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My manager has banned all vests, skirts and shorts

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itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:32

I could cry right now.

I understand banning thin strapped vests but surely thick straps are fine? She’s also banned all shorts (including knee length) and skirts that sit at the knee. Basically we have to go down to ankle length trousers.

AIBU to genuinely consider quitting my job? Her office is air conditioned but we’re in a horrible hot sun trap!

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OriginalSkang · 26/05/2026 15:23

Staff (not me, I have to say) wear boob tubes at my place of work sometimes (a university). No one bats an eyelid

Some people are stuck in the 1950s

britnay · 26/05/2026 15:22

omg, so glad I work from home now. I'm wearing a strappy vest top and short shorts. No one bats an eyelid on our work video calls.
If you're not customer-facing, why does it even matter?!

LilyCanna · 26/05/2026 15:21

Seriously, although there is no maximum workplace temperature in the UK, the WHO recommends 24C as the maximum temperature for working in comfort, so above this, employers should be taking measures to mitigate heat impacts. Employers have responsibility for their employees’ health and safety.

Personally I think that there is nothing unacceptable about knees, shoulders or toes anyway and to ban cool clothing in a non-customer facing job is ridiculous. But it’s definitely ridiculous that your boss has an air conditioned office but expects her minions to work at 35C. Push back!

owlpassport · 26/05/2026 15:20

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 15:06

It’s fine, I wear normal t-shirts to work. Not everyone is in a corporate setting

Well it's clearly not fine, since your manager has had to implement rules about vests. I think PP was being polite and I agree that a tailored top would look smart enough, even if sleeveless. A cotton t-shirt type top is just about fine (depends on condition/thickness/bobbling etc). Combine the two so you have a casual cotton sleeveless top, and it starts to drop under the threshold for office appropriate. IMO. And obviously in your manager's opinion too.

WellyBellyBoo · 26/05/2026 15:19

Vests and shorts shorts definitely reasonable to ban them. The knee length shorts or knee length skirt would be fine in my office. The issue is that if you say no strappy vests but allow others you'll get people who push the boundaries and the poor boss ends up being clothes police rather than doing their jobs. Sometimes rules have to be a bit blunt to avoid those who will take the Mick.

SpanishFlea · 26/05/2026 15:18

SleeplessInWherever · 26/05/2026 15:03

I am genuinely staggered by how many people have an armpit aversion.

Who knew!

This! To me they're about as offensive as the curve at the back of a knee 😂 (mind you some people on this thread also find knees offensive so... 🤷🏻‍♀️). Or maybe some people smell with their eyes?

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 26/05/2026 15:15

im surprised this hasn’t been an issue in the past, I’ve never had an office job where vest tops have been smart enough to wear - although sleeveless blouses usually are ok.

what you need OP is some midi dresses with flutter sleeves so they’ve not tight round your armpits.

Cotton or viscose, polyester will be too sweaty and linen will need too much ironing in this heat. Do you have a Sainsbury’s near you? Something like this would work: https://tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/product/tuc148014311

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 26/05/2026 15:14

LilyCanna · 26/05/2026 15:13

Maybe they’re occasionally getting up for a mass rendition of YMCA? Otherwise no idea…

Nobody at your office ever reaches up to a shelf, or stretches during a phone call at their desk?

TheBloomingDahlia · 26/05/2026 15:14

Exposed arm pits 😂 A normal and non-sexual part of the body that naturally grows hair. If it’s that they smell, the office shouldn’t be hot enough to be making everyone sweat enough to smell

sweetpickle2 · 26/05/2026 15:14

BridgetJonesV2 · 26/05/2026 13:36

Sorry but no one wants exposed arm pits out in this heat. I'm with her on that.

Would you rather sweaty pit stains?

LilyCanna · 26/05/2026 15:13

OriginalSkang · 26/05/2026 15:11

What are people doing at their desks if you are seeing armpits?!

Edit: Not that I care about seeing armpits, I'm just surprised anyone is actually seeing them

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Maybe they’re occasionally getting up for a mass rendition of YMCA? Otherwise no idea…

Tonissister · 26/05/2026 15:13

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:39

The office is so hot that any extra clothing is unbearable. Like 10° hotter than outside

I think you should ask for some air con to be installed. They can get plug in temporary air con. Ask her to come into the office where you work for an extended period to see why people have been dressing more casually.

If she wants you to look professsional, then the work environment needs to be professional too and sweatshop conditions are not.

