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My manager has banned all vests, skirts and shorts

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itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:32

I could cry right now.

I understand banning thin strapped vests but surely thick straps are fine? She’s also banned all shorts (including knee length) and skirts that sit at the knee. Basically we have to go down to ankle length trousers.

AIBU to genuinely consider quitting my job? Her office is air conditioned but we’re in a horrible hot sun trap!

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Ceramiq · 26/05/2026 14:49

I don't want to see anyone's armpit if I'm not at the beach, pool or a very dressy and appropriately cool occasion.

tokennamechange · 26/05/2026 14:48

Yabu for exaggerating and saying that the only option she's left you with are ankle length trousers, there's still a lot of scope for outfits that dont include vest and shorts that are both cool and work appropriate. If you're not customer facing you could just pull a longer skirt up to your knees anyway when sitting at a desk or whatever and get the same amount of bare skin.

She is being unreasonable by going so OTT given you aren't customer facing and its only hot like this a few days a year. And also by keeping a lovely air con office to herself while the rest of the staff are sweltering.

Tbh if its that bad id just pull a sicky next time its really hot - Im not someone who does that often (haven't had a sick day since I had covid in 2021) but fuck it, if the workplace is going to treat me like a naughty schoolchild by measuring hemlengths they don't then get pure professionalism back in return!

Bigcat25 · 26/05/2026 14:48

I think the whole department should pile into her office until the aircon situation can be resolved.

BountifulPantry · 26/05/2026 14:47

I don’t think your top is smart enough OP- sorry.

If it were a Tailored sleeveless top (like a shirt with a collar, just sleeveless, or something like this, I think that’s office appropriate:

Lavenderflower · 26/05/2026 14:47

I don t think shorts are appropriate. Vest tops can be okay depending on the style.

daisychain01 · 26/05/2026 14:46

skirts that sit at the knee

so what's wrong with a midi length? Which is about calf length.

why quit a job just because your manager doesn't want beachwear in the office? Jobs aren't that easy to find.

YourWildAmberSloth · 26/05/2026 14:46

I agree about vests and shorts - sorry - I don't think they belong in an office environment. If she's had to ban certain items, I suspect its been in response to some people wearing inappropriate styles. It's something that we are notoriously bad at in the UK - dressing for work in hot weather. Whereas in hot countries, on the continent for example, they seem capable of dressing for the weather and still looking professional.
The issue is the temperature in the office, this can be raised with HR.

MeltyMomenrs · 26/05/2026 14:46

Ineedanewsofa · 26/05/2026 13:53

Your manager has clearly been burnt before by trying to be reasonable and had some pisstaker swan in wearing a boob tube and nike pro shorts so they’ve gone draconian this time.
FWIW our dress code is “heads, shoulders, knees and toes” - only the first one should be uncovered at work regardless of sex. Easy to remember and impossible to query really.

Why have knees suddenly becone an issue.

theyre just bloody joints in the middle of your legs , they'll be insisting elbows are covered next.

Tryagain26 · 26/05/2026 14:45

Meadowfinch · 26/05/2026 13:44

It sounds like you can wear maxi or midi skirts and dresses. Short sleeve blouses. Linen trousers.

I can understand why vests are banned. No-one wants to see other people's armpits. Nor bare thighs and cleavage. It's hardly professional.

As long as she does the job what does it matter what she wears? it's not a public facing role.
It's a very old fashioned attitude.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 26/05/2026 14:45

I'd start with a H&S complaint about working in 35 degrees. I know a top temperature is not mandated yet but it's in the post legislatively. There are still employer obligations to manage heat and this is from the HSE website. If none of this is happening then you have grounds to complain about multiple things, not just a sleeveless blouse which on the face of it I would wear and simply say that it's not a vest. Because it's not.

When people are too hot
You can help ensure people are comfortable in warm conditions:

  • Provide fans, such as desk, pedestal or ceiling-mounted ones
  • Provide air-cooling or air-conditioning and adequate ventilation
  • Ensure windows can be opened to keep air circulating
  • Shade employees from direct sunlight with blinds or by using reflective film on windows
  • Position workstations away from direct sunlight or sources of heat
  • Place insulating materials around hot plant and pipes
  • Provide cold water dispensers (water is better than caffeine or carbonated drinks)
You can also change work arrangements to avoid people getting too hot:
  • Introduce flexible working patterns, such as job rotation, moving workers to cooler parts of the building where possible
  • Allow enough breaks to allow workers to get cold drinks or cool down
  • Relax formal dress codes – but make sure personal protective equipment is used if required

Overview - Ventilation in the workplace

Employers must make sure there is adequate ventilation in enclosed areas of their workplace.

https://www.hse.gov.uk/ventilation/index.htm

Lifelover16 · 26/05/2026 14:44

Where do you work?

