality, can't stand waiting staff walking round in a cloud of perfume or aftershave.

Perfume can trigger migraines and other conditions in some people. That's why some workplaces request that people not use it. The last several conferences I have attended had guidelines suggesting that people not wear perfume.

Btowngirl · 27/05/2026 19:49

Feels mad to me you’re so bothered about it when it sounds like you have quite a sedentary job anyway? Does a tshirt sleeve really make you that much hotter? My uniform remains the same whether it’s summer or winter, we don’t have air con and I just don’t see the huge issue?

Gettingbysomehow · 27/05/2026 19:42

I wore shorts with my NHS tunic today but they were knee length as per dress policy and I shaved my legs.
I wear llama leggings cropped joggers. They look very smart in black. Worn with smart black clogs and trainer socks. So much cooler than my normal trousers and trainers and totally dress code.

ScartlettSole · 27/05/2026 19:40

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:49

Why are my shoulders or knees “inappropriate”? I just don’t get it 😂

They aren't. Your clothing has absolutely no bearing on your ability to do your job unless it's safety equipment like a fire fighter. Folk just get their knickers (or bloomers as I guessing knickers are somehow inappropriate) in a twist for nothing. Who actually gives a shit about a shoulder or a knee being visible 😂

bafta16 · 27/05/2026 19:37

YoBetty · 26/05/2026 14:59

No, they start work at silly am, then everything shuts for a siesta during the hottest part of the day.

I suppose some women must work in the heat of the day?

Delici · 27/05/2026 19:34

You would rather quit than wear short sleeves and a slightly longer skirt?

Possiblyfamous · 27/05/2026 19:30

Sennelier1 · 27/05/2026 18:16

My young daughter (she was 11 at the time) was once told her top was indecent. Yes it was sleeveless but really just what you describe as "the sleeves cut of". Full shoulder width, regular neckline, regular lenght. Nothing sexualizing at all. They made her wear her PE sweater - in a heatwave - untill she fainted. Only then did they call me to pick her up. And even then they belittled me about the bad choice of clothing - because of the reputation of their school?!?! I just took my child and left. And then I denounced the school to the right authorities for moral cruelty and bigotry.

Sigh….

Rose213 · 27/05/2026 19:29

Some strange responses on here from people who are against wearing lighter clothing during a heatwave in an a hot office... I wonder if some people are self conscious in how they look and are projecting their insecurities on others?

maxslice · 27/05/2026 19:29

Cob81 · 27/05/2026 18:30

Nobody under the age of 80 uses the word frock for good reason 😂

I find the word “frock” charming. It elevates the ordinary.

Possiblyfamous · 27/05/2026 19:28

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 17:44

Do looks matter more than getting the work done, and well?

What’s more important?

Both matter in a work context surely you can see that?

maxslice · 27/05/2026 19:27

ByGraptharsHammer · 26/05/2026 13:41

Probably a mercy on people’s eyeballs. Buy a kaftan

Much too beachy casual.

Shellyshep · 27/05/2026 19:26

I completely agree with her on vests, not professional in a work environment but T shirts or capped sleeves should be fine and you are literally talking about an inch or two of extra material on your shoulders. Not sure why she would have a problem with skirts to the knee though. Short skirts I can understand. Dresses to the knee are also perfectly acceptable imo I would just call sick saying the heat in the office has given you a migraine and you can’t possibly come to work until it’s worn off (which will coincide with the weather cooling down!) as a migraine sufferer if I worked in a boiling hot office I would definitely be vomiting and unable to lift my head/ open my eyes from a crippling migraine

sweetpickle2 · 27/05/2026 19:19

Washingupdone · 27/05/2026 18:40

Sorry, but when I was working we had to wear stockings or tights, blouses and knee length skirts in the 1976 heatwave and there was no air con in the prefab office I worked in.. HR did come round every so often to insist we drank the tap water they provided, there was no bottled water in those days.
Men also wore long sleeved shirts, short ones were not in fashion, thought sissy.

We also used to shit in holes in the ground. It's okay for things to move on.

LilyCanna · 27/05/2026 19:17

whoopsnomore · 27/05/2026 18:53

Unfortunately managers have to assume that everyone needs the guidance that in fact only a few staff members need - without clear guidelines some people will turn up in hotpants and strappy tops and flipflops. In many ways the majority "suffer" the consequences of the few who just don't get it. (FWIW loose light fabrics are cooler that jersey/t-shirt fabrics and tighter clothing - look at typical clothing in consistently hot countries)

A few people have made this argument on this thread. It boils down to:

  1. Some people might stretch the rules and wear clothes which are too casual to work
  2. This would cause no actual harm, the roles we’re talking about aren’t customer facing
  3. It would however require managers getting involved in explanations and possibly arguments
  4. It would be unreasonable to expect managers to manage, so instead they need to have a blanket ban on perfectly reasonable clothes for all employees on the basis that sleeveless tops or sandals are a slippery slope to bikini tops and hotpants in the office.
Soberinthecity · 27/05/2026 19:16

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:39

We don’t see the public at all

so you don't see the public...she has an airconditioned office....it was 35degs in London yesterday....What is her problem? Totally unnecessary. No-one is suggesting you turn up in beach wear but for goodness' sake, where is her humanity? Loose fitting linen dresses should be fine, no? Thank god I don't work in an office environment. People lose their shit over body parts, it's ridiculous.

Pinkocsb · 27/05/2026 19:15

Washingupdone · 27/05/2026 19:08

True, but we didn’t moan about the weather so much.

We didn’t have global warming so much then either!

WhatMyNameis · 27/05/2026 19:14

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 14:09

Why is my armpit hair inappropriate?

I know, right?!

WTF - armpit hair inappropriate??!! 🤣🤣🤣
Oh good lord! What is it with people and YOUR NATURAL FUCKING STATE OF BEING?

Washingupdone · 27/05/2026 19:08

SleeplessInWherever · 27/05/2026 19:00

That’s all well and good, but it’s not 1976.

True, but we didn’t moan about the weather so much.

LaurieFairyCake · 27/05/2026 19:05

The bottom line is you need to comply with the written dress code NOT your managers mad ramblings

I would literally wear sandals (not prohibited), a knee length skirt (not prohibited) and your t shirt (AGAIN, not prohibited).

Any attempt at being told off I would send an email copying in HR stating your complying with the dress code.

I literally wouldn’t put up with this, it’s too hot and you’re a fucking adult who can read a clothing policy.

Basically, fuck that fucking shit.

ThatCyanCat · 27/05/2026 19:03

Washingupdone · 27/05/2026 18:40

Sorry, but when I was working we had to wear stockings or tights, blouses and knee length skirts in the 1976 heatwave and there was no air con in the prefab office I worked in.. HR did come round every so often to insist we drank the tap water they provided, there was no bottled water in those days.
Men also wore long sleeved shirts, short ones were not in fashion, thought sissy.

So what?

MummyWillow1 · 27/05/2026 19:01

Strappy vest tops being banned is reasonable, and short shorts. But banning shorts and skirts above the knee in general is crazy!

Below finger tip length is generally acceptable.

Dottywootill · 27/05/2026 19:01

I think your top is lovely and well done for making it. Screw what everyone else thinks and wear what you like, if it makes you feel good then all the better!
Your boss is being a dick! This heat is not easy on anyone, they could turn a blind eye temporarily. (I work for healthcare too).