OriginalSkang · 26/05/2026 15:13

Hellieboar · 26/05/2026 15:12

Vests are not smart or even decent.

😂Okay, Mary Whitehouse 😁

SleeplessInWherever · 26/05/2026 15:13

Hellieboar · 26/05/2026 15:12

Vests are not smart or even decent.

Vest tops are indecent 😂😂😂

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 15:12

Hellieboar · 26/05/2026 15:12

Vests are not smart or even decent.

Differing opinions

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Hellieboar · 26/05/2026 15:12

Vests are not smart or even decent.

ProfessionalPirate · 26/05/2026 15:12

Sittingonthefence83 · 26/05/2026 13:38

I sympathise 😞 I’d hate to have to wear trousers as all I wear are skirts and skirts on the knee don’t flatter me at all.

Why no sleeveless tops either though? Does she hate peoples upper arms?

While a sleeveless top can certainly be smart, probably just easier to have a blanket ban than have people making their own interpretation and getting it wrong. It’s a shame but I imagine it will be a small minority pushing boundaries that’s ruining it for the rest of them.

I have minimal sympathy though, in my line of work I often need to be in full length trousers with waterproof over trousers, wellies, parlour top and out in direct sun!

TheCurious0range · 26/05/2026 15:11

BauhausOfEliott · 26/05/2026 14:16

Some ludicrous responses on this thread.

It astonishes me how many Mumsnetters have astonishingly outdated views about what is 'appropriate' and 'professional' in the average office.

In most offices, nobody gives a flying fuck if they see a woman's shoulders. I'm 50 and in my 28 years of working in offices, I've never worked anywhere that banned sleeveless tops. Even in my first job, which was the most formal place I've ever worked, we wore sleeveless tops and had bare legs with skirts in summer. My colleagues and I wore tailored 'city shorts' to the office when they were fashionable about 20 years ago without so much as a raised eyebrow.

It also stuns me how many Mumsnetters seem to think that just because they're repulsed by the mere hint of a bare human limb, that somehow means everyone has to dress like they're extras in The Handmaid's Tale to spare them their physical nausea at the sight of an armpit or something.

OP, your boss is a complete arsehole.

I'm not allowed to wear sleeveless tops, or low cut, high neck is preferred, also nothing above the knee and no footwear that shows toes. I do work with sex offenders though

OriginalSkang · 26/05/2026 15:11

What are people doing at their desks if you are seeing armpits?!

Edit: Not that I care about seeing armpits, I'm just surprised anyone is actually seeing them

Solaitt · 26/05/2026 15:10

BridgetJonesV2 · 26/05/2026 13:36

Sorry but no one wants exposed arm pits out in this heat. I'm with her on that.

What’s wrong with an exposed armpit?

FFS people like you are pathetic.

OriginalSkang · 26/05/2026 15:09

I'm so glad to be in my airconned office wearing shorts and a vest!

'Office wear' is the absolute worst

SleeplessInWherever · 26/05/2026 15:09

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 15:05

Yeah it’s all well and good saying dressing well makes us do more work, but we all feel so lightheaded that we can’t concentrate!

I don’t think dressing well has the slightest impact on performance or work ethic, to be honest.

I think people work best when they’re comfortable, and as happy as they can be. Which sweat beads dripping onto your desk isn’t going to give you.

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 15:06

BountifulPantry · 26/05/2026 14:47

I don’t think your top is smart enough OP- sorry.

If it were a Tailored sleeveless top (like a shirt with a collar, just sleeveless, or something like this, I think that’s office appropriate:

It’s fine, I wear normal t-shirts to work. Not everyone is in a corporate setting

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TeenLifeMum · 26/05/2026 15:06

itsjustthepricewepay · 26/05/2026 13:45

I’m nhs too.

NHS is really clear about rules. Technically you should have rights with any skirt and must be knee length - hot weather tights can be removed but only with chief nurse’s permission (this is for nurses but as agenda for change pay covers nurses and admin, rules are the same). I’ve known variation in managers but if nurses can cope on the wards, admin can cope. Men still wear trousers in nhs admin roles.

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 26/05/2026 15:05

SleeplessInWherever · 26/05/2026 15:03

I am genuinely staggered by how many people have an armpit aversion.

Who knew!

I don’t have an aversion to armpits, but I don’t particularly want to see people’s armpit hair in an office.

That would be horrendously intrusive to write a policy about, so I think probably better to just say no sleeveless tops for anyone!