Many people have no choice and have to wear uniform and/or PPE - firefighters, police, nurses, doctors, retail , hospitality. Be grateful you don’t have to do that. I don’t think shorts and vest tops are appropriate for a professional workplace.

PurpleLovecats · 26/05/2026 14:43

I’d just wear a maxi dress?

MeltyMomenrs · 26/05/2026 14:43

Thiswasanescapeplan · 26/05/2026 13:52

Can you get facilities to come and do a room temp audit on health and safety grounds? She's being ridiculous.

This too. The sooner the maximum temperature is brought into law the better!!

Shoopshawady · 26/05/2026 14:41

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:51

It’s 35 degrees in the office right now?

Then you don’t have to work. Check NHS health and safety working guidelines. They can’t make you work like that!

JohnofWessex · 26/05/2026 14:39

I would make a complaint to Health & Safety and HR.

Personally I would like to see it a legal requirement that if employers have either a dress code or staff uniform there should be a proper Health & Safety assessment

MeltyMomenrs · 26/05/2026 14:39

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:48

It’s unclear. She’s suggested ankle length is “most appropriate”

@itsjustthepricewepay

HR

you work for the NHS not her little tin pot dictatorship.

This woman is enforcing her own cultural or religious beliefs on your department & needs shoving back in her box!

youlied · 26/05/2026 14:39

any vest top is not appropriate in the workplace. No one wants to see armpits

Greenwitchart · 26/05/2026 14:38

Shorts, vests, mini skirts and flip flops I would understand.

But regular skirts? I don't see anything wrong with that.

Also does this banning of certain clothes only applies to female employees or have men also been issued with similar requirements?

Tortephant · 26/05/2026 14:37

Not getting it OP. proper linen trousers are cooler than shorts. Wear natural fabrics and buy a hand held old fashioned paper fan.

MeltyMomenrs · 26/05/2026 14:36

CoverLikelyZebra · 26/05/2026 13:47

Fine for the beach or park, inappropriate for office wear. And likewise any clothing on the lower body that leaves knees uncovered while sitting is inappropriate for office wear. The same is true for either sex. Yabu. Of course you aren't limited to sweltering clothes. There are plenty of options in thin breathable natural fabrics. There are loads of countries where it is at least this hot all.the time and covering up to the ankle and wrist is normal and the people there aren't sweltering all the time they are wearing clothes that are appropriate

Knees being seen when your sitting is an issue??

I think 1950 is calling for you.

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 26/05/2026 14:36

I would leave any job where the manager was so controlling. If you’re not public facing in the heatwave she should be encouraging you to dress for comfort, within reason (public decency). But the replies show how stuck in a corporate mindset people are.

Auroraloves · 26/05/2026 14:34

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:45

I’m nhs too.

Me too, we have no air con in our stuffy office and sky light windows which let the sun in but no air flow.

can you wear a light cover up over a vest?

MostlyChickpeas · 26/05/2026 14:30

The shirt is fine.

I'm working from home in a bikini and just keep pulling on a floaty shirt for calls on cam.

SylvanMoon · 26/05/2026 14:29

Are you in a unionised workplace? If so, the reps should be raising this as a H&S issue, especially as there is no front-facing need for it. If not, is there a senior manager above your immediate one that you could collectively make a plea to? It's so unseasonably hot and if the company is not making provisions to keep the office at a reasonable working temperature, they should allow people to self-regulate via clothing.

Tiddlywinks63 · 26/05/2026 14:29

LindorDoubleChoc · 26/05/2026 14:24

I think the top is fine but not sure about the trousers for work OP? They look like what I would call holiday wear = very casual. In my last job I wasn't client facing and there was no dress code. I could (and did) wear jeans in the winter. In the summer it would be plain linen trousers (not cut offs because they make short people like me look even shorter) or very occasionally a dress with short sleeves. I never get the tops of my arms out (I don't own any sleeveless garments) and I don't think I suffer more with the heat because of this. Those few inches of fabric aren't going to make a difference.

I agree.
When I managed a large countywide charity the dress code was shoulders and above knee level covered.. I had a male employee who thought showing his hairy torso wearing a vest top with running shorts was appropriate. It definitely wasn’t.
I also provided deodorant and body wipes in the toilets and made sure everyone had cold drinks etc.
I would wear midi or maxi, short sleeve dresses or wide leg linen trousers with a short sleeve top.
Sandals were allowed.